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LadyLindsayxx
Jun 21, 2011, 02:18 PM
Okay, so the guy I have been with for almost 10 months, who never actually put a title on anything. But consider me as his girlfriend, and treated me like his girlfriend. It was great, we met in the fall, and then I moved on campus in the Spring. Coincidentally, we were placed on the same floor by the Housing & Res Life, and that was completely a surprise! It was difficult being so close, and seeing each other EVERY DAY, for the past 5 months, (this going from maybe seeing each other one to two times a week, while I was still a commuter to school.) Yes we had our fights, but we worked through them.
Now, we've been on summer vacation for almost a month (in the next couple days), and we haven't seen one another since school ended. We live almost two hours away from each other when we're not at school, and he doesn't have a car, and I crashed mine in January, and I am working on getting a new one very soon!
To back on track: He tells me a few days ago he wants to go on a break, and think about things, this is over a fight we've had for the first time since school ended. Yes, I know I added some jealousy on my part, especially never being in a "Long Distance" relationship before. He tells me all the time that he's different from other guys, and that I need to stop worrying and enjoy what I and what we have. And I do, I know I love him very much. But dropping the bomb of a "break", has been eating away at me, especially when he told me maybe we shouldn't talk as much.. Then the next day, he calls me, over three times, tells me I should text him. And it's confusing? Today, he's been texting me, and telling me he still cares about me and misses me. So, I'm confused? He says the break is just for a little while, and that we should both think about what is we want, and what do we want from one another. I can agree on that. How is it he can tell me, for now we're friends, wants a definite relationship, and then tell me how much he misses and cares about me?

What should I do guys? Keep holding on, be friends, and work through this with him and have faith or should I kick him to the curb?

talaniman
Jun 21, 2011, 05:58 PM
Ask him what changed his mind, and go from there.

LadyLindsayxx
Jun 22, 2011, 11:38 AM
True. I mean I'm not as upset like I was a few days ago. I mean we spent an hour on the phone together lastnight, just talking about everything. Just like we usually do. And, he told me that he still tells people that we're doing well, and that we're still together. So I guess we'll see what goes from there. Haha, I just wish sometimes that guys knew what they wanted!

And they say we're the less complicated ones! LOL

Bold_ink
Jun 22, 2011, 08:54 PM
Long distance can take a tole on even the strongest relationships. While it is a very hard thing to do taking a break and trying to view your feeling for each other in a different light may help both of you. It is normal that he misses you. It is very hard for most people to just stop having feeling for someone over night. Do not just cut him off because you guys are taking a break. Continue to talk and maybe the change between girlfriend-like and just friend-like will help both of you to see the good and the bad sides of your relationship.

Who knows maybe when school starts back in the Fall things will just fall right back into place.

frogger4
Jun 25, 2011, 12:42 AM
It can be very confusing to be on a break with someone and still talk to them the way you normally would. It's not really giving either of you the "break" that you're supposed to be getting or the time to realize what you're really wanting in life. He is obviously just as confused as you are if he's saying all these contradicting things, but going from boy-friend/girlfriend to just friends might be easier if you've had some time to adjust to being single again.