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isabelle100500
Sep 2, 2012, 01:42 PM
I try to be pretty and be myself, not saying anything not me. But it is not working, I have thought of trying to be witty and not sure if I should try it. Because everyone else are going out with boys I keep thinking like something's wrong with, such as I'm not pretty or to mature but Don't really no for sure. I just really like this boy and was wondering if anybody knows how a boy acts when he likes you? Xx

Alty
Sep 2, 2012, 01:49 PM
At 13 you're still very young, too young to really be dating seriously.

Are your parents okay with you dating? If so, then talk to the boy, ask him how he feels.

isabelle100500
Sep 2, 2012, 01:52 PM
Its not serious, I see people who are properly in love and I know I will have to wait till I feel that, but my parents are fine with it, I have been out with a boy before. Xx

JudyKayTee
Sep 2, 2012, 01:58 PM
Honestly? I think your idea of wit is not going to endear you to boys: " Be witty as well, like if he says 'OMG! it 12:00 o clock' reply... 'Well done big ben' in a sarcastic way and smerk while you say it." https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/how-can-get-boy-ask-me-out-540697-2.html#post3257255

bllady
Sep 2, 2012, 05:19 PM
Oh, honeybunny... I am a mother a 13 year old boy and let me tell you, if he does like you, chances are good that he's not going to say or do anything about it. Now sugar, I don't know if you want advice from other 13 year olds or if you are OK with just anyone answering your question, but let me tell you what goes on on the other side of things. My son, who will be 14 by the end of the year is head over heels for a girl in one of his classes. He even arranged his schedule to have the same lunch period as her!! Now, we have sat him down, his father and I, and explained to him that dating at this age is NOT to be taken seriously. 13/14/15 is just too young to understand the responsibility each person has in a real relationship. We feel that 16 is a good age to start testing the waters when it comes to dating (provided the kiddo has a reasonably good head on their shoulders)- this is something for you to think about. Ok, now back to my boy. He's crazy for this girl! Comes home sayin' this girl is THE ONE: He's so depressed when she misses school. Now, this girl has decided to start sitting at his table during lunch and at first he was so excited, but after the first week he started to get really sick of her. When we talked to him about it, he said that while he was really excited to be near her, he didn't feel like he could talk to her for a couple of reasons. First, he thought if he said or did anything to acknowledge her, she'd figure out how much he liked her and then he wouldn't know what to do about that, which really freaked him out. Second, she didn't seem to be into the same things as him (as in, she never had anything to say about his likes nor asked him about his interests). The other reason he got sick of her, he said, is that he could never be sure of who was going to be at his table every day. He said she seemed to change personalities every time he saw her and he was really hoping to just get to know her as she was, not who she thought she should be.

Now, Sugar, I have gone through this whole thing to point out a few key things for you. One, if you don't know who you are, he's not going to either. Boys are slow in the love department, but honey, they ain't stupid.

Second, if you're "trying things" to find something that will "work", whatever "works" will be a lie. If you are comfortable with yourself, you'll be comfortable talking to him, and then you can start things out really getting to know each other, rather than tricking him into noticing you.

Third, he's just as timid as you. If he likes you, you can bet he's just as nervous and self conscious as you are. If he doesn't like you, well, that's a peach to pit in a later post.

Good luck, honey, and have some fun. Life isn't meant to be taken so seriously, at any age :)