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shahu
Aug 9, 2011, 01:32 AM
Its been 7 months since I broke up with my ex boyfriend and after I got a relationship with this guy who was a good friend of mine, we never met after we got in a relationship, am doing my diploma and am going to be 19 this year, but am not concentrating on my studies, me and my ex boyfriend we used to have daily sex and I think that was the only thing which held us together, for he was very abusive and high tempered, now all I think about is having sex, it eats my mind sometimes that I screw myself, I couldn't control it that I had sex with another guy who really loves me, and now I want to break up with my boyfriend who is in abroad in a job, and every time he beg me not to for he loves me a lot,

I have tried to stop thinking about sex and concentrate on my studies and I even don't want to betray my boyfriend but every time I want sex I do something stupid like having sex with another guy or doing it myself,

I really need help, I think I am ruining my life here not concentrating on my studies and leaving my boyfriend

joypulv
Aug 9, 2011, 02:36 AM
You can either masturbate more, often or see a therapist if that's not enough. Your school should have them available. Ask for someone the same gender as you (you don't say if you are male or female).

I can't understand your story about boyfriends and who is who. You broke up with one but don't want to betray him? Or another one? Not that it really matters.

mini31
Aug 9, 2011, 03:51 AM
Yes masturbate and well do you really love this guy? If you don't and just stay because he tells you not to leave him, leave him. If you love him well yeah pretty much masturbate but think of him that way it won't be betraying. Do not go off and have sex with other guys it will eat at your mind when you see your boyfriend again. If you have you need to confess and if he really loves you he will find it in his heart to forgive u. I know because I cheated on my boyfriend because he didn't want to give me much and I sought it in another man. It felt awful afterwards I broke down and confessed but he said it was OK because he loved me. But then again it all depends if you love this boyfriend of yours or not.

shahu
Aug 10, 2011, 04:09 AM
That's what is confusing me,I don't know if I love him or not, my boyfriend now is dreak, and I never met him but I guess I love him, my ex with whom I had sex daily is nick, and now I don't have any contact with him, so I am betraying dreak, cox I have sex with brian, I guess sex is keeping me with brian and love is keeping me with dreak... :/