LarryAB
Feb 21, 2012, 11:08 AM
We first started talking almost two years ago, and things were great. I am in the military and I ended up deploying four months later. The last month I was in the US I didn't see her much because of being so busy. Before I left I told her not to wait for me because I wasn't sure if I would make it back. About a month of being gone I emailed her and said I don't think I could do a long distant relationship and called it off. About a month before I got back I told her I was sorry and I explained to her that I didn't want her to wait because I thought it would be selfish of me to make her wait for me ( and that is the truth).
During the last month things were going well. When I got back I suffered from night terrors, anxiety, and distance from people so I told her I wasn't ready again. I told her I want to get help. A month or so after I was back I was on the road to recovery and I started talking to her again. We have been together 4 months and 1 week today. Things were going well up until about three weeks ago, she said she felt smothered. She was single three years before she met me and I was single three years too. I was over 4-5 days a week now I only go over 2-3 times a week.
I know there is no one else, because I am with her or on the phone with her all the time. I have a key to her house so I can come and go when I please. I ruled out someone else, but she still seems distant. I have asked her about it and she said she just needs time to heal because I have left so much. She still tells me she loves me, but when I have to leave I am overtaken with a great sorrow. I get very depressed and I feel that we might break up. We are still together and I still see her often, I just get sad when we have a part ways. I get sad if she doesn't call me or respond to my text messages. Does this space mean she really needs space or does it mean she is bored with this relationship?
* Through out the whole time I saw no one else.
**I have become more insecure since I have been with her.
***How do I not worry?
****If I give her space how long do I have to not respond to her texts? Because she still talks calls or texts me daily.
Thank you!
During the last month things were going well. When I got back I suffered from night terrors, anxiety, and distance from people so I told her I wasn't ready again. I told her I want to get help. A month or so after I was back I was on the road to recovery and I started talking to her again. We have been together 4 months and 1 week today. Things were going well up until about three weeks ago, she said she felt smothered. She was single three years before she met me and I was single three years too. I was over 4-5 days a week now I only go over 2-3 times a week.
I know there is no one else, because I am with her or on the phone with her all the time. I have a key to her house so I can come and go when I please. I ruled out someone else, but she still seems distant. I have asked her about it and she said she just needs time to heal because I have left so much. She still tells me she loves me, but when I have to leave I am overtaken with a great sorrow. I get very depressed and I feel that we might break up. We are still together and I still see her often, I just get sad when we have a part ways. I get sad if she doesn't call me or respond to my text messages. Does this space mean she really needs space or does it mean she is bored with this relationship?
* Through out the whole time I saw no one else.
**I have become more insecure since I have been with her.
***How do I not worry?
****If I give her space how long do I have to not respond to her texts? Because she still talks calls or texts me daily.
Thank you!