Which one is better for a relationship...

To fall in love with someone and then have that person become your best friend

Or

To fall in love with your best friend?

HELP PLEASE

BOTH!

Love is a mixture of Friendship - then RESPECT - and then PASSION for each other. Then love comes.

If you are not friends - there is no love. That's why many marriages fail. You HAVE to be friends.

It's best to get to know someone first - and then friendship...

With out friendship your relationship WILL fail. No question. That initial 'spark' will die.

MANY great relationship happen when you fall in love with your best friend.

CAN YOU TELL US MORE? WHy?

Hi,
Falling in love happens, there is nothing anyone can do to make it happen; whether it be with your best friend, or a stranger you have just met.
My wife and I (married 28 yrs) are each others' best friend!
It has to be that way, to be soul mates, best friends, trust each other; that all comes with love.
Many years ago, I was in love (at 18) with a girl who we had known each other for 10 yrs! As it turned out later at 20 yrs old, I still was in love with her, but she told me I was like a Brother to her... bad news for me.
I got over it eventually.
Try to be a good friend to whoever you meet, love will come when you least expect it.
Best of luck,
fredg

Fred - that girl when you were 20 could have been your lover. There are a few things you can do to make them change. It depends on how good friends you are. These are not tricks, or mind games - but matters of the human heart. You probably, at no fault, were too availablr to that person - not aloof - didn't slowly progress to the next stage.

In early stages of romance you should NEVER say how you feel - show it! Do little nice things.

If you had just maybe not made yourself as available, not return calls right away, break a friendship date and change your attitude AND waited it out - you could have had that person.

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