sarahjane27
Aug 7, 2012, 12:26 AM
Hi I'm 23 and having massive insecurities in my relationship.
My partner and I have been together for almost a year. About 8 months ago he decided to prented he was in a relationship with his ex so he could spend nearly every day with his daughter. He doesn't get to see his daughter due to his ex being very controlling and not civil. When he planned that he was going to fake a relationship with her he didn't actually tell me about it becos he thought I wouldn't understand or that I would leave him over it.. I found out by going through his phone and finding all the messages and phone calls to her. The only reason I went through his phone is becos he stopped letting me go over to his house and he very rarely come to mine. I eventually told him that I knew everything. He is going through mediation at the moment so hoping he gets more rights with his daughter soon. Since that happening and him going behind my back I have become very insecure and I'm always assuming that he is cheating on me with someone else. All of my previous partners have been unfaithful and I'm just very scared that he will do it to. I need help to concour all these doubts, disbelief and constant thoughts that he is cheating on me. He keeps saying that there is no one else but then I think back to when he lied to me about his fake relationship with his ex.
These insecurities are really torribly our relationship and I need help asap. Either some hints, tips or advice on how to stop myself from thinking it all the time.
PLEASE I NEED HELP!! Or I am going to lose him
My partner and I have been together for almost a year. About 8 months ago he decided to prented he was in a relationship with his ex so he could spend nearly every day with his daughter. He doesn't get to see his daughter due to his ex being very controlling and not civil. When he planned that he was going to fake a relationship with her he didn't actually tell me about it becos he thought I wouldn't understand or that I would leave him over it.. I found out by going through his phone and finding all the messages and phone calls to her. The only reason I went through his phone is becos he stopped letting me go over to his house and he very rarely come to mine. I eventually told him that I knew everything. He is going through mediation at the moment so hoping he gets more rights with his daughter soon. Since that happening and him going behind my back I have become very insecure and I'm always assuming that he is cheating on me with someone else. All of my previous partners have been unfaithful and I'm just very scared that he will do it to. I need help to concour all these doubts, disbelief and constant thoughts that he is cheating on me. He keeps saying that there is no one else but then I think back to when he lied to me about his fake relationship with his ex.
These insecurities are really torribly our relationship and I need help asap. Either some hints, tips or advice on how to stop myself from thinking it all the time.
PLEASE I NEED HELP!! Or I am going to lose him