I work in an office and find a delivery guy that comes in once or twice a month attractive. He has been coming in for a few years, but other than a hi and bye and a few sentences in between we have never really talked much (in part because I'm always with one or two other people)- but he always makes it a point to say something to me and we smile at each other like crazy. Last week when he came in, I was miraculously by myself and he made it a point to start a conversation with me. He said he had been coming in for years and never knew my name (so I told him) and we began talking about his photography (his hobby). I asked what kind of pictures he took, which prompted him to pull out a business card with a link to his pictures and he told me to check it out (obviously the card also had his cell number and email address, but he never said anything about contacting him). We talked another minute when he looked me up and down and said I would make a great model and asked if I would model for him. Of course I got all giddy and excited and said yes practically before he could even finish asking... long story short, I thought he was on the shy side and that was his way of giving me his number because I did get the vibe that he was flirting, so a few days later I decided to text him telling him I liked his pictures, he answered me almost immediately saying thanks and he thought I would, I sent a reply and that was the last I heard from him. Now I'm thinking I may have misread the situation and he was just promoting himself and I feel like a fool for texting him. Maybe he was just flirting with me innocently, not looking for anything to come of it. Now next time he comes in I want to hide in another room because I'm embarrassed that I put myself out there. What's your read on this situation?

It sounds more positive than the cute guy who handed me his card for snow plowing.

His next appearance at your office will tell you what you need to know.

I don't see what has made you feel foolish. He asked you to look at his pictures and you did. You responded that you liked them. End of story. He invited your opinion. The fact that you find him attractive is something he isn't even aware of. So, he wouldn't even know that you thought he was flirting or not.

Who knows he may or may not have been. It could be, and it sounds likely, that he flirts with a lot of people. Sometimes flirting is just that, flirting. If he isn't asking you out, then he probably didn't mean it that way. Just go on as normal when you see him again. For all he knows, you texted him just to tell him you like his pictures. When you see him again, at least you will know one way or another.

My experience with men is that they don't find mysterious meaning in things.

I guess I'm reading into this too much, making more of it than it really is. That or I am just hoping that it's more. Good point though, it's not like he can read my mind and know how hot I think he really is lol

It sounds more positive than the cute guy who handed me his card for snow plowing.


Guys shouldn't hand us business cards, it's too confusing. Only time it should be allowed is in a business setting. Life is too confusing as is.

Guys shouldn't hand us business cards, it's too confusing. Only time it should be allowed is in a business setting. Life is too confusing as is.


Agreed. However, there is nothing wrong with a girl asking a guy out either. If you like him, ask him.