I have dark dark brown, almost black hair. I originally went to the salon to get it brown after having a blonde color disaster, and they chose a much darker brown than I wanted, and it turned out almost black. I absolutely hate it because I got a really short haircut and I have pale skin, and I don't feel pretty at all with this color. I just want to lighten it to a medium or light brown. I read somewhere that using dish soap and deep conditioner will help your hair lighten. Is that true? And if not, could I just buy lighter hair dyes until I got to the shade I want?