titanic2011
May 10, 2011, 07:40 AM
Dating a girl for a few months. Things were going great, hung out almost every day, both of us in mid 20s. She chased me for weeks, and I finally gave in and said I'm ready for being exclusive. She had a few minor flags that were flags to me that I let go by, because my friends have said I always have been tooo picky. Within 3 weeks she said she loved me. All was great until recently.
She became very distance 2 weeks ago. No more I love you, said it was too soon. She would text and talk to me briefly, but no phone calls or no hanging out. She said she had to figure out some things with her living situation, and her career situation. Every day she said she would want to go home and just be alone. Of course after a few days home then she started going out with her friends. Ok so you want to be alone yet you are at the bar. She wanted to be together but she had to handle this business first. Said she was going to go home on the weekend figure it out. I figure I would give her space, and do a NC. Of course that made her angry. Few days later we finally meet up in person and the chat went fine, until the end. I found out she briefly spoke to an X she had strong feelings for on her career situation. She said I didn't need to know this info, and I told her that was an interesting fact to dismiss, since I would have told her. She was not happy I ignored her because she said I was not being there for her and that I did not care. She said because of what is going on in family life and her quitting her job, she will not be able to set aside 5 days a week to hangout, since her family needs her. Then I said how about 2? And she said of that 2, if her friends want to have out, then she has to take away from me or family.
I read many posts. This to me is girl wanting the cake and the batter and the oven and the kitchen and the 4 course meal. The hardest thing is to accept that, especially when you are looking at that person and talking to them. That you made it clear you are not here to play games and looking for a relationship that you truly want to be in.
Few days later she said she was going to go home again for a few days to continue and finish the conversations with family because originally she did not. She also said that because with all this going on, and not being able to spend the time I want, and not knowing her future, we should be friends for now until she gets through it. I basically told her I don't want just friends, because someone is going to date and someone is going to get angry. She said she would understand because she can't expect me to wait. I told her what if I went on a date in 2 days? She was furious and said if I go to a date in 2 days then anything we ever had was never true. Then she said you want distance, I'll give you distance (LOL) and stormed out saying I'll talk to you in a few days.
So what do you think of this? I find it hard to believe that she is lying because of how family oriented she is. I told her I don't think she is ready for a relationship that I wanted. I mean at first she was all for it, but the fact that she was distant a few weeks ago really pushed me away. And stopped saying I love you? I mean what is all this.
She became very distance 2 weeks ago. No more I love you, said it was too soon. She would text and talk to me briefly, but no phone calls or no hanging out. She said she had to figure out some things with her living situation, and her career situation. Every day she said she would want to go home and just be alone. Of course after a few days home then she started going out with her friends. Ok so you want to be alone yet you are at the bar. She wanted to be together but she had to handle this business first. Said she was going to go home on the weekend figure it out. I figure I would give her space, and do a NC. Of course that made her angry. Few days later we finally meet up in person and the chat went fine, until the end. I found out she briefly spoke to an X she had strong feelings for on her career situation. She said I didn't need to know this info, and I told her that was an interesting fact to dismiss, since I would have told her. She was not happy I ignored her because she said I was not being there for her and that I did not care. She said because of what is going on in family life and her quitting her job, she will not be able to set aside 5 days a week to hangout, since her family needs her. Then I said how about 2? And she said of that 2, if her friends want to have out, then she has to take away from me or family.
I read many posts. This to me is girl wanting the cake and the batter and the oven and the kitchen and the 4 course meal. The hardest thing is to accept that, especially when you are looking at that person and talking to them. That you made it clear you are not here to play games and looking for a relationship that you truly want to be in.
Few days later she said she was going to go home again for a few days to continue and finish the conversations with family because originally she did not. She also said that because with all this going on, and not being able to spend the time I want, and not knowing her future, we should be friends for now until she gets through it. I basically told her I don't want just friends, because someone is going to date and someone is going to get angry. She said she would understand because she can't expect me to wait. I told her what if I went on a date in 2 days? She was furious and said if I go to a date in 2 days then anything we ever had was never true. Then she said you want distance, I'll give you distance (LOL) and stormed out saying I'll talk to you in a few days.
So what do you think of this? I find it hard to believe that she is lying because of how family oriented she is. I told her I don't think she is ready for a relationship that I wanted. I mean at first she was all for it, but the fact that she was distant a few weeks ago really pushed me away. And stopped saying I love you? I mean what is all this.