I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years. It was never intended to be a relationship in the first place but you know how life works. But the past few months its taken everything in me just to be happy. I feel so emotionally drained and I feel as if I should end it. She's a great girl and a great person but I'm just not happy in it.

I'm very close to her family as well but I feel as if I'm so far into this that there is no getting out. I feel like I'm going insane all I want to do is be happy and people can see I'm not happy. But why can't I just say its over?

I'm terrible at breaking up with people I need help I want to be her friend and all I know is it takes time. But how in the hell to do it is the question. I know she'll be hurt but I want to know the steps to do it. I'm miserable and I feel the longer I stay in this the more depressed I will get.. I need to know how to even start the conversation?

Like do I bring it up to her or just say its done. As I said I want to make it clear to her but also break it to her gently I know I'll look like the a hole no matter what but I want to seem like a good guy in the longer run of things. Please help!

I think you should be totally honest and tell her exactly how you feel. You could opt to have a break from each other and see how you feel in three months. Sometimes this can help as it might be that you feel trapped and unsure. If you are determined it's over you just need to tell her and quickly the longer you drag it out the harder it will be and you will end up hurting yourself and her more.

You start with honesty and don't worry about your reputation. Just say you are not happy, and you have decided to end it, then follow through, not being a nice guy friend, but by leaving her alone no matter what. This allows it to sink in and be accepted and adjusted to. No Contact includes her family and friends also.

Breakups can be traumatic, emotional, and somebody gets hurt, so don't make it worse by calling and sending mixed signals of friendship because there can be no friendship until complete healing has taken place and that may take many years my friend so don't fool yourself, or her and think false hope will be a good thing.

Honesty, firmly and gently delivered is the first step. The longer you wait the worse it will be, especially if she doesn't see it coming.

Good luck to you both.