[kay1212]

I left my last boyrfriend because our sex life sucked. My new boyfriend knows that I left my ex because I was "bored." After we finished having sex the other day he asked me " was that good baby?" Can you be satified just having sex with me?" I responded with "yes of course can you?" and he said yes. I admit that things have been repetitive lately just because of our situation we don't really have time to have sex in different places it is just always at my house in my bed but I would say its getting boring. After that conversationg about five mintues later I brought up to him how I wanted to put a TV in my room and he responded with, " we could watch porn." It through me off guard. I didn't really know if he was saying that because he was afraid I was getting bored because he knows I get bored easily or if HE was bored. Also I I'm not opposed to watching porn together I think it would be fun and I have fantasized about it before as well. But I am afraid that if we watch porn together then he will always want to watch porn when we have sex yeah know? How do I know if its going to be a problem or not. I think every once in a while it would be fun but for the most part I feel sex should be about the two of you and no one else. I just don't want to feel like he need to watch porn while we have sex to enjoy it. If we start watching porn together it may create a problem where we always watch porn together. We have no been together long and we have not watched porn together yet but when he brought it up I casually change the subject cause it was awkward and I don't usually like to talk about this topic because I don't want to sound insecure. Should I talk to him about this? And how do I do it without sounding weird? And is he wanting to watch porn with me because he is bored? I am confident with myself and I know I am sexy and adventurous but this makes me wonder if he feels that same.

[Fr_Chuck]

Let me see, is there anything that is going to make you happy, I hate to see what will happen after two kids and you both have jobs and sex is only when the kids are alseep and normally always in the bedroom.

If things are boring, you are part of the problem, when was the last time you suggested, the kitchen, or McDonalds bathroom ( not my choice but get the idea)

So you were interested in porn, but now scared it will get to be a habit also?

I am not sure what would make you happy ? So what do you want to do,

[smoothy]

No, it just means he'd like to watch it with you.

Guys are visual... they like to see naked women. Has nothing ot do with love, boredom or anything... we also aren't as subtle as women will be.

We are just wired like that.

Any guy that's so hyper-focused on one women they don't even look at others... is a guy to be afraid of.

If you have good communication... and neither of you are stick-in-the-muds, it never HAS to get boring... I've been married 20 years... we keep it exciting and frequent.

But then, neither of us believe in "its the missionary position or nothing" concept.

[Wondergirl]

From a woman's point of view -- he has given you one of the highest compliments possible. Yes, watch porn with him!

[kay1212]

I actually suggest public places all the time it is my favorite but I left out one important detail... We can't do that because he lives in a halfway house lol hence why I said we don't have time to go out and hit the town and have crazy sex somewhere public. We have a few hours a day so we have to just go to my house or the car. I am easily pleased but I think its normal to wonder. At least I care if he is satisfied. I just wondered if he wanted to watch porn together because he is bored with me if if he thinks I'm bored with him or if he just thought it would be fun. What I am afraid of if every time we have sex he runs to go grab porn because it then turns to a necessity. And I am not sure if I should talk to I'm about this or just be laid back and forget about it.

[Wondergirl]

Be laid back. It has nothing to do with you.

[MrzJohnson26]

I know you are probably going to get upset by this response but I think by basing your relationship on sex it isn't going to last long anyway.. A relationship should be based on communication and interest.. If you guys have great sex but can't communicate or have common interest it isn't going to last.. Your sex life is getting boring... Try going as long as you can without having sex with him or anyone that way when you guys finally do have sex it won't matter where it is it won't seem boring...

[QLP]

Guys like porn. If you also like porn on occasion then why not make it a shared activity. If you are worried that it will become a crutch you come to rely on then simply make it clear you would like to do so occaisionally but not all the time. I think anything done to excess can become boring. After 26 years of marriage I can honestly say that boredom isn't a problem and we are still coming up with new ideas. It only gets boring if you let it. Even if restricted to the bedroom there are many things you can change around.

I sort of get the impression that you feel bored but would be insulted or upset to know he would be bored. That doesn't really seem fair. Sorry if I am misinterpreting that. Point is it's up to both of you to keep things interesting and he just came up with one suggestion. As you don't seem averse to the idea why not give it a try whilst thinking about what else you could add to the equation on other occaisions?

[MrzJohnson26]

I think he is right, there are always new ideas to come up with be spontanious and not to make it sound weird but I found from personal experience if you make yourself vulnerable with your partner when it comes to sex it can really spice things up lol not trying to put too much out there but here's an idea that funny enough ended up with me getting pregnant with my now two month old daughter me and my husband celebrated our 2 year wedding anniversary by sipping wine and giving each other hot baby oil back rubs in a candle lit room with slow music playing, yes it may seem a little traditional but when it's with someone you really love it can be something you'll never forget... trust me my daughter is proof hehe