WL28
Mar 7, 2007, 02:58 AM
Hi. I have questions regarding my mental and emotional state. I am 20 years old, almost 21. About 8 months ago, my ex girlfriend broke up with me. We had been dating for almost 3 years, and had an incredible relationship going. She was my high school sweetheart. She broke up with me for reasons that I don't fully understand... And months later, I find that she has turned into a completely and entirely different person. When we were dating, she was very nice and loving... she's now very mean spirited, heading nowhere, rejecting all her old family and friends, etc.. . as far as I know.
Anyhow, I had nothing to do with making the break up worst... I really hadn't seen it coming. And I did everything I could that I thought was right to improve things. I even tried to offer help afterwards and support. And I know I sound like everyone else by saying this, but I really did care, love, and sacrifice for her in every way the best I could when I was with her. Regardless, she refuses to have anything to do with me.
8 months later now, I'm still hurting about as much as I did when we broke up... a day doesn't go by that I don't miss her, think about her, or reflect on the past and how good it used to be. Life really in general hasn't had the same spark it used to have. I think I over fantasize and romanticize about the past, and consider how great it'd be if I could go back.
I guess I'm a hopeless romantic, and although I'm still young, I feel like I still want to marry her, as if she was it. I am so willing to forgive and I feel very bad for her because I know she's still a sweetheart underneath, but maybe I'm giving her too much credit.
Is this normal? I feel very empty all the time and sad. Occasionally, I can forget, but overall, this rules my life... do I need special help or counseling? Can anyone help me with this? Sorry this is so long, I just am hoping someone can empathize with me and give me advice. Please help if you can. It's hard to "hang in there". Thanks for reading and caring
Anyhow, I had nothing to do with making the break up worst... I really hadn't seen it coming. And I did everything I could that I thought was right to improve things. I even tried to offer help afterwards and support. And I know I sound like everyone else by saying this, but I really did care, love, and sacrifice for her in every way the best I could when I was with her. Regardless, she refuses to have anything to do with me.
8 months later now, I'm still hurting about as much as I did when we broke up... a day doesn't go by that I don't miss her, think about her, or reflect on the past and how good it used to be. Life really in general hasn't had the same spark it used to have. I think I over fantasize and romanticize about the past, and consider how great it'd be if I could go back.
I guess I'm a hopeless romantic, and although I'm still young, I feel like I still want to marry her, as if she was it. I am so willing to forgive and I feel very bad for her because I know she's still a sweetheart underneath, but maybe I'm giving her too much credit.
Is this normal? I feel very empty all the time and sad. Occasionally, I can forget, but overall, this rules my life... do I need special help or counseling? Can anyone help me with this? Sorry this is so long, I just am hoping someone can empathize with me and give me advice. Please help if you can. It's hard to "hang in there". Thanks for reading and caring