Sunshine1017
Oct 5, 2011, 01:32 PM
Before I receive any comments defacing me as a person and my morals, please just keep them to yourself. I FULLY UNDERSTAND, how wrong it is to be head over heels for a man that is married; and I have always respected the value of a family.
I am hoping to receive any practical advice on how to back away from a relationship that has been very important to me in the past year or so.
A little background on our situation... I am a little past my mid 20's, and "Chris" is 35, with three children. I met "Chris" almost two years ago at our part-time job. I never thought twice about flirting with him, or having any other interest in him other than friends as coworkers. Our strictly friendship blossomed immediately, and I quickly grew to considering him one of my closest male friends. He was SO easy to talk to, so helpful, and so caring. We began chatting through our day-job emails, simply in a friendly manner. We never hung out outside of our work except for a few times with our other coworkers.
Then about a year ago we started doing lunch meetings, since we are in the business industry. Nothing seemed amiss or wrong to me, he was just a good friend! Then it happened.. A few months ago we were finishing a lunch and he kissed me out of the blue. I was shocked, kissed back, but only shortly and then left. At first I felt awful (well, I still feel awful,) but then it dawned on me, I am 100% in love with this man! I have gotten closer to him than I have gotten closer to so many, even closer than to a boyfriend that I had lived with for 5 years.
Since this incident, we both have admitted to being in love with each other. He wants to plan things together so we can spend more time with each other, but I am SO scared. Scared to make a poor decision that hurts another, scared to get hurt, scared to lose a best friend! We have kissed several more times since the first, and I can honestly say the chemistry I have with "Chris" is like no other.
Not that it matters, but I know for a fact he has never cheated on his wife until me (and yes, I actually know this.) How on earth do I break away from this? I can't imagine losing such a great friend, not to mention someone I am crazy in love with!
I am hoping to receive any practical advice on how to back away from a relationship that has been very important to me in the past year or so.
A little background on our situation... I am a little past my mid 20's, and "Chris" is 35, with three children. I met "Chris" almost two years ago at our part-time job. I never thought twice about flirting with him, or having any other interest in him other than friends as coworkers. Our strictly friendship blossomed immediately, and I quickly grew to considering him one of my closest male friends. He was SO easy to talk to, so helpful, and so caring. We began chatting through our day-job emails, simply in a friendly manner. We never hung out outside of our work except for a few times with our other coworkers.
Then about a year ago we started doing lunch meetings, since we are in the business industry. Nothing seemed amiss or wrong to me, he was just a good friend! Then it happened.. A few months ago we were finishing a lunch and he kissed me out of the blue. I was shocked, kissed back, but only shortly and then left. At first I felt awful (well, I still feel awful,) but then it dawned on me, I am 100% in love with this man! I have gotten closer to him than I have gotten closer to so many, even closer than to a boyfriend that I had lived with for 5 years.
Since this incident, we both have admitted to being in love with each other. He wants to plan things together so we can spend more time with each other, but I am SO scared. Scared to make a poor decision that hurts another, scared to get hurt, scared to lose a best friend! We have kissed several more times since the first, and I can honestly say the chemistry I have with "Chris" is like no other.
Not that it matters, but I know for a fact he has never cheated on his wife until me (and yes, I actually know this.) How on earth do I break away from this? I can't imagine losing such a great friend, not to mention someone I am crazy in love with!