IncognitoWifey
Dec 6, 2011, 07:23 PM
My fiancé and I met online. We fell in 'love' overnight and barely spent a moment apart since. He moved in with me a couple months after meeting. The passion and closeness was definitely there. During the good times, it seemed we were invincible together and could conquer anything.
The bad:
His first visit here he left his Facebook up and I discovered messages between him and a girl he went to college with when we'd met. He was essentially leading her on. "I almost kissed you..." and so forth.
He cried, apologized and promised I was his soulmate and he'd never do it again.
After living together, getting engaged and just recently finding out I'm pregnant... We started fighting, a LOT. And serious fights that escalate into screaming fits where he rages and storms out. Fights that start over laundry or cat poop. Can this relationship really truly be ended over cat poop?
Also, he works odd hours and I never know where he is or what he's doing. He talks about fantasies of us doing nefarious things in his break room... Could he be doing them with the attractive flirty coworkers he's always talking with? I don't know if I can trust him after the initial deceit.
The good:
He's agreed to try to go to counseling. We don't have the money, but he is trying to find a way. He obviously has serious anger issues and is willing to work on them. Or so he says.
On one hand, I feel obligated to work on the relationship in order to provide two parents for our child.
On the other hand, I don't want our child in a hate-filled war zone.
The bad:
His first visit here he left his Facebook up and I discovered messages between him and a girl he went to college with when we'd met. He was essentially leading her on. "I almost kissed you..." and so forth.
He cried, apologized and promised I was his soulmate and he'd never do it again.
After living together, getting engaged and just recently finding out I'm pregnant... We started fighting, a LOT. And serious fights that escalate into screaming fits where he rages and storms out. Fights that start over laundry or cat poop. Can this relationship really truly be ended over cat poop?
Also, he works odd hours and I never know where he is or what he's doing. He talks about fantasies of us doing nefarious things in his break room... Could he be doing them with the attractive flirty coworkers he's always talking with? I don't know if I can trust him after the initial deceit.
The good:
He's agreed to try to go to counseling. We don't have the money, but he is trying to find a way. He obviously has serious anger issues and is willing to work on them. Or so he says.
On one hand, I feel obligated to work on the relationship in order to provide two parents for our child.
On the other hand, I don't want our child in a hate-filled war zone.