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Chiliboy16
Feb 16, 2011, 11:18 PM
Here's my story.

I was new to a school and it was fourth period. I had gym. The teacher asked us to line up and my name started with an L. Then another girl who's name started with an L sat next to me. I saw her and immediately started to like her. We talked for about 3 months and I decided to ask her out. (realize that she was the girl that a lot of people wanted) She, after a lot of mixed answers said yes. We went out for 2.5 YEARS. I never kissed her. I was only 14 at the time. I realized I love her but never had the nerve to kiss her. But eventually she broke up with me and about 10 months later I still love her.

I don't know what to do...

talaniman
Feb 17, 2011, 06:34 AM
Sounds like your first and only so far. Its disappointing, but you have to do other things and just move on. Yeah its really hard since you were together a long time, but you will move on.

I think we all have been through that young break up deal. Its never any fun.

adviceishere
Feb 17, 2011, 07:32 AM
I agree... all of us go through this heartbreak, and all over us get over it at some point... dating for 2.5 years at the age of 14 is so so young! The first relionship I ever had that lasted over a year was when I was 19! I don't know what the rush is to get into relatonships at your age, the good news is you will get over her and you will find someone else, but for now just get on with your life, have some fun dating now that your 16... dont get into anything serious because chances of any relationship lasting forever at your age is very slim, so by getting into anything half serious your setting yourself up for more heartbreak, you WILL know when that person comes along that you want to spend your time with after you've dated a few girls. You will know your "type".

Jake2008
Feb 17, 2011, 08:28 AM
Hard to think of this as a learning experience, but that is what it was. At 14, everything is new, awkward, and confusing.

As you grow through relationships, you will learn about partners. And as you mature, you will learn not to settle for people that have traits and characteristics that you don't share, i.e. they are racist, superficial.

With age, you narrow down the compatibility end. And going through the ups and downs of learning what makes a compatible partner, becomes easier.

Like the rest of us, you will go through many relationships, and suffer a lot more than you are feeling now.

And, even 20 years from now, you could be married with two kids, a mortgage, and a 9-5 job, and love your wife and family and job, but also like the rest of us, you will slip into that comfortable place, called 'the past'. And, it's an okay place to be, because it is a safe place, before all the hardships of living took over.

You may think of this girl from time to time, and you will realize how sweet a time it was with her, at that time in your life. I think we all do that. First loves are very special.