So he broke up with me about two months ago, and I was pretty upset about that. After all, we had been dating for about two years. So I decided after about a week that I should try to move on. It really hasn't worked too well. Recently I've been really sad about it. I really want to get back together with him.

He's been popping up in my dreams every night and I can't control it. I haven't talked to him since we broke up. I've heard that being all happy and being in control of your emotions, showing him that you can have a functional life without him, can potentially get him to come back to you, but I don't know if it will work for me. I guess I really just want to know how I should go about getting him back if that is what I decide I want to do.

I've heard all there is to hear about getting good memories about how it used to be and running back on a knee-jerk reaction. I've also heard a lot about how you should really consider what made the break up happen and if its really a good idea to try and fix it.

Trust me, I've put a lot of thought into all of this, I've had a lot of time to think. Truth is, I don't think that anything terrible happened, we just hit a bad spell and it was a stressful time of year anyway and all the bad things happened at the worst time, and that's what caused him to want to break up.

Advice would be fantastic thanks.

You should forget about him and move on. Wanting someone back is normal but obsessing over it is not. It's not good for you and you will never be able to heal until you can let go.

Obsession is a harmful thing, he broke up and he moved on, accept it. I had dreams of Janet Jackson, but will never date her. Dreams aer just that a dream. You are not moving on, at this point. How many dates with other guys have you had ?

He broke up with you and apparently has no desire to get back with you. You need to move on. Obsessing over this is not a good thing.

What if he doesn't want you back? Are you ready to be rejected twice?