I have no way of getting in contact with my girlfriend because she's been in the hospital because she had surgery last week on her stomach.. And my friend alexis goes to see her everyday because she has to sneak in to see her in the hospital and sometimes alexis is really mean to my girlfriend and then recently, alexis decides to tell this awful lie to her about me saying that she doesn't make me happy and that I have other girls to be with and stuff like that.. that never came out of my mouth.. and that's why my girlfriend has the impression that I don't want her anymore when I really do. I never said that I didn't want her or that she didn't make me happy.. Ive been so stressed out because I haven't heard from her until yesterday when she calls me.. I ask her what's going on and what did I do? And she told me that alexis tells her everyday that I don't want her and that she doesn't make me happy. And I'm sitting here confused and upset because I never said that and I told my girlfriend that I never said that and that alexis is lying to her. I have proof that I never said that. But my girlfriend was like that she doesn't know what to do. But I'm thinking that she should trust me and stuff over alexis. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year and 6 months now.. she knows I love and care for her and I know she loves me too. I know she's not done with me because she didn't say she was when we were on the phone.. now I'm just waiting to hear from her again.. Then today my girlfriend calls me and I told her what was on my mind and she said that she can't do this anymore and I asked her if she loved me and she said yes and that's why I have to let you go, if you love someone, then you have to let them go sometimes.. then I told her to not let people influence her wrong decisions and getting into her head.. and that's what I think is happening because her family is trying to not let her want me anymore, and I think its wrong.. I know she still wants me.. But I don't know why she asked me what I would do if she found someone else?. I ask her why would you say that and she said she just asking and that she doesn't have anyone else.. :( but I kept calling her cousins phone over and over again to talk to my girlfriend because my girl doesn't have a phone and she was with her cousin at the time and then her aunt answers the phone and says that my girlfriend is done with me and is happier without me.. her aunt was lien I think because my girlfriend didn't even say that when I was on the phone with her.. I love her so much more than anything in the world and we both promised each other that we would never let anything or anyone get between us or find anyone else and that we would be together forever.. I have all of her love notes that she wrote me in the past and it just brings tears to my eyes.. I still have all the things she has gave me and everything and she has everything that I gave her:( I just want her to realize that I really do love her with all my heart.. please someone help me...

Why on earth can you not see her in the hospital for one, and if she seriously doesn't trust you enough to believe you over her friend she's not worth it. No trust = No relationship, period.

How old are you guys?

PS: Please use punctuation and proper grammar.

I am sorry to hear about the situation. Why can't you visit her? Well if that girl sneaks in, why can't you? If you really want to get your girl back, bring her flowers while she is in the hospital. Flowers always makes someone smile :D You could also make something for her. Collect some pictures of your favorite times with her and make them into a collage in a picture frame or shadow box, that's if you like 3D objects. If she will believe someone who is not loyal to her in the first place, then she is not worth your time. If she can't trust someone who she says she will love forever, tell her to start walkin' and don't let the door hit you on the way out!

Sounds like she has someone in the wings. The fact that she would believe someone else over you is questionable too. She may have been using that as an excuse.
Leave her alone and go no contact. You need to get over her.

She's 16 and I'm 17 and I'm not saying that she believes her. I just think that her family is influencing her to not go out with me but she never told me she was done with me or anything. And I can't go to the hospital because I have no way to get there.. But I found out that she had her phone back and I said can I please talk to you and she said that she can't talk to me and she probably said that because her uncle was right there next to her when me and her were on the phone.. Then the uncle took over the phone and told me to chill out and that I need to give it up and then he hung up and then my girlfriend texts me 25 min later and says what do you need to tell me... So I know she still cares since she had the desire to text me.. Then I just texted her how I felt and now I'm just waiting to hear back from her.. And I told my dad about this and he said that she is probably doing this for her parents to get off her back about dating and when it cools down that she will come back to me and everyone I have talked to says that she will call me when she is nowhere near her family and that she is alone.. Because I know she loves me just as I love her... Just waiting to hear from her..

So I take it she is not allowed to date?
Then leave her alone until she is

She is allowed. Her family just doesn't like me because of what happened in the past. But now I haven't heard from her and people keep telling me that she will call me within 24 hours

Seems like other people know more about what's going on than you do. Maybe you should be asking them.
Just back off. She does not want to be in conflict with her parents. Why don't they like you?

I'm not going to back off I love her and I know she loves me.. I'm just waiting to hear from her. And because me and my girl had relations.

im not going to back off i love her and i know she loves me.. I'm just waiting to hear from her. and because me and my girl had relations.
Is that why her parents don't like you?

I need to know that she still wants to be with me..

Just need to know she still wants me because she never said that she didn't want me anymore or that we were over

You haven't answered any of my questions. You seem to be a bit possessive with all this "my girl" business.
You seem to be pushy calling her cousin's phone over and over again. Your girl friend said she is letting you go. It does not matter what you think she feels, this is what she said she wants to do.
Why don't her parents like you?

I already told u.. I said because we had relations and they found out that we had it.. plus I'm not possessive..

i already told u.. i said because we had relations and they found out that we had it.. plus I'm not possessive..

99% of possesive people say they aren't possesive.

I'm not crazy. I know she loves me and still wants me when things get better. I have faith

Faith doesn't give your girlfriend trust, because if she believes her friend, she has no trust for you.

Faith doesn't give your girlfriend trust, because if she believes her friend, she has no trust for you.

She never said that she believed her.. Her family is pressuring her into doing something she feels is wrong.. There influencing her..

She never said that she believed her.. Her family is pressuring her into doing something she feels is wrong.. There influencing her..

You have no idea who is influencing who, especially when you are in no contact with her in the first place.

You have no idea who is influencing who, especially when you are in no contact with her in the first place.

When I called her yesterday, she said she couldn't talk to me plus her uncle was right there..

When I called her yesterday, she said she couldn't talk to me plus her uncle was right there..

That doesn't mean they're influencing her. I think you just need to take a deep breath and stop overreacting about this situation.

That doesn't mean they're influencing her. I think you just need to take a deep breath and stop overreacting about this situation.

What should I do then

1. Believe none of what you hear, and half of what you see.

2. Stop over thinking the whole situation.

3. Learn to trust your girlfriend, and the love you have for one another. A year and six months should have been enough time for you to part ways for a little while and not have to worry about her growing away from you.

1. Believe none of what you hear, and half of what you see.

2. Stop over thinking the whole situation.

3. Learn to trust your girlfriend, and the love you have for one another. A year and six months should have been enough time for you to part ways for a little while and not have to worry about her growing away from you.

Ok.. Is it normal for her to ask me what if she finds someone else?

If you have to ask your girlfriend of 1 year and 6 months "What if you find someone else" then maybe you shouldn't be with her, because that says that you don't trust her.

If you have to ask your girlfriend of 1 year and 6 months "What if you find someone else" then maybe you shouldn't be with her, because that says that you don't trust her.

No that's not what I meant... She's the one that asked me saying, "what if I (meaning her) find someone else"

No that's not what I meant... She's the one that asked me saying, "what if I (meaning her) find someone else"

She must be pretty insecure and/or untrustworthy to be asking that.

She must be pretty insecure and/or untrustworthy to be asking that.

Plus her aunt and dad wanted to file a complaint on me for trying to get a hold of her by calling her cousins phone to get in touch with my girl so maybe I should just give her time to think..

You have had sex with their 16 year old daughter and they are not happy about that, I don't much blame them and you are not taking no for an answer. Leave the girl alone until things lighten up with her family. Don't make her choose between you and her family.
You may feel she is your girl, but she is their daughter and she is a minor and under their protection and support. If you care so much for her, give her space.

You have had sex with their 16 year old daughter and they are not happy about that, I don't much blame them and you are not taking no for an answer. Leave the girl alone until things lighten up with her family. Don't make her choose between you and her family.
You may feel she is your girl, but she is their daughter and she is a minor and under their protection and support. If you care so much for her, give her space.

She doesn't like her family at all because they treat her like crap and I am giving her space I haven't texted or called her. Plus I think she's going to wait to be with me also and that she will contact me when she ready to talk to me

You sound very possessive and immature. Many a 16 year old had said their family treats team like crap because they don't let them have their way. What did her parents do, tell her she can't have sex with her boyfriend? She needs to grow up too.
Leave the girl alone. She may contact you, she may not, but you need to butt out.

You sound very possessive and immature. Many a 16 year old had said their family treats team like crap because they don't let them have their way. What did her parents do, tell her she can't have sex with her boyfriend? She needs to grow up too.
Leave the girl alone. She may contact you, she may not, but you need to butt out.

Not possessive or immature so you can stop saying that... And they do because I've seen it and so has a lot of other people including nurses. And that's not it at all. That's just the reason why they don't like me.. Never said it had to do with anything about what I'm talking about now.. And I am leaving her alone. When things cool down a bit I have a feeling I'll hear from her..

Whatever kid.

Whatever kid.

Are you going to reply to what I said?

How do you know what the nurses and other people are thinking about her parents?

How do you know what the nurses and other people are thinking about her parents?

The people I know have told me and I have seen it for myself

How do you know what the nurses and other people are thinking about her parents?

My thoughts exactly, he's over exaggerating and over analyzing everything about this whole situation.

My thoughts exactly, he's over exaggerating and over analyzing everything about this whole situation.

How am I over exaggerating and over analyzing?

How am I over exaggerating and over analyzing?

My goodness, someone lock this thread. You're hopeless.

My goodness, someone lock this thread. You're hopeless.

? All I did was ask a question..?

You know at first you are upset because you thought your girlfriend believed something someone told her, and now you're saying you are believing something someone told you.
This is what you need to do. Leave her alone until she contacts you. The why, at this point is immaterial. She will either contact you or she won't. It's her choice.

You know at first you are upset because you thought your girlfriend believed something someone told her, and now you're saying you are believing something someone told you.
This is what you need to do. Leave her alone until she contacts you. The why, at this point is immaterial. She will either contact you or she won't. It's her choice.

That's what I thought at first and then I just had it mixed up in my head because I was just thinking to hard and I don't have to believe what someone said because I for one saw it for myself.. And OK but I would think he would because we have been through so much and I know her and I know she wouldn't be done like that and or throwing everything away just like that... So yeah I'm going to wait.

Good.

good.

Yeah.. Could she be thinking about me just like I'm thinking about her?

I don't know. She could be.

I don't know. She could be.

Because when we last talked which was yesterday. She said that she was still crying and still has everything I gave her.

I don't know. I would imagine this whole thing is stressful. And isn't she recovering from surgery? She does not need any of this drama

I don't know. I would imagine this whole thing is stressful. And isn't she recovering from surgery? She does not need any of this drama

Ya she can't really do much plus she can't be in the sun for a long time due to her health issues.. She's suppose to be at the hospital but she's at her cousins house instead and the nurses don't even know where or know why she not there.

How do you know this?

How do you know this?

My girlfriend told me. Plus my friend that goes to see my girlfriend asked me why she not there and telling me that the nurses don't even know why she hasn't came back

Well the nurses would not be having a conversation with your friend about her any way. That is not allowed.
You need to just stop listening to things and wait until she contacts you again.
What was wrong with her?

Well the nurses would not be having a conversation with your friend about her any way. That is not allowed.
You need to just stop listening to things and wait until she contacts you again.
What was wrong with her?

She had a stomach alsure and they took it out of her and plus before, she was passing out a lot and unconscious a lot. She has a lot of health issues and that's why she is suppose to be at the hospital.. and that girl telling my girlfriend things that weren't true didn't help at all and it made her think about it and alexis got into her head.. she doesn't need that drama.. and my girlfriend knows that I didn't say that and I have proof on Facebook that I never told my friend to tell alexis that I don't want her and that she doesn't make me happy and that I have other girls to mess around with.. plus my girlfriend was already upset because she couldn't see me and that caused stuff as well when she told me over the phone that we can never get to see each other and stuff and I even told her that we do and that she needed to be patient about everything going on because she was in the hospital and I understood that she was and I wasn't even mad about that at all. I was there for her time and need and then she said that she thought she was holding me back from everything and friends and I even told her that she wasn't. So she's really stressed about what alexis told her but I told her myself how I felt about her and she is just seeming like she stressed and stuck..

She needs to stop listening to gossip and just concentrate on getting better. Dating and be stressful. She could need a break.
You need to stop thinking about all of this so much. It does you no good either.

She needs to stop listening to gossip and just concentrate on getting better. Dating and be stressful. She could need a break.
You need to stop thinking about all of this so much. It does you no good either.

OK what you think I could do to not think about it so much?

Do you have friends, a hobby, a job? Stay busy. Stop listening to people who want to talk about her. Tell them you don't want to hear it.
It's summer. Get out and have some fun.. . and don't check her facbook page if she has one.

Yeah but I know she feels down and stuff and probably thinking about me and plus she can't do much of anything in the condition she's in right now and she doesn't have a Facebook..

What does that have to do with your getting out and doing something beside stewing over what she may or may not be doing?
She will be fine.

But I know she's hurting just like I am..

What does that have to do with your getting out and doing something beside stewing over what she may or may not be doing?
She will be fine.

But I know she's hurting just like I am..

There is nothing you can do for her if she is, but you can get out and not sit around moping. That is if you really want to.

There is nothing you can do for her if she is, but you can get out and not sit around moping. That is if you really want to.

I will go out its just that it won't mean that I'm better and happy

I'm not saying you will be happy, I'm saying it will help you get through this. So do you want your girl friend to know that you are miserable? Do you think that will make her feel better?
I'm assuming it won't.

I'm not saying you will be happy, I'm saying it will help you get through this. So do you want your girl friend to know that you are miserable? Do you think that will make her feel better?
I'm assuming it won't.

She already knows I'm sad and I know she sad too.. And I'm trying, I'm trying it's just hard and you should understand what I'm going through I hope..

I know it's hard but I also know mopping around changes nothing. Make better use of this time

I know it's hard but I also know mopping around changes nothing. Make better use of this time

I'm trying my best.. I really am

Well leave the subject alone for today. Go out to a movie, read book, something to get your mind off this.
I will be here tomorrow if you need me.

Well leave the subject alone for today. Go out to a movie, read book, something to get your mind off this.
I will be here tomorrow if you need me.

Ok thanks so much. I'll send you a message tomorrow

Have a good evening

Ok so yesterday I went to one of my friends birthday dinner at a restaurant and then we all drove to the beach to hang out then went home.. It was good but yet at the end of the day, I think about her and ever since this incident started, I have had that feeling in my stomach you know? Just won't go away.

Anyone there?

I'm glad that you went out.
I can understand your feeling that way. You will have them less and less. Just keep yourself busy

I'm glad that you went out.
I can understand your feeling that way. You will have them less and less. Just keep yourself busy

I know but it's not going to mean I'm happy

You could be relatively so if you want to be. I think you want to be miserable.

You could be relatively so if you want to be. I think you want to be miserable.

What do u mean by that? I'm just asking.

I think you believe that being miserable proves your love for this girl. It's like you're saying to her "see how miserable I am, I love you" It proves nothing and drags you down. Miserable people are not fun people to be around. You get comfortable in your misery and you stay there.
I think you need to shake this off, have fun and live your life as if she may not call you. If she does great, if she doesn't you are on your way to moving on.

I think you believe that being miserable proves your love for this girl. It's like you're saying to her "see how miserable I am, I love you" It proves nothing and drags you down. Miserable people are not fun people to be around. You get comfortable in your misery and you stay there.
I think you need to shake this off, have fun and live your life as if she may not call you. If she does great, if she doesn't you are on your way to moving on.

I'm not trying to be miserable just hard

What do you mean just hard?

What do you mean just hard?

Like this whole situation is hard and all I want to do is talk about it and make things right and better

Talking about it is not going to change it. You need to prepare yourself for the worse( she may not call you back) You can't make things happen in this case. Stop talking so much about this, dwelling on this. It changes nothing

Talking about it is not going to change it. You need to prepare yourself for the worse( she may not call you back) You can't make things happen in this case. Stop talking so much about this, dwelling on this. It changes nothing

I know she's not going to right now because of everything going on right now

Then live your life, have fun. Stop dwelling on this so much. It does not change the situation and it does no good.

Then live your life, have fun. Stop dwelling on this so much. It does not change the situation and it does no good.

I know.. Do u think she will come back to me

I don't know, which is why you need to start living your life and moving on.

I don't know, which is why you need to start living your life and moving on.

I just feel like he trying to please her family first so that she will come back to me. And I even promised her that I wouldn't move on to anyone else.. I can't break that.. Plus it wouldn't feel right with anyone else but her

How are you going to please her family? How do you plan to go about doing that when they don't even like you?
How long are you going to wait for her to call you?

How are you going to please her family? How do you plan to go about doing that when they don't even like you?
How long are you going to wait for her to call you?

Noo, I'm saying that I think she is trying to please her family by not talking to me and when that cools down then she will talk to me and stuff..

Well I hope so, but for you to sit around in a funk waiting is just foolish and it's going to get old. Life is too short. Don't waste too much time waiting for this girl to call you.
If she really wanted to talk to you, communicate with you, she would find a way.

Well I hope so, but for you to sit around in a funk waiting is just foolish and it's going to get old. Life is too short. Don't waste too much time waiting for this girl to call you.
If she really wanted to talk to you, communicate with you, she would find a way.

I am going to go places. And I know she will. She will when she's not around her family

Well I hope she does, but it would be so much easier if she were not sneaking around. All this does is cause more friction with the family and your back to where you are now.
Maybe you two should just break up. If you two are meant to be you'll find each other again when you don't have this family stuff hanging over you. She will be older and more independent of them

Well I hope she does, but it would be so much easier if she were not sneaking around. All this does is cause more friction with the family and your back to where you are now.
Maybe you two should just break up. If you two are meant to be you'll find each other again when you don't have this family stuff hanging over you. She will be older and more independent of them

She not done with me.. I'm just going to wait until I hear from her but I will go out..

Ok.

Ok.

Or do u not think the same as I do

It does not matter what I think because you are going to wait.
I think you two should break up. Her parents don't like you, she is ill and probably stressed by all of this and you are waiting for her to what, disobey her parents and call you?

It does not matter what I think because you are going to wait.
I think you two should break up. Her parents don't like you, she is ill and probably stressed by all of this and you are waiting for her to what, disobey her parents and call you?

I know she wants to talk to me though

I have told you what I think. You do what you want.
She may want to talk to you but this whole situation is not a good one.

I have told you what I think. You do what you want.
She may want to talk to you but this whole situation is not a good one.

That's why I'm trying to fix things

You need to leave things alone. Your trying to fix things can make them worse.

You need to leave things alone. Your trying to fix things can make them worse.

So I should just wait to hear from her

You can wait to hear from her but get on with your life. Prepare yourself for the fact that she may not call you, she may not come back.
Other than that, I don't know what else to tell you.

You can wait to hear from her but get on with your life. Prepare yourself for the fact that she may not call you, she may not come back.
Other than that, I don't know what else to tell you.

All right.. This is hard for me

You know?

I know it is hard. But you will get through this.

I know it is hard. But you will get through this.

I know.. I'm at the beach with my friend then later we are going fishing so I'm trying to stay busy

Good for you. Enjoy yourself. I'm proud of you

Good for you. Enjoy yourself. I'm proud of you

Thanks. I'll contact you a little later

So the beach was good. I was hoping to see her there but didn't so me and my friend were chilling and we didn't get to fish cause it was getting late. Then my friend texts me asking what was wrong with me and I told her and then she was going to speak to my girlfriend and she asked her what was going on and she said that she didn't want to talk about it and that its too much drama right now.

Leave it alone. Stop talking about it to people who know her hoping it will get back to her. You are causing more harm than good. That is why I said don't try and fix anything.
Leave it alone. She will contact you when and if she wants to. In the meantime live your life

Leave it alone. Stop talking about it to people who know her hoping it will get back to her. You are causing more harm than good. That is why I said don't try and fix anything.
Leave it alone. She will contact you when and if she wants to. In the meantime live your life

I am.. I'm just saying. U know

You said you were hoping to see her at the beach. Why? You talked to someone who knows her about what was going on. I told you not to do that. It got back to her, I think you knew it would. Stop talking about it to people who know her. Stop trying to fix things. Leave it alone.

You said you were hoping to see her at the beach. Why? You talked to someone who knows her about what was going on. I told you not to do that. It got back to her, I think you knew it would. Stop talking about it to people who know her. Stop trying to fix things. Leave it alone.

They just wanted to know what was wrong.. I'll just let things cool down

You say what she said." I don't want to talk about it"

You say what she said." I don't want to talk about it"

I will.. The only thing I can do is pray

Now that's a thought!

Now that's a thought!

Yes. But I'm going to try my hardest and stay positive

Yes. But I'm going to try my hardest and stay positive

I hope no one minds if I jump in here. I can tell you are trying to leave it alone and get on with your life.
But you really need to continue to take Homegirls advice about not contacting her and talking about her to friends in the hopes that it will get back to her.
I say this mainly for one reason, this girl has health issues one of which is stomach ulcers.
I have ulcers and have for many years so I know how things may affect her physically.
Continuing to try and stay in her life, thoughts and conversations no doubt makes her feel like she is in the middle of you and her family. In the middle is not a fun place to be.
I'm sure this is stressful for her and one of the worst things for ulcers is stress.
So if you love her as you say then think of her health and let it be.
Keep going out with your friends and having fun, but leave her out of it.
Maybe she will get to a place where she contacts you, maybe not, but you must not put your life on hold.
As far as her parents go, I'm sure they are upset about the fact that there was sexual contact, but at the same time they are concerned about her health I'm sure.
Understand those two facts and you may see where they are coming from.
Kudos for trying so hard and keep the positive attitude.

I hope no one minds if i jump in here. I can tell you are trying to leave it alone and get on with your life.
But you really need to continue to take Homegirls advice about not contacting her and talking about her to friends in the hopes that it will get back to her.
I say this mainly for one reason, this girl has health issues one of which is stomach ulcers.
I have ulcers and have for many years so I know how things may affect her physically.
Continuing to try and stay in her life, thoughts and conversations no doubt makes her feel like she is in the middle of you and her family. In the middle is not a fun place to be.
I'm sure this is stressful for her and one of the worst things for ulcers is stress.
So if you love her as you say then think of her health and let it be.
Keep going out with your friends and having fun, but leave her out of it.
Maybe she will get to a place where she contacts you, maybe not, but you must not put your life on hold.
As far as her parents go, I'm sure they are upset about the fact that there was sexual contact, but at the same time they are concerned about her health I'm sure.
Understand those two facts and you may see where they are coming from.
Kudos for trying so hard and keep the positive attitude.

I know what you mean.. I haven't contacted her or anything.. I'm just going to pray

I know what you mean.. I haven't contacted her or anything.. I'm just going to pray

I know what you mean.. I haven't contacted her or anything.. I'm just going to pray

Do you think she will get to a place to where she can contact me?

Do you think she will get to a place to where she can contact me?

No one can possibly know the answer to that.
Time will tell. You really need to stop stressing about it, your young, it's summer-go enjoy it.

No one can possibly know the answer to that.
Time will tell. You really need to stop stressing about it, your young, it's summer-go enjoy it.

Ok.. And my friend just texted me saying she talked to hailey and she sounded really upset about all of this.

So what! You already knew that. Tell your friends to stop talking to you about this.

So what! You already knew that. Tell your friends to stop talking to you about this.

I know she's not going to give up and everything. And I didn't even tell my friend to talk to her about it

I know she's not going to give up and everything. And I didn't even tell my friend to talk to her about it

But you could have said don't talk to me about it.
She may give up if people keep bugging her

But you could have said don't talk to me about it.
She may give up if people keep bugging her

No ones bugging her and she wouldn't give up like that...

If people are asking her what's wrong (for the past two days anyway) and she is saying this situation has her stressed, they are bugging her.
You believe what you want to believe, but I'm telling you, when you get tired of being asked about something sooner or later you are going to say "forget it, I'm done"

If people are asking her what's wrong (for the past two days anyway) and she is saying this situation has her stressed, they are bugging her.
You believe what you want to believe, but I'm telling you, when you get tired of being asked about something sooner or later you are going to say "forget it, I'm done"

Ok.. I'll tell them not to ask her anymore

The less she is stressed the better.

The less she is stressed the better.

So now her dad is being a douche bag and filed another report on me for assault and battery that I never even did

When and how did all of this happen. I did not know there was a first charge.

When and how did all of this happen. I did not know there was a first charge.

It's in this whole conversation we have been having... I even told you.. But her dad went to the court house today and wanted to file another report on me for assault and battery in April when I truly and honestly didn't even do anything like that.. Her father wants me to really go down.. And so does her aunt and uncle..

It's in this whole conversation we have been having... I even told you.. But her dad went to the court house today and wanted to file another report on me for assault and battery in April when I truly and honestly didn't even do anything like that.. Her father wants me to really go down.. And so does her aunt and uncle..
How do you know he did this. He is charging you with assault because you had sexual contact with his daughter?

How do you know he did this. He is charging you with assault because you had sexual contact with his daughter?

I know for a fact he did because the lady called my parents and she said he's the one that went down there to file the report.. I listened to the whole conversation

What was the assault, and what happened with the first one he filed?

What was the assault, and what happened with the first one he filed?

Supposivly hitting her when I really didn't and her aunt wanted to say that she had bruises when she really doesn't.. All she has is cuts on her arm from when she cut my name on her arm

This is a mess. What happened to the first set of charges? Were they dismissed?

This is a mess. What happened to the first set of charges? Were they dismissed?

Exactly... And I'm not sure if they are or not..

Your mom would know. Did you have to go to court? Was there ever a case brought?

Your mom would know. Did you have to go to court? Was there ever a case brought?

I know but I'm saying the lady at the court didn't say they dropped it.. And what do you mean

And do you think she will defend me in court?

You said he filed another report. Did you ever go to court for the first one?

I would hope and assume that she would tell the truth if she had to testify.

You said he filed another report. Did you ever go to court for the first one?

I would hope and assume that she would tell the truth if she had to testify.

No because we don't know the date yet and I think she would defend me

Well try not to think about it.
What does your mom think about her?

Well try not to think about it.
What does your mom think about her?

Don't you think in your own opinion she would too? And she thinks that it's the family trying to get me in a lot of trouble and dig a deep enough hole

I would hope she would. I don't know her. I don't know how much control they have over her.
That is something else you need to think about. If she is totally controlled by her family to the point that she would lie, you need to dump her because your life will be nothing but trouble.

I would hope she would. I don't know her. I don't know how much control they have over her.
That is something else you need to think about. If she is totally controlled by her family to the point that she would lie, you need to dump her because your life will be nothing but trouble.

Well she can't get in contact with me right now.. And they are just saying that she isn't allowed to talk to me.. But I know she wouldn't lie.. And she isn't the kind of person that would just say "f you" then leave that person.. We been through too much and when we couldn't talk for days last summer when her parents found out we had relations.. But then she found a way to talk to me and she never gave up cause our love is that strong

Well you be very careful. Stay away from her. Let her call you and still be careful until all of this mess is settled.
Do you have plans for the weekend?

Plus I think she would get in trouble for lien in court anyway.. but I think she will defend me.

I'm planning on going to the beach with some friends tomorrow

Well have fun

Well have fun

I'll try.. Hopefully her dad won't try to get me in more trouble...

You just concentrate on having fun.

You just concentrate on having fun.

Ok.. You think in your opinion that she's stressing too?

I'm sure she is. Don't worry about it.
Have fun this weekend

I'm sure she is. Don't worry about it.
Have fun this weekend

I'll try.. And I think I should pray as well..

I'll try.. And I think I should pray as well..

For sure and I will be praying for you.
Enjoy your weekend

Thanks, I can write you on here again later if that would be OK?

OK

Thanks for your help and support

You're welcome

Ugh I just broke down out of no where.. :"(

That is understandable. You will be OK. Hang in there

That is understandable. You will be OK. Hang in there

I'm trying I really am.. Like everything on TV is about relationships especially movies and stuff and Facebook, people are talking about their relationships and everything..

I'm trying I really am.. Like everything on TV is about relationships especially movies and stuff and Facebook, people are talking about their relationships and everything..

Stop watching that stuff. You will be okay .It is late here
We can talk tomorrow

Ok.. Have a good night..

Ok.. Have a good night..

Morning.. I had another restless night..

Morning.. I had another restless night..

You will probably have quite a few of those, but it will get better, you will get through this.

You will probaly have quite a few of those, but it will get better, you will get through this.

I cried a lot in the shower.. Do u think she is thinking about me?

I cried a lot in the shower.. Do u think she is thinking about me? Just really having a bad morning...

I cried a lot in the shower.. Do u think she is thinking about me? Just really having a bad morning...

I'm sure she is. There is a lot going on and you are in the middle of it

Get out today and have some fun

I'm sure she is. There is a lot going on and you are in the middle of it

Get out today and have some fun

I know.. I'm going to the beach again with some people and I'll let you know how that goes

Have fun

Have fun

Thanks

The beach was good.. Was there practically all day. Didn't think about the situation.. But yet I saw couples and thought of me and her

That is normal and understandable, but you didn't think about the situation. Good!

That is normal and understandable, but you didn't think about the situation. Good!

Do you think I will end up having her in the end?

I don't know. I will say that at your age, not likely. It is very rare that the person you are with in your teens id=s the one you end up with.
But that is not true in all cases.

I think she needs to be more independent from her family and that is not going to happen until she is older

I don't know. I will say that at your age, not likely. It is very rare that the person you are with in your teens id=s the one you end up with.
But that is not true in all cases.

I think she needs to be more independent from her family and that is not going to happen until she is older

Our love is too strong to let go like that.. We've been through a lot together for it to end up like that..

Our love is too strong to let go like that.. We've been through a lot together for it to end up like that..

I'm just telling you how things are. It's late here, have a good night.

I'm just telling you how things are. It's late here, have a good night.

Can we talk about this tomorro?

Sure

Sure

Ok

Hey you don't listen to the other comments telling you that you shouldn't trust her did she tell you she didn't trust you?? If you truly love her go to that hospital and show her( GRAND GESTURE ) you NEVER let anyone stop you from loving the person you love, love is what keeps us all together without love people would be killing each other so you keep your head up and your smile on and you go see that girl and explain to her parents that she is one of the reasons you can't wait to wake up in the morning don't stop trying if you really love here like you say keep trying till her/your heart stops beating <3


ALWAYS and FOREVER

hey you don't listen to the other comments telling you that you shouldn't trust her did she tell you she didn't trust you ??? if you truly love her go to that hospital and show her( GRAND GESTURE ) you NEVER let anyone stop you from loving the person you love, love is what keeps us all together without love people would be killing each other so you keep your head up and your smile on and you go see that girl and explain to her parents that she is one of the reasons you can't wait to wake up in the morning don't stop trying if you really love here like you say keep trying till her/your heart stops beating <3


ALWAYS and FOREVER

She's at her cousins house phone and Im just waiting to hear from her.. But she never said she didn't trust me. She knows I love her and that I'm busting my butt to keep her and I just hope that she will contact me soon when her parents aren't around. But I'm not going to give up my love for her because it's too strong and I know she wouldn't just throw that away.. Neither would I.

I'm really upset... :(

ommi_kosher there is a lot involved in this and obviously you have not read enough of this thread to know that. She is no longer in the hospital and there are reasons he can't just go waltzing up to her.
He is on the right track

Noko2149 there is a lot involved in this and obviously you have not read enough of this thread to know that. She is mo longer in the hospital and there are reasons he can't just go waltzing up to her. He is on the right track

Homegirl

Noko2149 there is a lot involved in this and obviously you have not read enough of this thread to know that. She is mo longer in the hospital and there are reasons he can't just go waltzing up to her. He is on the right track

Homegirl50... I'm really upset and trying to keep my tears in but it's not working..

I did not mean to post that one thing yo you but to the other person who replied.

I know this is hard for you but you will get through this.
I'm going to suggest you stop talking about it so much. It keeps you too focused on it.
If her dad has charges filed against you, that should be your biggest concern, not this girl.
You need to get back to living. Do you have a job?
Do some volunteer work at an animal shelter or something. But stop obsessing over this girl

I did not mean to post that one thing yo you but to the other person who replied.

I know this is hard for you but you will get through this.
I'm going to suggest you stop talking about it so much. It keeps you too focused on it.
If her dad has charges filed against you, that should be your biggest concern, not this girl.
You need to get back to living. Do you have a job?
Do some volunteer work at an animal shelter or something. But stop obsessing over this girl

I'm not trying to make it seem like I'm obsessing over her. I just love and care for her.. We have just been through so much.. But I try every second to stay busy and I do but at the end of the day. I just can't stop thinking about her and the times that we have had.. My mom says that she thinks she won't move on either cause of what we have been through plus she isn't that type of person to let go of something that important..

Well keep doing what you're doing. It will get easier.

Well keep doing what you're doing. It will get easier.

But what you think about it like your opinion

I have told you many times what I think.
I think once all this blows over that will be it. I will be surprised if she calls.
I think you ought to prepare yourself for that.

I have told you many times what I think.
I think once all this blows over that will be it. I will be surprised if she calls.
I think you ought to prepare yourself for that.

What do you mean? She's not done with me. She never said she was

You asked me what I thought and I told you. She has not said she is done but that does not mean that once all of this blows over she won't be. There is too much drama in this relationship for it to continue.
This is just my opinion

You asked me what I thought and I told you. She has not said she is done but that does not mean that once all of this blows over she won't be. There is too much drama in this relationship for it to continue.
This is just my opinion

It's drama with her family not wanting her to be with me

The drama is there no matter where it comes from. How long have you two been dating?

The drama is there no matter where it comes from. How long have you two been dating?

A year and 6 months and the love is so strong

How long have you been having problems with her family? So you started dating her when she was 14 or so, almost 15? She does not even know who she is. This relationship is too intense. You need some growing up time.

How long have you been having problems with her family? So you started dating her when she was 14 or so, almost 15? She does not even know who she is. This relationship is too intense. You need some growing up time.

Ever since last summer when they found out we had relations.. She was only in trouble for a little bit but got her phone back and everything. And we were dating when she was 15 and I was 16.. And that's a long relationship and I don't know why your trying to turn on me when I'm just talking about my feelings...

I'm not turning on you. You asked my opinion. Just because it is not what you want to hear it does mean I'm turning on you. I just want you to be prepared and think realistically.

.

[QUOTE=noko2149;3166329]Ever since last summer when they found out we had relations.. She was only in trouble for a little bit but got her phone back and everything. And we were dating when she was 15 and I was 16.. And that's a long relationship and I don't know why your trying to turn on me when I'm just talking about my feelings... [/QUOTE
So when did her dad file charges against you? There is a lot of drama here

[QUOTE=noko2149;3166329]Ever since last summer when they found out we had relations.. She was only in trouble for a lil bit but got her phone back and everything. and we were dating when she was 15 and I was 16.. And that's a long relationship and I don't know why your trying to turn on me when I'm just talking about my feelings ...[/QUOTE
so when did her dad file charges against you? There is a lot of drama here

I am.. I'm out I'll contact you later

Have fun

Have fun

My girl friend called me

Good!

You and she's willing to work things out and everything

Good. Did you ask her about the charges filed?

Is she going to be able to see and talk to you freely?

Is she going to be able to see and talk to you freely?

We couldn't talk for long because her family was around her and she was whispering.. But she did say that she isn't mad at me or anything. She just doesn't want to get us in trouble and that she loves and still wants me and everything but seeing each other, we have to see what happens in court but her and I are on the same page and everything and both are relieved.

Good.
Have a good evening.

Good.
Have a good evening.

Can I hit u up tomorrow

Are you surprised that she called?

Not really. I think you two need to be careful. You still have these charges against you. In fact I think you need to not communicate at all until this is settled. This is really a mess.

Not really. I think you two need to be careful. You still have these charges against you. In fact I think you need to not communicate at all until this is settled. This is really a mess.

I am being careful. It just feels good to know that she never gave up or anything and loves and wants me and wants to work things out. But I know we still have court but I know it's not going to get between us. When she had called, she seemed upset and was whispering on the phone and she was telling me that she has been in hell and I asked her what do you mean been in hell? And then the call hung up and I'm thinking she had to hide from her parents... But I know everything isn't 100% yet.

Well I'm glad she called. Maybe you will relax a little bit.

Well I'm glad she called. Maybe you will relax a little bit.

I am it's just a lot going on.. What could you have think she was talking about when she said that she's been in hell?

I don't know. Maybe her parents are talking about you, maybe she misses you. I don't know.
Stop wondering so much. She called you, now chill out a bit.

I don't know. Maybe her parents are talking about you, maybe she misses you. I don't know.
Stop wondering so much. She called you, now chill out a bit.

..? I was just asking a question...

And I'm just saying... stop thinking so much about it.

And I'm just saying...stop thinking so much about it.

I won't be though.

It will be hard I know but at least you know where you stand with her. So just remember that thought and stop thinking about the negative.

It will be hard I know but at least you know where you stand with her. So just remember that thought and stop thinking about the negative.

I will just praying that this court thing will go smooth

If your girl friend tells the truth, and Im sure she will, it should be OK.

If your girl friend tells the truth, and Im sure she will, it should be OK.

I'm sure she would because she wouldn't have talked to me last night if she wasn't on the same page as me

I'm sure she would because she wouldn't have talked to me last night if she wasn't on the same page as me

I'm sure she would because she wouldn't have talked to me last night if she wasn't on the same page as me

Well there you go. Stop worrying about your place with her.

Well there you go. Stop worrying about your place with her.

Why do u think I'm worrying

Because you keep bringing this up.
Go out and have fun.

Because you keep bringing this up.
Go out and have fun.

Couldn't go out today cause of the storm.. But I didn't mean to keep bringing it up like that.

That's OK. I just don't want you to dwell on this. Think positive

That's OK. I just don't want you to dwell on this. Think positive

I will.. I'm about to go fishing with my friend I'll talk to u in a few

OK. Enjoy yourself

So around 10:50 last night when I was fishing with my friend, there was a cop shining his spot like in front of the houses down my street and he stopped at my house and got out the car and gave my dad the court papers and it said that I have court on the 9th of July.. Which is the day before me and my girlfriends anniversary... :(

Well let me know how it goes.

Well let me know how it goes.

I will... But I'm really nervous

I'm sure you are. If your girl friend tells the truth you have nothing to worry about.

I'm sure you are. If your girl friend tells the truth you have nothing to worry about.

It's not that.. I just haven't been in this situation before and I shouldn't have to go through this but her dad and aunt want to overdo things..

I know it is a crazy situation. Things will work out though, The truth will come out.

I know it is a crazy situation. Things will work out though, The truth will come out.

What do you mean the truth will come out

That you did not no what they said you did. Whatever the truth is, it will come out

That you did not no what they said you did. Whatever the truth is, it will come out

I know just a lot going on

I know just a lot going on

Hello?