allthatshimmers
Nov 13, 2011, 01:08 PM
Can an ex's feelings come back? :/
So we went out for 3 months <3. then broke up for more than 3 months (I did the no contact rule and it worked, but then we discovered feelings changed because plan to see each other NEVER worked </3. But then I tried something: if I wanted to get back together, I'm going to need to rebuild the friendship (this boy gets very shy when it comes to relationships & I have been so patient. After all this time... I think I've been wanting to be with him for all this time to be honest. I knew of the dangerous push that would be to speak up and say "I want you back".) I never let him see me upset- only happy.
So part of my plan to win him back, we went to homecoming together and instantly we both knew feelings came back. I didn't want to leave him and we held hands and BAM- first time ever made out in public- heat of the moment. Lol.
But that night, he asked to go back out. That's what I wanted right? So of course I said yes. But then the next 2 weekends, plans DID NOT work out!? So that was his excuse again to "just be friends". I was so ANGRY I didn't talk to him for a week. But then we privately talked to bring a mutual sense. And now we are JUST FRIENDS. :(
This kid does not know what he wants and in my mind I feel like all I've doen since we broke up first is chasing him. I know it's wrong, but I want it to work. THE PROBLEM WAS WE NEVER COULD HANGOUT. Like that couldn't have been talked through?
My conclusion is that we took homecoming night too fast... </3 And it makes me sad to know that we could be together. He said we could still hangout after our second break up talk. I want to.
Can his feelings come back AGAIN ? :/
HELP.
-allthashimmers HAD FADED
So we went out for 3 months <3. then broke up for more than 3 months (I did the no contact rule and it worked, but then we discovered feelings changed because plan to see each other NEVER worked </3. But then I tried something: if I wanted to get back together, I'm going to need to rebuild the friendship (this boy gets very shy when it comes to relationships & I have been so patient. After all this time... I think I've been wanting to be with him for all this time to be honest. I knew of the dangerous push that would be to speak up and say "I want you back".) I never let him see me upset- only happy.
So part of my plan to win him back, we went to homecoming together and instantly we both knew feelings came back. I didn't want to leave him and we held hands and BAM- first time ever made out in public- heat of the moment. Lol.
But that night, he asked to go back out. That's what I wanted right? So of course I said yes. But then the next 2 weekends, plans DID NOT work out!? So that was his excuse again to "just be friends". I was so ANGRY I didn't talk to him for a week. But then we privately talked to bring a mutual sense. And now we are JUST FRIENDS. :(
This kid does not know what he wants and in my mind I feel like all I've doen since we broke up first is chasing him. I know it's wrong, but I want it to work. THE PROBLEM WAS WE NEVER COULD HANGOUT. Like that couldn't have been talked through?
My conclusion is that we took homecoming night too fast... </3 And it makes me sad to know that we could be together. He said we could still hangout after our second break up talk. I want to.
Can his feelings come back AGAIN ? :/
HELP.
-allthashimmers HAD FADED