About 3 weeks ago my boyfriend and I played in bed, we thought we were safe if he didn't go all the way in... but now I having second thoughts. I don't know if I'm pregnant or not and I'm afraid to tell my parents. I starting to feel nausous all the time, my temperature around my waist area is warmer than usual, having aching pains in my adomen, always tired now even if I get 8 hours of sleep like I should, and I'm starting to have headaches now. I don't know if it sounds like I'm pregnant or not

Did he go in at all? Have you missed a period?

You may be pregnant, but you wouldn't have symptoms this early. When is your period due?

You may be pregnant, but you wouldn't have symptoms this early. When is your period due?

My period is due in week or around that time

Did he go in at all? Have you missed a period?

He didn't go in at all. But my mom says he doesn't have to go in to get you pregnant. He can be near it and still get you pregnant

he didnt go in at all. but my mom says he doesnt have to go in to get you pregnant. he can be near it and still get you pregnant
She's right. Respond to teacherjenn, please. ***ADDED I see you did. Now you wait.

my period is due in week or around that time

Your period is due in a week or so. If your period is more than 10 days late, then take a pregnancy test with your first morning urine. How old are you two?

I'm sorry... reword that. I'm exhausted, my brain isn't... it dull right now. I can't process well...

i'm sorry... reword that. i'm exhausted, my brain isnt.... it dull right now. i can't process well...

Reword what?

Never mind I got it... takes a little longer. I tired and hunger. Have only eaten crackers and 7 up. I'm going to be 18 in a couple of months

never mind i got it... takes a little longer. i tired and hunger. have only eaten crackers and 7 up. i'm gonna be 18 in a couple of months

You should see a doctor for your symptoms. Also, if you are having sex and do not want to become pregnant, speak to your doctor about birth control. But remember, no birth control is 100% effective.

Actually I had to stop birth control because my cycle was completely of and I was having MAJOR mood swings to the point I started hitting and breaking things. HOPEFULLY I can go to the doctor in about a week or so... but I don't know because my mom is going thro breast cancer. And we don't have much money. And I know they don't guarantee 100%

actually i had to stop birth control because my cycle was completely of and i was having MAJOR mood swings to the point i started hitting and breaking things. HOPEFULLY i can go to the doctor in about a week or so... but i dont know because my mom is going thro breast cancer. and we dont have much money. and i know they dont guarantee 100%
I hope it's just the flu, and I also hope your Mom gets well very soon. Be careful and don't give her anything else to worry about.

Is there a Planned Parenthood clinic near you?

I'm trying not to. That why I trying to find people that can help me and give me advice with out her finding out. Problem is I not ready neither is my boyfriend. His family loves me and so does this friend (acts like a father to him because his real one ran out on him and his mother when he was little) he is going to talk to us... maybe help us also with the doctors appointments

i'm trying not to. that why i trying to find people that can help me and give me advice with out her finding out. problem is i not ready neither is my boyfriend. his family loves me and so does this friend (acts like a father to him because his real one ran out on him and his mother when he was little) he is going to talk to us... maybe help us also with the doctors appointments
If you two aren't ready to become parents, then you need to get educated about sex and pregnancy. As Wondergirl suggested, find a Planned Parenthood in your area. Are you still in school?

Yeah I am. I'm in 11th grade. It was his birthday... and I tried making him happy. I a person that tries to make people happy even if it harms myself... stupid... but it's me

yeah i am. i'm in 11th grade. it was his birthday... and i tried making him happy. i a person that tries to make people happy even if it harms myself..... stupid.... but it's me
Time to make a few personality changes, especially if you dodge the bullet in this case and aren't pregnant.

Girls don't exist to make guys happy. It doesn't work that way.

yeah i am. i'm in 11th grade. it was his birthday... and i tried making him happy. i a person that tries to make people happy even if it harms myself..... stupid.... but it's me

Talk to your school nurse, and she may be able to direct you to a clinic in your area. Always protect your body. It's the only one you have. Don't let anyone talk you into something you don't want to do.

I tried making him happy. I a person that tries to make people happy even if it harms myself

This is so very sad. If you are pregnant, at your ages, he won't stick around for long. I can promise you that.

This is the only body you will ever have. You need to cherish and respect it.

In a relationship both of you need to be happy for it to work.

It was one of those times that you tell yourself to stop over and over, but your body doesn't care what you say... but thank you for the advice I REALLY REALLY appricate it. :) anything else I should keep in mind?

Honestly this is the second time we are going out... last time it only lasted a week but out 2 month anniversary is coming up. I will keep what you said in mind. But I have a feeling this time it will work. Love doesn't over cloud my judgment because I am reminded what he did to me last year

... I don't know who I am yet... so that is part of the problem.

.... i dont know who i am yet.... so that is part of the problem.
My advice is to get to a doctor, get on birth control, and make sure you realize that what you do will affect the rest of your life.

If you don't know who you are, you shouldn't be dating at ALL!

2 months is too early for a sexual relationship no matter how old you are.

Yes ma'am I will

We only see each other once every 3 weeks... it going to be even less when he starts going to college in January. I just want someone to be there to support me. I feel like... I'm nothing most of the time. Most of it depression and anger but I going to talk to a professional soon... but I don't know if I can break up with him.

Remember that there is no form of birth control that is 100% effective. I got pregnant not once, but twice, using the pill exactly as directed and using a condom.

I then got pregnant after having a 6 month course of chemotherapy after cancer. The chemo was supposed to make me sterile, but it didn't.

i just want someone to be there to support me. i feel like.... i'm nothing most of the time.
Time to find a counselor, maybe by asking the nurse or guidance counselor at school?

This was last year before we had incourse he made me take birth control for at least a week straight and he wore 2 condoms. I was still nervous I couldn't stop shaking but this time... he thought we would be safe but... thts just it...

Birth control is less effective if taken for less than a month. Wearing 2 condoms is not only uncomfortable for him, but a disaster in the making.

I use to talk to my pastor that's known me since kinder garden... but I afraid to ask to go because my pastor will tell my mom. That's where I trapped. Everyone I talk to that I can talk about this in person has my moms number

Question. How is it a disaster in the making?

i use to talk to my pastor thats known me since kinder garden... but i afraid to ask to go because my pastor will tell my mom. thats where i trapped. everyone i talk to that i can talk about this in person has my moms number
My dad was a Lutheran pastor. Pastors are not supposed to break confidentiality.

Okay... some how I will try to get to my pastor.

okay... some how i will try to get to my pastor.
Make sure you tell him up front that this is a confidential matter and you do not want him to divulge it to anyone.

Is he Lutheran?

Yes he is lutheran... I grew up in a school district that was combined with a church

It's a disaster in the making because a condom is made to be used only one at a time. Using two sets you up for the condoms breaking.

In all seriousness Sweetpea, if you are not prepared to be a mother, keep your pants on. It's really not that hard.

yes he is lutheran... i grew up in a school district that was combined with a church
Missouri-Synod or ELCA?

So putting two on at once is worse than just one. Am I following you correctly?

Yes, you are following me correctly. Putting 2 on is not only uncomfortable for him, but it increases the risk of one falling off and the other breaking.

... you lost me.

Oh I will tell him that. So then having us both protecting good or bad? Because they never taught us any of this in health glass. Only the stuff they use to prevent pregnancy

How did I lose you?

If he puts on 2 condoms it is uncomfortable for him.

If he puts on 2 condoms one will fall off and the other will break.

Condoms are made to be used one at a time ONLY.

Like I said... there is no form of birth control that is 100% effective. I used the pill and the condom and got pregnant twice, and I was married at the time.

If you aren't ready to be a parent, keep your pants on.

I'm sorry I'm getting confused on the people I'm talking to. I've never used this before and I'm exhausted. I don't want to go to sleep because I afraid of waking up with my head over the side of my bed, so I'm sorry.

Just look at our names on the upper left hand corner. That will tell you who you are talking to.

OK I will I'll tell the same to sky

Okay I get it now

U lost me

Look hun, I'm a nurse. I deliver babies for a profession. I can tell you how many babies were born to girls who have used several forms of birth control.

Again, if you cannot afford a baby, stop having sex.

Okay... I will talk to my boyfriend and tell him I'm putting my foot down. This is what I needed, to get advice from people that aren't involve but know what they are talking about. Every time I go to my parents I get yelled at. But I will talk to him

I got a feeling I'm pregnant but I really don't know, I can't get a test because I can't drive to the store myself. I got advice from here last night from kind people. I did what they said and put my foot down, got that settled but I'm still stuck. I can't afford a doctor's visit and like I said nor can I get a test. WHAT DO I DO NOW?? Please help

Have your boyfriend buy you a test.

Ask a close friend to buy you a test.

I could give him money but my parents keep me away from him A LOT I only see him like once every three weeks.

Talk to your school nurse.

I don't have any friends really. I keep to myself at school and I'm isolated in my own home.

... I afraid the nurse will call my mom :(

Then unless you talk with your mom about the possibility you are pregnant, you won't be able to test yourself.

I'm screwed... I'm never playing again

So now you understand that there really are consequences to every action. Some more serious than others.

J_9, what's with HIPAA and a student? Would the nurse be obligated to keep this pregnant-possibility info confidential?

I do believe the nurse would have to keep this under wraps. She is only obligated to notify the parents with communicable illnesses when the child has to leave the school.

... yes... :( but thank you for helping me even though I don't deserve it. You got me going and getting things started to figure this out. Thank you so much

Don't deserve what? Come on don't play that game.

That I don't deserve your help... I been in trouble like this before with an ex boyfriend that I was with for a year... but I never learned...

Is there a teacher you trust who would buy you a test?

I am thinking on asking my math teacher. She has been there for everything that's happened this year. But I not sure

Certainly that teacher would talk through this with you. And there's no crime committed if he/she buys you a test since it is just to help you reset your compass for the future.

Or the teacher could take you to Walgreen's?

And you need to stop with the pity party. Everyone deserves help at one time or another.

Yes ma'am.

You know we care about you and would be more active in your life if we lived near you. We are your online aunties.

What you just said almost made me cry :)

We are here for you long distance. We aren't judgmental, but we can be harsh if you need a dose of reality.

Now, Auntie WG will stick around, but Auntie J needs to get some sleep since she has to work all night tonight.

Oh, hey, why aren't you in school?

So stay in touch and let us know what is going on.

I have a cyber son in Denmark and another one in Japan. Ain't the Internet wonderful??

I am in school, it just a new trimester today and I don't have much to worry about homework. Sweet dreams auntie j

Take care Sweety... try not to stress so much.

Auntie J is an RN and I am a retired librarian and also a professional counselor. How much luckier could you get??

Okay, I will. I sometimes like the internet... but it mostly a pain at my house

I'll try

I must be pretty lucky :) usually I don't have any luck at all

I'm so glad I went on this site, I would have never got to talk to you guys and I would be WAY MORE stressed than I am now. Last night I drew for 2 hours straight and that usually helps but not this time. So when I signed up and started talking to you guys, there was so much relief.

Uh oh. Pitty party again. Life and luck are what you make it.

Chin up... smile... laugh... be happy.

YOU are the master of your destiny.

:D I'm smiling see hehe :)

That's better. Now I can get some sleep. Got to deliver those babies tonight and it takes a lot of energy.


Kisses... hugs... keep smiling. Stay happy. No one can make you happy if you can't make yourself happy first.

Ni Ni Auntie J

I won't be on till later after school. I got a High School Bowling match tonight in Angola and I'm one of the starters for tonight :) so I going to be home late I love to bowl it more mental than a physical sport, but throwing a 14 lb ball down an alley keeps you in shape. My mom says that the more fit you are the less harder the labor is during birth. I don't know if it true or not.

I won't be on till later after school. I got a High School Bowling match tonight in Angola and i'm one of the starters for tonight :) so i gonna be home late i love to bowl it more mental than a physical sport, but throwing a 14 lb ball down an alley keeps ya in shape. my mom says that the more fit you are the less harder the labor is during birth. i dont know if it true or not.
How was your bowling match? I bowl on a teacher's league and we all love it!

I got both of my points and we won both matches. I got a 141 and 173 they were cinthetic :P

i got both of my points and we won both matches. i got a 141 and 173 they were cinthetic :P
Wow! Those are good games! I used to love to bowl (and keep score -- loved adding up strikes and spares).

We won both of our matches and I got both of my points. I had a 141 and a 173. We were bowling on cincetic lanes :P

we won both of our matches and i got both of my points. i had a 141 and a 173. we were bowling on cincetic lanes :P
That's great! What is your average?

Around 140. But I been struggling. I just got a new ball. Supposively my old ball was drilled for a left hander

I love to bowl. I would bowl everyday if I could, my coach has to make me stop or I would just bowl till I pass out.

Problem is I got HORRIBLE joints. I got a weak lower back, hips, knees, and ankles. I want a refund on them :P :D

problem is i got HORRIBLE joints. i got a weak lower back, hips, knees, and ankles. i want a refund on em :P :D
Bowling the best way to keep your muscles strong and hold up those bones and joints. Once I stopped bowling, I began to fall apart.

I been bowling for 4 years now and I got a ball called the epidemic, beautiful colors. And the highest game I bowled was 250. That was when I was facing my bowling coach, jerry, on the youth&adult league.