My fiancé and I met online. We fell in 'love' overnight and barely spent a moment apart since. He moved in with me a couple months after meeting. The passion and closeness was definitely there. During the good times, it seemed we were invincible together and could conquer anything.

The bad:
His first visit here he left his Facebook up and I discovered messages between him and a girl he went to college with when we'd met. He was essentially leading her on. "I almost kissed you..." and so forth.
He cried, apologized and promised I was his soulmate and he'd never do it again.

After living together, getting engaged and just recently finding out I'm pregnant... We started fighting, a LOT. And serious fights that escalate into screaming fits where he rages and storms out. Fights that start over laundry or cat poop. Can this relationship really truly be ended over cat poop?

Also, he works odd hours and I never know where he is or what he's doing. He talks about fantasies of us doing nefarious things in his break room... Could he be doing them with the attractive flirty coworkers he's always talking with? I don't know if I can trust him after the initial deceit.

The good:
He's agreed to try to go to counseling. We don't have the money, but he is trying to find a way. He obviously has serious anger issues and is willing to work on them. Or so he says.

On one hand, I feel obligated to work on the relationship in order to provide two parents for our child.

On the other hand, I don't want our child in a hate-filled war zone.

Yes, your family is important.

Sounds like he is willing to make things work. Open to doing so. Make sure that happens.
Talk, make rules for talking. Look to free counseling. Keep that up.

Probably a long time coming.
You both got into this so fast, both of your heads are spinning.

Now reality. Keep the talks real.

It can work if you stop arguing and start building a foundation through honest communications. You know the part you skipped when you rushed into love, sex, and babies. Where is the trust? You both have issues and should forgive and be good to each other.

How old are you both?

We're 20 and 25. I guess I'm just panicking because each time I feel like we're working in the right direction, he snaps about something.

For instance: I asked him 2 days ago if he could please delete the comments from his exes on Facebook. He agreed. He spends at least 3 hours a day on Facebook. I asked him again this afternoon. He got uncomfortable and awkward and yelled at me for hovering. I left the room. He snapped at me for "storming off". Our fight turned into him getting in my face screaming and threatening to lie to gain custody of the baby.

Do either of you have counseling available through your work? Any connection to a church where you might be able to obtain counseling? Have you contacted several counselors to discuss what their fees are and whether they offer sliding scales based on income?

When he is home, what else does he do besides Facebook? What things do the two of you do together? Three hours, everyday, is quite a bit.

How long have the two of you been together? Is he willing to sit down with you to discuss things? Perhaps make a time when he will be home and the two of you set time aside specifically to discuss how your relationship is going so far, what the concerns are that each of you have, where you are headed as a couple and family, and what things both of you can work on. Then come to an agreement as to when some of those things will be taken care of. For example, if he agrees to delete the comments, it is done by Saturday. That way he doesn't feel you are looking over his shoulder and he is less likely to dig in his heels because of it. Of course it also means he would need to keep his end of the agreement.

You may need to also agree on topics that should not be brought up, such as the lying to obtain custody. Threats are never healthy for a relationship.

The counseling will help you both learn ways to work out your disagreements without resorting to screaming and threatening. It would be something both of you would have to agree upon and be committed to making work, as old habits take time to change.

I'd say put marriage on hold until these things are resolved. Agree that you both want to enter your marriage with the tools to have a healthy relationship... your child, and the two of you, deserve it.