ksquared22
Oct 17, 2011, 08:34 AM
My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and a half. Ever since we first started dating I kind of had a hunch that he was cheating on me, so I asked him multiple times and he said no. I had finally started to believe him until one weekend last December, we both got drunk and the truth came out. He had cheated on me twice, back in the first couple months of out relationship.
The first time he was really drunk and wasn't thinking I guess and the second time he woke up hungover at a party and some girl dragged him into a room and he went along with it. The first time happened with friends around and the second time happened at the friends house which I hang out at a lot and he got them all to lie and hide it. I felt so betrayed after that, knowing that everybody else knew.. And especially that it happened in that house.
I was very very very hurt to find things out but I thought I had forgiven him, but I'm not sure if I can. I can go long periods with out thinking about it but then sometimes, like this past weekend, we had a going away party at that house and all I could think about was the cheating and had these horrible visual images of it happening that I can't get out of my head.
He said that he's already paid for what he did and that he can't stay with me if I can't forgive him. I love him and would like to spend many many more years with him but I need to figure out how I can forgive him. Please help!
The first time he was really drunk and wasn't thinking I guess and the second time he woke up hungover at a party and some girl dragged him into a room and he went along with it. The first time happened with friends around and the second time happened at the friends house which I hang out at a lot and he got them all to lie and hide it. I felt so betrayed after that, knowing that everybody else knew.. And especially that it happened in that house.
I was very very very hurt to find things out but I thought I had forgiven him, but I'm not sure if I can. I can go long periods with out thinking about it but then sometimes, like this past weekend, we had a going away party at that house and all I could think about was the cheating and had these horrible visual images of it happening that I can't get out of my head.
He said that he's already paid for what he did and that he can't stay with me if I can't forgive him. I love him and would like to spend many many more years with him but I need to figure out how I can forgive him. Please help!