puzzled2011
Oct 29, 2011, 12:31 PM
I meet my girlfriend in Jan and things were wonderful. At the end of May I sold my house and went on a two week vacation with her. It was amazing. Upon our return she asked me to move in with her into her small apartment until I found another house to buy. All was terrific until my situation at work deteriorated in July and I decided that it was not smart to buy a house given the instability. In hindsight I should have moved out of her place then.
Things were OK with us until she asked me to move out because she needed her space. We had a lot of conversations and she reassured me that all was well and that we had moved in too soon and that having our own space would be good for us. A few weeks have gone by, and I have found a place and I am ready to move out. However, things are certainly not well between us and I have noticed that she has lied to me about going to work, etc. I did what nobody should ever do and read her emails and I can see that she is intimate with someone else. He has cooked her dinner while she was supposed to be at work, they correspond several times a day, etc. They are making plans to meet the day after I move out.
While that is happening she is acting like everything is ok: she kisses me hello and goodbye, cooks me dinner, asks me how my day was, etc.
When I saw that I felt a deep pain in my heart and decided that it is best to move out, not say anything and let her make her move. I am planning on stopping all contact once I move out. In the meantime I am pulling away a little bit until I move out next week.
My question is this: when I came home last night she was all friendly and asked me if I want to do something with her on Sunday. I said yes. Now I'm thinking that I should not do anything with her, minimize contact and get out. How should I handle it?
Things were OK with us until she asked me to move out because she needed her space. We had a lot of conversations and she reassured me that all was well and that we had moved in too soon and that having our own space would be good for us. A few weeks have gone by, and I have found a place and I am ready to move out. However, things are certainly not well between us and I have noticed that she has lied to me about going to work, etc. I did what nobody should ever do and read her emails and I can see that she is intimate with someone else. He has cooked her dinner while she was supposed to be at work, they correspond several times a day, etc. They are making plans to meet the day after I move out.
While that is happening she is acting like everything is ok: she kisses me hello and goodbye, cooks me dinner, asks me how my day was, etc.
When I saw that I felt a deep pain in my heart and decided that it is best to move out, not say anything and let her make her move. I am planning on stopping all contact once I move out. In the meantime I am pulling away a little bit until I move out next week.
My question is this: when I came home last night she was all friendly and asked me if I want to do something with her on Sunday. I said yes. Now I'm thinking that I should not do anything with her, minimize contact and get out. How should I handle it?