Alen Sterium
Sep 24, 2014, 07:50 AM
Hello,
I wish to ask about a relationship a sibling of mine has with a woman. I will call the woman Sally and my sibling John for the purpose of this.
John started dating Sally after a year of seeing her every now and then. After they started dating, I could tell that sex followed very quickly. (Not even a month after dating) Normally, I couldn't care less about this.
They have been dating for about two years now, but I have noticed disturbing patterns in the woman he has been dating. She seems manipulative and bossy towards John at times, but he acts like he is OK with it. I have noticed that whenever I talk to her (especially when John is not around) that she tends to act snotty towards me and always has the attitude of "I'm better than you." I know this for a fact because when we were all around a group of people, she still acted this way towards me in particular, not the others. I do not know what I may have said or done to cause her to act this way, so it leads me into more suspicion.
Now, this is not about me though. I am wondering if she acts that way because she knows that I am suspicious of her actions. To describe her more, I would say that she bosses around John a lot and acts like she is in charge, but she acts like its sarcasm. To me, this is not a joke. She has done this ever since they have started dating, and I am concerned about my sibling's happiness and safety. It gets weirder than that, though. She acts almost unnaturally nice when she is around my parents, and is much more behaved. I hate how I get the feeling that she is trying to hide something. Plus, she's pulled a Taser on me once and acted like it was a joke.
I know that I am no expert on relationships, but I am just wondering if anyone else with experience like this knows what is going on. Maybe I'm just a bit paranoid, or am I actually on to something?
I wish to ask about a relationship a sibling of mine has with a woman. I will call the woman Sally and my sibling John for the purpose of this.
John started dating Sally after a year of seeing her every now and then. After they started dating, I could tell that sex followed very quickly. (Not even a month after dating) Normally, I couldn't care less about this.
They have been dating for about two years now, but I have noticed disturbing patterns in the woman he has been dating. She seems manipulative and bossy towards John at times, but he acts like he is OK with it. I have noticed that whenever I talk to her (especially when John is not around) that she tends to act snotty towards me and always has the attitude of "I'm better than you." I know this for a fact because when we were all around a group of people, she still acted this way towards me in particular, not the others. I do not know what I may have said or done to cause her to act this way, so it leads me into more suspicion.
Now, this is not about me though. I am wondering if she acts that way because she knows that I am suspicious of her actions. To describe her more, I would say that she bosses around John a lot and acts like she is in charge, but she acts like its sarcasm. To me, this is not a joke. She has done this ever since they have started dating, and I am concerned about my sibling's happiness and safety. It gets weirder than that, though. She acts almost unnaturally nice when she is around my parents, and is much more behaved. I hate how I get the feeling that she is trying to hide something. Plus, she's pulled a Taser on me once and acted like it was a joke.
I know that I am no expert on relationships, but I am just wondering if anyone else with experience like this knows what is going on. Maybe I'm just a bit paranoid, or am I actually on to something?