Ok so I met a girl on kik. She's in England I'm in the US. So basically, I think she's pretty. She wants me as a friend. I know it's impossible to have a relationship over kik, but I tried. She and I are good friends, but if we fight again she's leaving. She isn't really into me but I love her and we are on completely different continents but I can't stop thinking about her! I'm sad because I'll never meet her or she will never be my girlfriend. I'm also jealous because her best friend is a guy, and she seems to achieve so much compared to me and seems so out of my league. Please I'm so angry and sad. Someone help please!!

What can we help you with? This "relationship" is doomed from the start. You're too far away from each other. You say she's not into you but you love her. How? How can this even work? Then you mention that if you fight again, she's leaving. What does that mean? Does it mean she's leaving her house? Leaving the country? What is she leaving? You? You guys aren't together so I have no idea what she could possibly be leaving.

Give it up as it's not meant to be.

And... how old are both of you?

Ok so I'm a little vague. But I mean she's leaving me. She'll block me. And we are both 16. I'm just not very happy right now... I'm sorry if this q is bullsh*t but I don't know what to do

There is nothing you can do. She's in another country... obviously she isn't as interested as you are. You can't MAKE her love you. You're only hurting yourself by keeping this going. One day she will end it with you... end whatever it is that you have... and then you will be all hurting. Your best defense, to save yourself, is to forget her and move on now.

But what should I say to her If I'm going to move on?

What do you need to say? You two aren't dating. You're not in a relationship. She talks about "leaving" you. There is no need to really say anything.

Does she know you "love her" ?

This is infatuation. You really don't know her at all. People are usually very different people online than they are in real life. You're in love with the idea of her.

Find someone you can actually have a relationships with. Someone that actually cares about you the same way you care about them. This girl is a dead end. Even if she was interested, it would never work out. The fact is, she isn't interested in anything but friendship, and you can't seem to accept that.

Best to go to no contact and find someone you can actually date.

Yes and please stop putting things in quotes.

Thanks but I really don't know what to say she won't want me to leave

Yes and please stop putting things in quotes.

Please don't attempt to dictate how anyone on this site posts. Unless it goes against site rules (which quotes do not), your option is to ignore it, or move on.

So you tell her that you can't go on like this anymore and you have to move on... then do it. It's not a real "relationship" and Alty is right, it's infatuation at this point, not "love".

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Okay thank you so much for your help. And sorry about the quotes it's just that I do love her. Thank you. :)

You will lose her because you are an emotional wreck. Girls like guys that are strong and secure with themselves image. You sound like your emotions are all over the place, that is sure to start another fight.

You will lose her because you are an emotional wreck. Girls like guys that are strong and secure with their self image. You sound like your emotions are all over the place, that is sure to start another fight.

He can't lose what he doesn't have.

A question for you three: can I tell her if she ever needs someone to talk to when its rough for her ill be there as a friend?

Thanks but I really don't know what to say she won't want me to leave

You say that but she also told you if you fought again that she was leaving. Sounds like she's looking for a reason really.

Take care of yourself.

Thank you


He can't lose what he doesn't have.

This is true :(

He can't lose what he doesn't have.

TRUE, but for future reference he never will get a girl when he can't control his emotions.

A question for you three: can I tell her if she ever needs someone to talk to when its rough for her ill be there as a friend?

You're setting yourself up for future pain by opening that door. I've been there and learned from it.

A question for you three: can I tell her if she ever needs someone to talk to when its rough for her ill be there as a friend?

Sure you can tell her that, BUT do not expect to hear from her AND her agreeing to that does NOT open the door for you to contact her.

TRUE, but for future reference he never will get a girl when he can't control his emotions.

Please stop. I don't want trouble and am in enough deep sh*t already. Just because I have problems doesn't mean I'm not a good person or can't get a girl.

Okay

I never said you are a bad person. You do realize that just like guys look for qualities in girls, girls do the same with guys. Sure you can find a girl but you are limiting yourself with options when you come off as insecure, and emotional in some areas that many girls are looking for you to be stronger in.

Okay thank you everyone. I'll have to do it I guess... Thanks for your help.

Please stop. I don't want trouble and am in enough deep sh*t already. Just because I have problems doesn't mean I'm not a good person or can't get a girl.

No one said you'd never find a girl. But until you learn to accept things, accept when someone doesn't feel the same way you do, you're in for a world of hurt.

You can't force someone to love you. I know it hurts when you think you love someone, and they don't feel the same way. But you hanging on to her will only end up hurting you more.

If you tell her you'll always be there for her, you're setting yourself up to be used. She knows how you feel about her and she keeps stringing you along. She won't stop. She knows you can be her crutch when she needs you, that she can use you. Why give someone that power over you?

What you're doing to yourself by not cutting all contact, is not allowing yourself to move on. You have to let her go. Yes, it will be hard. Yes, it will hurt. Crushes hurt just as much as real love when they're over. But you will never get what you want from her. As long as you hold on to the hope that she'll change her mind, you won't be able to move on and actually find someone to love.

I DID IT! I feel weird but good :) thanks
And thank you everyone

No one said you'd never find a girl. But until you learn to accept things, accept when someone doesn't feel the same way you do, you're in for a world of hurt.

You can't force someone to love you. I know it hurts when you think you love someone, and they don't feel the same way. But you hanging on to her will only end up hurting you more.

If you tell her you'll always be there for her, you're setting yourself up to be used. She knows how you feel about her and she keeps stringing you along. She won't stop. She knows you can be her crutch when she needs you, that she can use you. Why give someone that power over you?

What you're doing to yourself by not cutting all contact, is not allowing yourself to move on. You have to let her go. Yes, it will be hard. Yes, it will hurt. Crushes hurt just as much as real love when they're over. But you will never get what you want from her. As long as you hold on to the hope that she'll change her mind, you won't be able to move on and actually find someone to love.

Good advice as usual.