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Ace011
Apr 20, 2013, 07:00 PM
Let me start by saying I don't have much experience with dating girls (first girlfriend actually). Okay I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over 4 months. Everything was great for 2 months then when she got a job at Bojangles (she doesn't work everyday). She started communicating "a lot" less.To speed it up she stopped calling me, she didn't call me for a whole month. The 3rd month she stopped wanting to hang out, she never gave me a conclusive answer why. She soon after started on her senior project and stopped calling and texting me all together. I always have to call or text her now (half the time she won't pick up and won't text back till a day later).

I've asked her numerous times does she like me still. She says she still loves me like before but just doesn't have time anymore. I can understand being busy, but she'll go a week without saying one thing to me, not one single word. She told me before that she didn't want to lose me. She said it'll get better but I don't know what to think. I'm confused because she doesn't attempt to talk to me but she can still speak and call/text her friends. I feel like she's lost interest but she claims she hasn't. Its like she's telling me to run to where she's currently standing while she keeps running away. She's contradicting her words and actions.

Does she just not know how to treat her boyfriend (me)? Does this sound like she's playing games or it it possible for her to just be so busy she can't ever find a second for me? I hope I gave a decent amount of info. If more is necessary I will provide it.

Wondergirl
Apr 20, 2013, 07:53 PM
She is just dragging you along. Move on without her.

talaniman
Apr 20, 2013, 08:52 PM
You are not a high priority at this time for sure, and you keep going along with her program. She has you locked in and waiting until she has time. When word and actions don't match, I generally walk, and that's probably what you should do.

When its all you and no her, you should walk. Maybe she doesn't know how to treat you and you aren't showing her by actions that you will not accept what she is doing. At the very least, walk and find someone that has time for fun, or what's the point?

Whatever her motives do something about it. Don't just sit and allow it.

Blzbubba
Apr 20, 2013, 09:06 PM
It sounds as if she wants you to wait for her, but a healthy relationship is not like that. Talk to her face to face not by phone or text, if she still has feelings for you she will try to work on it with you, but if she is reluctant, then move on. It is your first girlfriend and the break-up will be hard, but there will be someone else in time. Hope this helps.

Homegirl 50
Apr 21, 2013, 07:28 AM
Leave this girl alone. Someone who cares about you will not go a month without calling you. You say you have been dating 4 months but she starting cutting you off a month into the relationship. You two are not dating, you are chasing her.
Walk away and don't look back.