Hi, I'm 28 years old and my boyfriend of six months wants me to actively participate in a three some with a large man who is a wrestler. I am a 5'4" petite, 112 pounds, my boyfriend is 6'0" and 195 pounds, while the third party man is 6'7" and 340 pounds. I am afraid the third man will really be too big? He also really wants me to go down on him (the wrestler)! My boyfriend then is particularly interested in doing a double penetration. What should I do?

Why does he want to share his girlfriend with some stupid wrestler?? If I were you, I would punch him for wanting me to be part of this 3some

If you go along with his request just because he wants you to do this, you are going to resent him if there is even one hint of anything that is not to your liking. I would just say no and be done with this. What are the guarantees that you are going to be safe? What happens if you do start this and want to stop once all this starts? I don't like this, not because of the kinky aspect but because you are leery of this and I imagine feel pressured by your boyfriend to do this for him. For him. Not for you, but for him. Selfish, isn't he?

Well him that perhaps he should go down on him first and let him do him first if he wants a threesome so bad.

My only question I guess is why you are even asking, dump the jerk and find a boyfriend that will really love and respect you.

If you are at all uncomfortable engaging in such an act, don't! If you get pressured into this, you are setting yourself up for the end of your relationship. Of course, the fact your boyfriend wants to do this might be the end as well, but there's no reason to EVER do anything sexually you aren't comfortable in doing. There are plenty of guys out there, I'm sure, who would be willing to have one-on-one sex with you - as is! :)

Don't do anything you don't want to just to please someone else. Tell him to take his freaky deaky arse somewhere else.

Do not do it. You will regret it. If your not comfortable in doing it don't. Just let him know your not willing. If there is a problem then he is not a true boyfriend and your better without. Do not let him do this to you.

Joe

Wait... He wants a 3 way with... ANOTHER GUY?? He is not who you think he is.

OK, havinga threesome with another girl is bad enoogh, but with another guy. This might be the red flag, no forget that, no red banner!!

I'm trying to think of a more polite way to say this, but I can't:

RUN and run fast (I would get a quick kick in "you know where" first). The fact that he wants to have a three-some with another guy does make me think though. It could be a red flag. Be careful.

If you do not want to do this, don't! You never really stated your opinion on this matter... if it was a complete 'NO' or if it's a maybe. If you ARE consdiering this, consider your safety. If all you know is that he's a wrestler then you should be cautious... who knows where he's been or what he's got. Know what I mean?

I'm trying to think of a more polite way to say this, but I can't:

RUN and run fast (I would get a quick kick in "you know where" first). The fact that he wants to have a three-some with another guy does make me think though. It could be a red flag. Be careful.

If you do not want to do this, don't! You never really stated your opinion on this matter... if it was a complete 'NO' or if it's a maybe. If you ARE consdiering this, consider your safety.

Okay you had me agreeing to this point.



If all you know is that he's a wrestler then you should be cautious... who knows where he's been or what he's got. Know what I mean?

No. What do you mean?

I meant, she knows nothing about the guy except for the fact that's he's a wrestler. She doesn't know how many people he has slept with or if he has any STDs. I meant use protection.

LOL, after rereading that, I didn't know what I meant either! ;)

What is this whole business of Three some all about? Is he your boyfriend or some Porn producer?

Consider this - he is only a boyfriend and Not a husband. He has nothing seriously invested in this relationship. In other words, if you go along with this and then get angry or hurt he will simply toss you aside and find another person to play in his games. A husband & wife would have so much more to risk that they rarely venture into this kind of thing - at least not without considering how much true emotional damage it could cost.
It seems he wants to watch more than be a part of it, tell him (as you're walking out the door for the Very Last Time) to rent a movie...
I really hope you have more self-respect than he thinks you have.

Hi, I'm 28 years old and my boyfriend of six months wants me to actively participate in a three some with a large man who is a wrestler. I am a 5'4" petite, 112 pounds, my boyfriend is 6'0" and 195 pounds, while the third party man is 6'7" and 340 pounds. I am afraid the third man will really be too big? He also really wants me to go down on him (the wrestler)! My boyfriend then is particularily interested in doing a double penetration. What should I do?
I would not do it. Something like that will ruin your reputation forever. I hear guys talking about that kind of stuff all the time. You will be labeled as a slut and not in a good way. Not too many men respect a female that lets two men go on her like that.

Sorry to say, but your boyfriend has no respect for you and very likely no love for you. Are you actually a couple or is he someone you are "hooking up with" sexually where he doesn't consider the two of you a true couple while you do?

I wouldn't do participate in this for several reasons.

1. If this boyfriend loved you, he likely would be jealous at the thoughts of another guy touching you. He wouldn't want to watch some guy having sex with you. Therefore I think he doesn't love you. Do you want to compromise your values for someone who doesn't love you? You will lose a lot of self respect if you are against this type of thing and go through with it because you don't want to "lose" him. (Personally I think you would be lucky to "lose" him.)

2. If you do this threesome thinking it will be a one time only thing, you may need to think again. If he knows he can push you to participate in one of his fantasies despite your reservations, he most likely will try to talk you into more and more sexual situations that you are uncomfortable with.

3. If you do this threesome, you are breaking any bonds of commitment the two of you have and you are inviting future infidelity from your boyfriend. If fidelity is something that you value, you are in for a rude awakening. If your boyfriend were to cheat on you in the future after you have participated in this threesome, he can always throw it in your face... "well, you had sex with the wrestler while we were together." You are just asking for a huge mess.

There are some couples who enjoy unconventional sex lives and participate in activities such as swinging and group sex and they still stay together. It doesn't seem to bother either because they both want that type of lifestyle. Fidelity between the two of them alone is not important. If it works for them fine, but is that the kind of relationship you want? Or do you want a committed, loving respectful relationship where the two of you only have sex with each other? This is what most people, myself included, strive for. If your boyfriend wants the former lifestyle and you want the latter, you are terribly mismatched and incompatible.

Sure some men may have fantasies about unconventional sexual situations but they don't act on them or push their partner to do something they don't want to do. If my boyfriend seriously tried to get me to participate in a threesome, not just in a passing joking fashion (which is fine) knowing I was against it, I would lose my temper, say some very choice words to him, and then dump him. I want a guy that loves me so much, he wants me for himself only and wants to give himself to me only.

Umm.. congratulations? What do you expect someone to say? Why ask for advice and then not even consider or listen to it. If you want an open sexual relationship, well now you have it.

We did use protection as someone eluded to above. He did later make me go down on him again to finish him off and made me swallow.

So, I'm assuming you know that STDs can be transmitted orally, too? I mean, it's not certain that he does have anything, but if he does I guess you will know sooner or later.

Did you even read the responses to this question before you agreed to this? I highly doubt it. Why did you ask to begin with?

Sorry but I do not think you made a wise decision!

How much did your boyfriend enjoy seeing this other naked, sexually aroused man?

That would freak me out. But then again, I'm straight.

I hope this doesn't ruin your relationship with your boyfriend. If you do things like this in the future, you might want to consider using protection during oral sex as well; someone above mentioned STDs can be transmitted that way as well, and they are correct. Condoms aren't just for preventing pregnancy!

Good good very good... but u still have a long way to go baby... there are 4 somes as well and different positions... let us know your next step.. everyone here needs spice from girls like you... it keeps us spirited... u know what I mean.. this time it was doggy style, next time which style would you adopt??

diya --I really HOPE you aren't being serious. If you are please speak for yourself, not everyone else.

This is one of the most idiotic threads ever... but I can't stop reading it. It's like they always say, when life gives you lemons, just shut up and eat your damn lemons.

Whatever happened to the lemonade? LOL, I don't like eating JUST lemons! ;)

Yeah, I like lemonade too, but I was trying to make a philosophical point, and when I figure out what it is, and how to spell philosophical, ill let you know.

But seriously, why post about a "problem", in this case not wanting to do something, and then do it after people suggest ways to get out of it. Oh and come back with a pg-13 description of the goings on?

Did the OP just feel like bragging, does she want us to buy a tape? I mean really

Good point, free advertising for the tape. Hmmm...

This is my thought. May as well put it here for everybody to comment on. May as well have a free for all, pardon the pun.

Jesushelper76 (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/../members/jesushelper76.html) disagrees: So you have graduated to whore status. Hope you truly had a thrill. Some people live differently, your one of them.

Well him that perhaps he should go down on him first and let him do him first if he wants a threesome so bad.

My only question I guess is why you are even asking, dump the jerk and find a boyfriend that will really love and respect you.


LOL You are so right...
What kid of sick boyfriend is it anyway to suggest something like that ?
Gosh, what happened to "good old romance???"

I am entertained by these kinds of threads, but I don't buy this story one bit!

The question was posted at Noon, and then the graphic report on "the deed" was posted at 9 AM the following morning. The graphic description makes it clear to me someone is simply looking for attention... And that someone is probably... a bored kid, an immature adult, or a some really lonely dude.

Thanks for the laugh... but really, this kind of attention seeking is self-destructive... :)

Even if the poster was playing games or just making things up. There are some people who actually put themselves into these kinds of situations. So all of the advice that was given is not given in vain, nor will it all be fallen on deaf ears. Somebody out there will read this thread and see the majority of people, and how destructive we all think this behaviour is then they will be detered on ruining their life and their relationship.

Joe

So Christine, if you ever leave your boyfriend that likes naked dudes at home, and are near central Florida I'm a big guy that used to wrestle... ah never mind.

Hahahahahahahahahha

Wow... this post.



Hey, christine, next time link us to the vid, would you darlin?

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chuff agrees: LOL. I actually have the link. It's at Christineswrestlingthreesomes.com

Chuff : So Christine, if you ever leave your boyfriend that likes naked dudes at home, and are near central Florida I'm a big guy that used to wrestle... ah never mind.

Hahahhaha, there you go Chuff, very funny, I choke myself laughing

Just by reading her posts I don't think she was ever concerned about the actual morals of the act or what effect it may have on her relationship. Her only concern seemed to be about the damage his size may cause her.

LOL! Some people are amazing! I love AMHD!

This supposed 'christine' might well be a fake, but whoa the number of prudes that have jumped at this question! Doing a threesome makes you a whore? The only problem was if she didn't want to do it. Then itd have been selfish and irrespectful of her boyfriend to coerce her into it. But hellooo, its perfectly fine to want threesomes and have them! Even if its with 2 men. He might be bi, he might not, but whatever on earth would be wrong with being bi?

While I agree this thread has what seems no bearing of truth in it. I have to say that I agree with Kirriky. Having a threesome does not make you a whore. While it might not be something that everyone choses, if all three parties have open lines of communication and an adult understanding of the situation. Then by all means go right ahead. I can think of many other things that make you a whore (sleeping with a married man for example).

That being said. I am not sure why anyone would want to broadcast their bedroom practices on the internet. But that is just me.

Thank you Skell... nice of u.

Damn! Well said. I totally agree.

diya, sorry I jumped to conclusions but as Skell said, sarcasm is hard to read in posts especially if there's not "hahas" or "lols". I even reread the whole post to see if you wrote anything else that might tell me but I couldn't find anything.

diya, sorry I jumped to conclusions but as Skell said, sarcasm is hard to read in posts especially if there's not "hahas" or "lols". I even reread the whole post to see if you wrote anything else that might tell me but I couldn't find anything.

Not a problem, it happens... in the beginning of the post I wrote this: What is this whole business of Three some all about? Is he your boyfriend or some Porn producer?.
Personally I find this whole business of threesome quite much like porn or cheap thrill... but each to his own...

I know you want to . you boyfriend, but you need to do what you feel is best for you and your body. If he loves you he will understand. You say that the 3rd guy may be too big find a replacement thats if you really want to do it. If not dont do it put your heads together and come up with something else. always follow your first mind and yeah it may hurt thats a HUGE guy well good luck.

Hi All, I ended up going through with the 3-way last night and believe it or not I got the thrill of my life.

When does the DVD come out?

This makes me sick to my stomach. Lol. Im sorry, but it does. Especially how big this other guy is? Oh no girl!! How long have you been with your boyfriend and why would he ever want you to do these things with another person?? I don't know you or how you are but its obvious if you posted this and you think it is quesitonable, your not into this type of thing, but can't help but wonder, what does your boyfriend think of you to have this request? Maybe its some type of comofrt that you guys both have I'm don't know but you don't sound comfortable with this. Have you ever thought that maybe your boyfriend could be gay? Or Bi? It just doesn't sounds like he respects you as you should be respected and treated if he wants this. Stick to your guns and don't do it.

And where exactly do you come into all this? What do you want to do?
Me? I would be out of there more quick than an athlete on lucozade. If my man wasn't happy with just me then there would be no future.
Is it something you want to do? If so that's fine, as long as both partners want a threesome then knock yourselves out and have a great time, but if he is pressuring you he doesn't respect you.

Meh, I don't care if this is a fake post, answering is just fun. Your boyfriend is gay, you need to lose that zero and get yourself a hero (or Hiro)

There is one last hope though, have a 3-some with another girl and see if he likes that, if not you know for sure.

Meh, i dont care if this is a fake post, answering is just fun. Your boyfriend is gay, you need to lose that zero and get yourself a hero (or Hiro)

There is one last hope though, have a 3-some with another girl and see if he likes that, if not you know for sure.


So true.

For the last few posters, she did it already...

And I'm kind of amazed that more people don't think that this is a fake poster who is mocking the forum by seeing who replies.

Hi All, I ended up going through with the 3-way last night and believe it or not I got the thrill of my life. I did end up going down on the wrestler for over an half an hour - he was entirely "gigantic" as I first thought. I went down on him for that long as I was afraid of him putting it in me, but he eventually did - "doggy style", as that position was a better fit. The wrestler actually was very pleasing, more so than my boyfriend. We did use protection as someone eluded to above.


Well, we never asked for the details but thanks for sharing!

Wait.....He wants a 3 way with.....ANOTHER GUY?!?!?! He is not who you think he is.

He is a bi. Doesn't he know about the "one per fantasy" rule? Dump him.

POLL QUESTION

If you didn't have the good fortune of knowing about this post and I came up to you and said that I was going to make a movie about Christine, the gigantic wrestler, and her gay boyfriend that movie would be:

A. Comedy
B. Horror
C. Drama
D. Porn

I think the obvious one is D but I'm going with A.

Remember, anything you do you have to live with. Two years from now you will hate yourself. So follow your gut feelings. Don't do it.

Originally Posted by christine98033
Hi All, I ended up going through with the 3-way last night and believe it or not I got the thrill of my life. I did end up going down on the wrestler for over an half an hour - he was entirely "gigantic" as I first thought. I went down on him for that long as I was afraid of him putting it in me, but he eventually did - "doggy style", as that position was a better fit. The wrestler actually was very pleasing, more so than my boyfriend. We did use protection as someone eluded to above.

I am so glad that it worked out for you. You got your freak on girl!

Well christine I can't believe yo went through with it and that wrestler gave it to you from BEHIND! Geez you were worried about him hurting you and you let him do it doggy!! Would have even gone in further that way!!

Its great that you went down on him for half an hour cause youwere worried!! What was your boyfrien doing for that half hour he must have been giving it to you from behind with his small one getting you ready!!

I heard the ROYAL RUMBLE is in your town next week maybe you can get involved in the six man tag team special!!

I heard the ROYAL RUMBLE is in your town next week maybe you can get involved in the six man tag team special!!!!!

What would Christine's wrestling nickname be? My suggestion is "The wrestler's favorite wrestler" Christine. I can see her doing an interview right now, Christine would say, "To all you other wrestlers out there, I'm putting you all on notice that I used to be afraid of some of you because you were bigger then me, but after talking to this guy (points to her boyfriend who talking to himself deciding what pillows best match his couch) and his encouragement telling me that he knows will watch my back and the any other guys back...and front that challenges me, I'm am no longer afraid. Let it be known that all you bigger wrestlers can longer itimindate me, because as Ric Flair said, when your wrestle Christine you go all night long."

Christine next match is next week, "No Holes Barred" free admission!

Christine next match is next week, "No Holes Barred" free admission!

I wonder if her oppenents use foreign objects?

I would chose D- Porn movie

You know what's funny? When a guy asks his girlfriend to do a 3 some with another girl its OK but when they ask to do it with another guy omg he's gay. Then why do women have to plan 3 somes with another woman to "spice up there sex life" I think if he's offering to do it with a guy tell only if he's f***ing HOT. Enjoy it how often do girls get a chance to have 2 GUYS who cares if he's gay at least you get to do 2 GUYS. Its aways woman doing stupid crap for them and what do women get out of it?? NOTHING they still treat you like crap jerk off to women on T.V. go to strip clubs and at like pigs. Women can't even go outside without gross man pigs honking there horns or yelling obscence things to them. Women are not treated the way they should be and its time to change that. F*** 2 guys and tell your girl friends how amazing it was.

Sure some men may have fantasies about unconventional sexual situations but they don't act on them or push their partner to do something they don't want to do. If my boyfriend seriously tried to get me to participate in a threesome, not just in a passing joking fashion (which is fine) knowing I was against it, I would lose my temper, say some very choice words to him, and then dump him. I want a guy that loves me so much, he wants me for himself only and wants to give himself to me only.
You know when your boyfriend asks you to do a 3 some then says he's "joking" he's not. Hes wants to see your reaction and if he sees you getting mad he then says it's a joke.

You know when your bf asks you to do a 3 some then says hes "joking" hes not. Hes wants to see your reaction and if he sees you getting mad he then says its a joke.
Honestly, whatever makes our female mad, we are always just joking.

Three Words... Don't Do It.

Two words... Already did.

Don't do anything you don't want to just to please someone else. Tell him to take his freaky deaky arse somewhere else.


Little late, but I believe that would be freaky deaky sex land, would be where he'd take said arse...

Well him that perhaps he should go down on him first and let him do him first if he wants a threesome so bad.

My only question I guess is why you are even asking, dump the jerk and find a boyfriend that will really love and respect you.heck yes fr_chuck! Awsome couldn't say it ne better

Listen I think its about time you get another girl over and let your boyfriend go with it with her I want to here how that story goes??

"binx44 disagrees: that doesnt mean hes GAY. just because he wanted a threesome with another guy in the mix most of the time never means hes gay. 2 men and a girl can get together but the men can never touch eachother or even if they do it doesnt make'm gay *goodness*"

Notice how bonx capitalizes the letters G-A-Y. She wants to make sure that those letters stick out for some reason. She also has not a clue, as she claims that a guy that wants to view another guy sexually in the same room naked is not gay. Ahh okay. She even says that most of the time that means he's not gay. Enlightling news coming out of the rainbow capital. Well sorry to let you in on what happens in the real world but MOST (notice how I capitalize for emphisis) of the time that does mean he's gay, and he uses the girl as a cover to be around his naked guys. In fact, your probably missed this in the original post because it was in the second line, but the supposed boyfriend actually had a type of guy he wanted to see naked. Now I know you missed this because it was in the last line of the original post but this guy also wanted to do double penetration. Now speaking as a straight male, and throwing all PC BS out the window, there is no way a straight guy wants his johnson anywhere near another guys. I don't like the doctor touching it but I certainly wouldn't sit there and watch him take off his pants so we could stick them together to nail Christine at the same time.

Maybe your many gay partners are telling you otherwise but they are lying. Greatness.

My doctor is a female,HEHEHE!

I have to agree with Chuff on this. Straight men (MOST) would not want there wanker anywhere near another guys especially in a sexual manner. However, I do know straight men who are secure enough to walk around naked and not worry about who is watching (man, woman, straight, gay).

I have to agree with Chuff on this. Straight men (MOST) would not want there wanker anywhere near another guys especially in a sexual manner. However, I do know straight men who are secure enough to walk around naked and not worry about who is watching (man, woman, straight, gay).

I have to agree with Tuscany's agreement. I just wanted to point out though that walkng around naked is much different then a sexual situation. I'm sure gay dudes have checked out men out in a locker room including me, but not one has ever nor would they ever come up to me and grab my johnson and say "Hey let's go nail Christine together." Yeah... that would just not work. It wouldn't work in a locker room or in a bedroom unless something else is going on.

To play the devil's advocate here, I don't think that every guy in male-male-female threesome porn is gay. And I don't think you're necessarily gay if you're a guy who gets off on male-male-female threesome porn. Also, when a guy watches male-female one-on-one porn, he's watching a guy naked in a sexual situation. That doesn't make him gay. I think it depends on the focus of the threesome. If the focus for both guys is the girl, that's less "gay." If the focus for both guys is split equally between the girl and the other guy, then, yes, I'd have to agree that the guy does have gay fantasies.

For the women reading this post, evan though it is a comedy entry. I began seeing a girl, who seemed great. However it turned out during discussions that she had had a threesome with her ex boyfriend and a friend of his that she didn't know.

You can well imagine my response ! IMO this guy used her for self gratification and did not love her, funny how they were no longer together, it certainly brought them closer.

My point is, this act ended not one but two relationships for this girl ! It is now well and truly a skeleton in her closet. Any man who loves her will be disgusted by the fact that she had group sex with a man she did not know (her ex's friend). Unless he is a swinger.

I now walk past this girl in the street and I am disgusted and ashamed that I once cared for her! Is that really the relationships women seek ?

Is that really the relationships women seek ?

I believe some women out there are really sexually adventurers but I think the rest of us would not get involved in a threesome. I think a lot of girls and guys get pressured into them by their partners. Like you said they do it to please their partners and ultimately it ends relationships.

Hmm... well, he might not be gay. Although he might be trying to discover his sexuality without cheating on you or making himself out to be gay incase he is not.
OR he might think that because he let you fool around with some other guy that he should be aloud to fool around with some other girl on his watch.
Sounds like a man thing to do.:p

You know...

I'd just like to point out that your REASONS for having a threesome have to be sound (no pressure from one partner or the other, or from the 3rd party), you have to set RULES ahead of time (again, all THREE people must be involved in the creation of the rules) and those rules must be ENFORCED.

If it is the fantasy of everyone involved, the lines are clear, all the people involved are into it... what the heck does it matter what people do in bed?

If it makes someone a whore to enjoy a sexual fantasy, then I think there are a lot more whores out there than I previously realized!

Just remember... just because YOU wouldn't do it, or wouldn't enjoy it, doesn't mean that someone ELSE out there shouldn't. As long as it's not hurting or coercing someone, then there shouldn't be a problem.

You know...


Just remember....just because YOU wouldn't do it, or wouldn't enjoy it, doesn't mean that someone ELSE out there shouldn't. As long as it's not hurting or coercing someone, then there shouldn't be a problem.


Forgive me for being conraversial and please believe I am not judgemental.

But a guy sleeps with loads of women, he is viewed as a stud by men.. However women, strange creatures that you are look at this guy and see all these women and think, well he must have something about him or those girls would not want him! So you find him more atractive... Alph Male. (The guy who never has a girl is not atractive to you).

But If a girl sleeps with loads of guys she is veiwed as a slut by guys.. because funnily enough a guy wants a girl to want him sexually.. Call it male ego, if you will. He does not want to be with a girl who every other guy has had ! Where is the satisfaction and closeness of being with someone who wants you but no another, when every other has had her.. kind of makes it not special. Now women on the other hand, also view this girl with distane ! Call her ! Disaprove of her !

So the point being in this eqality society that does not and will never exist, because it is against our human nature, women who sleep around or do things like threesome are viewed in a negative way.

I am not saying its right, it JUST IS and will not change. It will only change when women view men who sleep around the same way as they view women who do it and the same for men.

So girls, yes it's a fantacy... But its not rocket science to know there is after effects.

There are after effects only if you allow there to be.

Frankly, any guy that was turned off by me being assertive enough to act out my fantasy is too stupid for me to date, anyway. (in MY opinion, which is the one that counts when I'm choosing who to date, not that it matters since I'm married, but you get the point).

Double standard or not, if someone were to judge me based on my sexual history, well... their loss.

I would probably break up with my boyfriend, your boyfriend sounds like he has issues.

I now walk past this girl in the street and I am disgusted and ashamed that I once cared for her! Is that really the relationships women seek ?

I would never consider something like this - it's not my thing but what you have said is really judgemental. She is probably better off with out you and your disgust.



I am not saying its right, it JUST IS and will not change. It will only change when women view men who sleep around the same way as they view women who do it and the same for men.

It won't change because of attitudes like yours- That can't see past themselves or just like judging others. No one is perfect and we ALL make mistakes. So she tried something new. SO WHAT!

I would never consider something like this - it's not my thing but what you have said is really judgemental. She is probably better off with out you and your disgust.

Like I said I am not judgemental, But it is the way people in general think, you only need to look at the replies to the initial post to see that.


It won't change because of attitudes like yours- That can't see past themselves or just like judging others. No one is perfect and we ALL make mistakes. So she tried something new. SO WHAT!!

I have not stated my attitude but I have stated attitudes in general ! Men and Women view casual sex or group sex in different ways, because of that fact there can be no equlity on this issue. Its not right, but it is so. Unfortuntly women do come of worse in this, now that's not my fault or my issue, before anyone has a go at me.

The point I was making is that because of this inequality, women must be aware that there will be negative after effects of there sexual actions, It will as it did with the girl I mentioned, destroy relationships. (Caused by lie's over this more than the acts btw).

Just would like to say that I know a girl who has been with her husband for almost 12 years.

They've had 3 threesomes that I know of.

They're still happily together, and friends with the people they asked to join them in bed.

What causes problems is when people aren't completely into it, make rules, and enforce the rules.

Plus... the attitude that you're a whore for enjoying a sexual fantasy. That makes for problems too.

There is a double standard when it comes to sex. Maybe men want the woman to be "pure"?
I agree with Synnen, if you and your partner are going to engage in things like this - there needs to be rules and a good understanding of what is going to happen. Both need to equally be on board with it. But what happens when this relationship breaks up? Not because of what goes on in the bedroom but because of life? And the woman is left to find a new love? How will that new love judge her? Will he walk away like 4answers did and look at her with disgust when he sees her on the street? Will he accept the fact that she had a life before they met?

Most men (that I know of) have a fantasy of a threesome. Who do they think is going to participate? A WOMAN. Am I to believe that these women that could "lower" themselves to participate in a threesome with this man are just not good enough to date or love? Whatever.

There is a double standard when it comes to sex.

Maybe men want the woman to be "pure"?

There needs to be rules and a good understanding of what is going to happen.

But what happens when this relationship breaks up? And the woman is left to find a new love? How will that new love judge her? Will he walk away like 4answers did and look at her with disgust when he sees her on the street?

Most men (that I know of) have a fantasy of a threesome. Who do they think is going to participate? A WOMAN. Am I to believe that these women that could "lower" themselves to participate in a threesome with this man are just not good enough to date or love? Whatever.

Women want the fairy tale of the prince who can have any women he wants but want her above all others... This makes her feel special. (Alpha Male).
Men want the princess who all desire but who only gives her self to him... This makes him feel special. (The Virgin Bride).

These are basis aspects of our emotional desire... All be it fariy tales, because it is unrealistic. However neither woman nor man wants to find out that their partner is the opposite of what they thought. Nobody likes to be deceived (As in my case).

I guess it's the same old story of being open with a partner, good communication. Anything else, and everything else is secondary.

Now we all have our boundries, that differer from other people, we may find that by communicating about these boundries we are or are not compatible. But its by not communicating or being false about these boundries where problems occur !

Okay, how were you deceived? I guess that is what I am not getting.
Did your girl forget to wear her "I participate in 3-somes" tshirt? Maybe she was ashamed, maybe she regretted what she did. Maybe it made her feel dirty and used. And then you throw her away like the garbage she may feel like.
People have pasts. Things happen. We trust the wrong people, make bad choices. We learn.

Okay, how were you deceived? I guess that is what I am not getting.
Did your girl forget to wear her "I participate in 3-somes" tshirt? Maybe she was ashamed, maybe she regretted what she did. Maybe it made her feel dirty and used. And then you throw her away like the garbage she may feel like.
People have pasts. Things happen. We trust the wrong people, make bad choices. We learn.


With the utmost respect, this thread is not about my personal relationship with this girl or what happened between us. The only thing that is relevant is what I have stated on the post that the act of having a threesome ultimately caused the end of two relationship for this girl. And that because of this, girls more than men (rightly or wrongly) need to be aware of the consequences of this.

A lot of men will say they would like to sleep with a girl who is into 3sums with more than one man. But ask the same man if he would go out with her or marry her, then the answer is different. (Agian these are not necessarily my views but general male views).

Is it right NO - Is it fact YES. Is it unfair - YES - Is it equality - NO. Is it going to change ? Who gets the bad rep for sleeping around or for group sex the man or the woman - The woman, always.

My point was not to have a go at women or to explain the end of my relationship but just to highlight this inequality as it is.

You are right. It is unfair. It always has been. I guess what I was trying to point out is this - you recognize that it is unfair and that it just isn't right. BUT, you seemingly judged someone else for it. So, how can things change? Changing the mind set? I don't know.

If you asked my husband if he would like for us to engage in a threesome (with another woman, mind you) he would say YES! And I don't think he would divorce me after it was done. And, I think he still would have married me if we had done something like this while dating.
Would he even consider doing this with another man - NO. I read him the original post and he taught the boyfriend in this scenario was gay. So, there you go.

Hi, I'm 28 years old and my boyfriend of six months wants me to actively participate in a three some with a large man who is a wrestler. I am a 5'4" petite, 112 pounds, my boyfriend is 6'0" and 195 pounds, while the third party man is 6'7" and 340 pounds. I am afraid the third man will really be too big? He also really wants me to go down on him (the wrestler)! My boyfriend then is particularily interested in doing a double penetration. What should I do?
I hope you did not do what he asked you for... I think you should leave him this person does not love you or even cares for you. He is after his lust nothing more... find someone else who loves you, and respect you .

Good luck.

Run, do not walk, away from this sicko "boyfriend" of yours and don't look back! Why would you even entertain such a crazy idea or keep company with people who come up with this insanity? Let's be honest with ourselves, does this really sound normal or healthy to you? Enough said!

Well if you do decide to do the (double pentration)DP, make sure the big guy is on the bottom and you are on top of him and your BF is behind you, otherwise you could get hurt. I've done DP with my BF of 4 years and it was pretty cool. It all depends on how open your relationship is sexually. We've had 3-some (both MFM and FMF) and 4-somes with other couples and went to one orgy. As long as you have a strong relationhip, this kind of sharing can really spice things up. But if you aren't ready to do these things your BF wants to try, then don't do it. Do it because YOU want to, not because he wants you, too. If he doesn't understand this, then lose him.
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A lot of men will say they would like to sleep with a girl who is into 3sums with more than one man. But ask the same man if he would go out with her or marry her, then the answer is different. (Agian these are not necessarily my views but general male views).

My point was not to have a go at women or to explain the end of my relationship but just to highlight this inequality as it is.


This seems like you are generalizing men. How can you answer for men in general about their views on women and threesomes. If you truly love a woman you will look past her past and love her for the woman she is now. To have a past relationship or sexual encounter end a current relationship makes me think that the current relationship isn't all that great.

If I had judge my husband on his past choices of girlfriends I would never have married him. I had one of the stalking me (like to the point of restraining order) and slashing my tires. But, I loved him, I knew that that relationship was a mistake, I looked past it, and to the man he was then (and is now).

Thank God for that... if you continue to judge others on their past you might miss out on some wonderful people

Hel yea