rgsinc
Aug 10, 2011, 02:25 AM
I've been with my girlfriend for 8 months now in which time we have been through a lot. When we started dating I was at the back end of a messy break-up and know that I should have waited until it was all dealt with but I was scared that I would lose her and admittedly made a bad decision to do this as this has led to trust issues.
Recently I graduated from Uni meaning that we now have distance involved with our relationship. This is when she initially told me that she wanted to break-up completely and that it because she can't see what I'm doing all the time. She said that our relationship all that she could want but the trust lost from beginning of our relationship has put a massive wedge in it.
We met up and talked things through and we decided that it will best to take a break. Considering the significance of this next year to both of us (me starting my career up, her doing her final year at Uni) we decided to have a break until July!
What do I do now? I mean it's usually best to give space and not contact her in these situations, but a year with no contact can't be the right thing to do surely? And if I do make contact how much is enough? I'm also scared that I commit to this and come halfway down the line she finds another person at Uni, where does that leave me, probably ten time worse than how I feel right now!
Recently I graduated from Uni meaning that we now have distance involved with our relationship. This is when she initially told me that she wanted to break-up completely and that it because she can't see what I'm doing all the time. She said that our relationship all that she could want but the trust lost from beginning of our relationship has put a massive wedge in it.
We met up and talked things through and we decided that it will best to take a break. Considering the significance of this next year to both of us (me starting my career up, her doing her final year at Uni) we decided to have a break until July!
What do I do now? I mean it's usually best to give space and not contact her in these situations, but a year with no contact can't be the right thing to do surely? And if I do make contact how much is enough? I'm also scared that I commit to this and come halfway down the line she finds another person at Uni, where does that leave me, probably ten time worse than how I feel right now!