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allthatshimmers
Nov 13, 2011, 01:08 PM
Can an ex's feelings come back? :/

So we went out for 3 months <3. then broke up for more than 3 months (I did the no contact rule and it worked, but then we discovered feelings changed because plan to see each other NEVER worked </3. But then I tried something: if I wanted to get back together, I'm going to need to rebuild the friendship (this boy gets very shy when it comes to relationships & I have been so patient. After all this time... I think I've been wanting to be with him for all this time to be honest. I knew of the dangerous push that would be to speak up and say "I want you back".) I never let him see me upset- only happy.

So part of my plan to win him back, we went to homecoming together and instantly we both knew feelings came back. I didn't want to leave him and we held hands and BAM- first time ever made out in public- heat of the moment. Lol.

But that night, he asked to go back out. That's what I wanted right? So of course I said yes. But then the next 2 weekends, plans DID NOT work out!? So that was his excuse again to "just be friends". I was so ANGRY I didn't talk to him for a week. But then we privately talked to bring a mutual sense. And now we are JUST FRIENDS. :(

This kid does not know what he wants and in my mind I feel like all I've doen since we broke up first is chasing him. I know it's wrong, but I want it to work. THE PROBLEM WAS WE NEVER COULD HANGOUT. Like that couldn't have been talked through?

My conclusion is that we took homecoming night too fast... </3 And it makes me sad to know that we could be together. He said we could still hangout after our second break up talk. I want to.

Can his feelings come back AGAIN ? :/
HELP.
-allthashimmers HAD FADED

talaniman
Nov 13, 2011, 10:48 PM
I want to tell you to stop chasing him period, and just be friends, but how old are you both?

vanheart
Nov 14, 2011, 09:01 PM
Ex's are ex's. Really. In my book.
Start another plan. Yup.

That's the whole thing. Stop tripping on what should have...

"THE PROBLEM WAS WE NEVER COULD HANGOUT"

Oh, well, that sucks. But, stuff happens.
Stop fantasizing & just chill.

There's way cooler stuff out there.

UhnonimuS
Dec 8, 2011, 03:50 AM
I'm not sure if you'll even need an answer to this question by now, but to actually address your question the answer is yes. Anyone's feelings at any given time can be rebuilt, rekindled, or created, but this does not mean you should expect it to happen. It sounds like this boy is missing out, you're only chance is to not chase after him like others have said, and you'll either stumble upon better, or perhaps this boy will come chasing after you.

Good luck to you.