latinheart
Feb 28, 2012, 01:55 PM
Hi,
Here it goes.. I have been in a NC for 2 weeks already. I haven't heard from her since.
We have been dating for 4 months, everything was great, the spark was there. I remembered her telling me "I want you to be my man", you have all the quality that I am looking in a man. She told me that she has never had as much fun with anybody else as she has with me. In many occasions she mentioned that when she is with me she feels so comfortable that she doesn't have to pretend to be anybody else, that she feels that she can be herself. Sex was completely out of this world, we both had this chemistry. WE made love for hours 4-5times per week. We simply couldn't take our hand from each other. She will tell me that I make her feel in bed like nobody else, that she loves how I touch her, make her feel, etc.
She was sent from work out of the country for a couple of months. We talk everyday, communication was going great. She wanted to see me so we arranged to me somewhere in between for a weekend. That weekend was amazing! Once again we fell into each other arms, we made love 3 times every day for the whole weekend. It was great, until in that weekend she told me that her ex contacted her (sent text saying hi, nothing sexual or that he misses her... NOTHING like that! ). They dated for 2yrs, almost 4 yrs ago!! She was crying telling me that she has been trying to get over him for 4 yrs (FYI he dumped her 4yrs ago). She told me that she never felt and had such a great time as we both have. And that she doesn't know how to over come him. She told me that she doesn't want to hurt me, because she likes me a lot, that I so hot, hot body, amazing person, have a huge heart etc. She told me that she is so upset because of this, and that this have been the only reason why she hasn't been giving herself to me 100%. Long story short, for the remainder of the weekend we had a blast.
We both left to our respective countries. We were still talking, until 3 weeks ago, she started to cried on telling me that she cannot get over him, and that she is trying, and that she likes me a lot (she has love for me, etc). So we broke up, she told me that she needed space to figure out how deep are her feeling for me. FYI, her family likes me a lot! We spoke 3 weeks ago and she told me that I am amazing, that her family told her that. She even told me that she misses me, but that she needs to figure out what she wants, etc. I asked her "are you going back with your ex?" she responded that she doesn't know. That she needs this time to think and figure things out. I told her that I liked her so much and that we were meant to be, that the chemistry was undeniable, the way we met, everything!! She told me that she can't be in a relationship right now, and that she doesn't know until when. That she needs to figure things out. She told me to go and meet another girl, I got so upset and asked her, is that what you want? She said NO, but that she is no one to stop me from that. I asked her if she would get hurt if I have sex with another woman, she responded that it will hurt her so much, but that she cannot stop me from doing that because she doesn't know when will she be ready to make her decision. I am very hurt, this all came as a surprise to me!! I don't know what to think and do. What should I do? Should I continue the NC?
She will be coming back on the middle of this month (March). I remembered that she told me that she will try and contact me when she is back... She also mentioned that she will have to meet with her ex to look for some closure and talk things.. I feel betrayed.. She also told me that she will tried and not contact me until she gets back. I asked her if she has been in touch with her ex, she replied NO that she has received texts from him but that she ignore them. That she is going to use this time for herself and figure things out.. I believed that what we had was amazing, we both agreed on that!. I need help to figure out if I should walk away, break the NC, ADVICE, etc... I am dying to hear from her, I want to know if she is thinking about me the same way I am thinking about her. I really liked this woman.
Any feed back? I am desperate... :( Is it OVER for good? Would I hear from her soon?
NOTES:
1. The reality is that she was the one that was pushing for a relationship in the first place. And now that I was giving her one she is doing this. I felt betrayed.
2. I sent her flower on Valentines day, she loved them, she told me that she doesn't remember when was the last time she got flower and specially in Valentines Day, she also told me that she doesn't deserve them since she has hurt me a lot lately. At that time we were already apart.
What should I do if she contacts me, how should I act? Since she is out town she normally BBM's me.
Here it goes.. I have been in a NC for 2 weeks already. I haven't heard from her since.
We have been dating for 4 months, everything was great, the spark was there. I remembered her telling me "I want you to be my man", you have all the quality that I am looking in a man. She told me that she has never had as much fun with anybody else as she has with me. In many occasions she mentioned that when she is with me she feels so comfortable that she doesn't have to pretend to be anybody else, that she feels that she can be herself. Sex was completely out of this world, we both had this chemistry. WE made love for hours 4-5times per week. We simply couldn't take our hand from each other. She will tell me that I make her feel in bed like nobody else, that she loves how I touch her, make her feel, etc.
She was sent from work out of the country for a couple of months. We talk everyday, communication was going great. She wanted to see me so we arranged to me somewhere in between for a weekend. That weekend was amazing! Once again we fell into each other arms, we made love 3 times every day for the whole weekend. It was great, until in that weekend she told me that her ex contacted her (sent text saying hi, nothing sexual or that he misses her... NOTHING like that! ). They dated for 2yrs, almost 4 yrs ago!! She was crying telling me that she has been trying to get over him for 4 yrs (FYI he dumped her 4yrs ago). She told me that she never felt and had such a great time as we both have. And that she doesn't know how to over come him. She told me that she doesn't want to hurt me, because she likes me a lot, that I so hot, hot body, amazing person, have a huge heart etc. She told me that she is so upset because of this, and that this have been the only reason why she hasn't been giving herself to me 100%. Long story short, for the remainder of the weekend we had a blast.
We both left to our respective countries. We were still talking, until 3 weeks ago, she started to cried on telling me that she cannot get over him, and that she is trying, and that she likes me a lot (she has love for me, etc). So we broke up, she told me that she needed space to figure out how deep are her feeling for me. FYI, her family likes me a lot! We spoke 3 weeks ago and she told me that I am amazing, that her family told her that. She even told me that she misses me, but that she needs to figure out what she wants, etc. I asked her "are you going back with your ex?" she responded that she doesn't know. That she needs this time to think and figure things out. I told her that I liked her so much and that we were meant to be, that the chemistry was undeniable, the way we met, everything!! She told me that she can't be in a relationship right now, and that she doesn't know until when. That she needs to figure things out. She told me to go and meet another girl, I got so upset and asked her, is that what you want? She said NO, but that she is no one to stop me from that. I asked her if she would get hurt if I have sex with another woman, she responded that it will hurt her so much, but that she cannot stop me from doing that because she doesn't know when will she be ready to make her decision. I am very hurt, this all came as a surprise to me!! I don't know what to think and do. What should I do? Should I continue the NC?
She will be coming back on the middle of this month (March). I remembered that she told me that she will try and contact me when she is back... She also mentioned that she will have to meet with her ex to look for some closure and talk things.. I feel betrayed.. She also told me that she will tried and not contact me until she gets back. I asked her if she has been in touch with her ex, she replied NO that she has received texts from him but that she ignore them. That she is going to use this time for herself and figure things out.. I believed that what we had was amazing, we both agreed on that!. I need help to figure out if I should walk away, break the NC, ADVICE, etc... I am dying to hear from her, I want to know if she is thinking about me the same way I am thinking about her. I really liked this woman.
Any feed back? I am desperate... :( Is it OVER for good? Would I hear from her soon?
NOTES:
1. The reality is that she was the one that was pushing for a relationship in the first place. And now that I was giving her one she is doing this. I felt betrayed.
2. I sent her flower on Valentines day, she loved them, she told me that she doesn't remember when was the last time she got flower and specially in Valentines Day, she also told me that she doesn't deserve them since she has hurt me a lot lately. At that time we were already apart.
What should I do if she contacts me, how should I act? Since she is out town she normally BBM's me.