I started dating my current boyfriend in 2008. I was 14 and he was 15. We had known each other since we were 5. After we had been dating for about 2 years, we began to have problems. We fought all the time, I felt that he wouldn't listen to me, he was always playing video games and spending time away from me. It got to the point that we never talked and I was always by myself when I was at his house.

I joined the flag line at my school my senior year and we went to a band competition in the year of 2010. After we performed, we would always go around and introduce ourselves to other bands and their members. I met this one guy, Seth, and he was really nice to me.

Long story short, I started to like Seth and I left my current boyfriend for Seth three times. The problem was that I kept coming back to my current boyfriend and as a result, I hurt Seth every time.

Seth got tired of waiting on me and moved on and he has been dating this other girl for over a year. I would let him go, but he says he doesn't want me to let him go.

That makes it impossible for me to let him go. Seth says he doesn't want to give me another chance because 1) he doesn't trust me, which I understand and 2) he has another girlfriend.

At times he will treat me like he did when we first met and he will flirt with me and then he will ignore me for a few weeks and then we start all over again. He always starts talking to me again when I give up and don't think about him anymore. Then, after we talk, he's all I think about.

I don't want to hurt my boyfriend, but I want Seth. I am truly ready to let go of my boyfriend and move on with Seth.

I just don't know what to do. I love them both. :(

Help?

Entering into a steady relationship at 14 is really too soon. It doesn't give you the chance to really learn what relationships are about. So its not surprising that the relationship deteriorated in a couple of years. This lack of experience is what caused you to hurt Seth and keep going back to a boyfriend you never should have been exclusive with.

Unfortunately, you are probably going to have to forget Seth and move on. You have played him too many times.

You are young and will get over this.

Entering into a steady relationship at 14 is really too soon. It doesn't give you the chance to really learn what relationships are about. So its not surprising that the relationship deteriorated in a couple of years. This lack of experience is what caused you to hurt Seth and keep going back to a boyfriend you never should have been exclusive with.

Unfortunately, you are probably going to have to forget Seth and move on. You have played him too many times.

You are young and will get over this.

Thanks! :)

Leave Seth alone he is playing with your head. And since boyfriend is just a comfort zone and second banana leave him alone too!

You need to be single to get this unhealthy idea of what love really is out of your system, and find out what a healthy love is all about.You need to grow without a guy as the focal point of your life. Explore your world and NOT settle for an unhealthy love.

Leave Seth alone he is playing with your head. And since boyfriend is just a comfort zone and second banana leave him alone too!

You need to be single to get this unhealthy idea of what love really is out of your system, and find out what a healthy love is all about.You need to grow without a guy as the focal point of your life. Explore your world and NOT settle for an unhealthy love.

I completely understand what you are saying, but am I so wrong to think that one of them is meant for me? And you are right, my boyfriend is the comfort zone. When I am single, I try and try to get Seth, but when it doesn't work, I just settle for the boyfriend. I love my boyfriend.. I just think it is a dead end.

What if neither of them is meant for you? Seth sure ain't. Nor is the comfort zone guy.

How would you know who is meant for you if you bounce back and forth between two guys, one you love who has someone, and one you depend on?

At some point you have to deal with your own dependence on having a guy, and break the cycle. I mean 3 times doing the same thing? That's INSANITY. Need help?

I know I don't get a vote, but I love the name Seth.