Staci28
Feb 3, 2011, 02:03 PM
To Whom It May Concern:
I need help! I thought that laws that govern our society were just and designed to help the people, especially kids; but that has not been the case for my daughter and one of her sisters. I have been battling a social security case since October of 2004. They are refusing to pay my daughter and her sister SSI survivor benefits because they say their biological father (Donnell Brice) is in fact not their father based off CA state law.
To give you a brief history my daughter Jordan Hardy-Brice was born May 28th 2003. At the time she was born I was 21 years and her father Donnell Brice was 28 years old. Donnell did not play an active role in my pregnancy nor was he the best father in the world. I can probably count on one hand that amount of times he saw our daughter before he was murdered on July 5th 2004 (a little over one year after Jordan was born). Call me naïve or even stupid but Donnell did not sign Jordan's birth certificate and at the time he died a court ordered judgment of paternity had not been established. After he was murdered was when the truth about the life and lifestyle Donnell had been living came to light.
July 6th 2004 was the first time Jordan met the other side of her family and it was also when I found out that Donnell had 3 other children by two women. A son Donnell Brice Jr. (age 8) and two daughters Sanai Brice and Island Brice, both age 1, the same age as my daughter Jordan. Donnell had 3 women pregnant (myself included) and had 3 little girls all born in the same year. Donnell was living with one woman (who bore two of his kids), and had myself as well as another woman on the side (none of us had any idea about the others or the kids until he died).
The next step was to get a DNA test since his name was not on Jordan's birth certificate (nor was it on one of her sisters). Donnell's mother authorized for his blood to be shipped to a lab so testing could be conducted. A week later the test came back 99.99999998% positive that he was in fact our kid's fathers. With that, I received a default judgment of paternity and had Jordan's birth certificate amended to reflect him as her father as well has modify her last name.
Shortly after that all three mother applied for social security benefits for our children because Donnell worked for well over 10 years. The only person approved for benefits for her two kids was the woman Donnell lived with. Myself, as well as Danielle Ross (the other woman) received letters that read “We cannot pay Jordan Hardy Brice” because she is not the child of Donnell Brice.” I was devastated and did not understand why. Testing clearly showed no other man possible could have fathered our child. It was then that I found out how cruel our system is.
According to CA Intestacy Law Donnell had to openly hold out our kids and receive them into his home which he did not because he was leading multiple lives. The law also states that a court ordered judgment of paternity as well as DNA testing must have been conducted during the lifetime of the father. This means that according to CA law our kids have no father and Donnell escaped his responsibilities as a father in both life and in death. This has to be the most discriminatory law I have ever heard of!
In a perfect world people meet, people marry and have kids and live happily ever after but unfortunately we live in the real world where people lie, people cheat, people marry and divorce, abuse kids, don't pay child support, don't care for or see their kids!
California's definition of being a father is less a question of biology and more one of family units and the existence of a parent-child relationship. In other words, California law does not equate natural parent status with biological parenthood such that a mere biological relationship is sufficient under California law to grant status as a natural parent. This is primarily out of the California legislature's interest in protecting the welfare of the child and the integrity of the family.
This is a joke! How is this protecting my child and integrity of our family? It's telling me that my child (deemed illegitimate) and our family do not matter. These laws are extremely outdated and do not reflect current times. There is really no such thing as nuclear families anymore. Kids are born out of wedlock everyday, father's dodge child support everyday, men have multiple kids in different states that they don't take care of everyday and some states make this okay. CA has made this okay in my case and many others similar to this.
My case is currently at the 9th circuit court of appeals and will probably be denied yet again but I cannot and will not live with this fate. Its makes it very hard to sleep at night knowing that our government makes this okay. I will no longer just lay down in defeat, if it takes every breath in me I will continue to fight until this law is changed. Not just for my daughter and her sister but for all the mothers and children who have been discriminated against and denied something that their kids should be entitled to (especially considering that government want to protect the kids). These children are INNOCENT and don't ask to be brought into this world. I have had to accept the consequences of my actions and take responsibly for my daughter. I was 21 (still a kid) having a kid. Had to learn to learn to be a mom, graduate college, get a job so I was not dependent on the system; and what ironic is that I pay into a system (SSI) that tells me that my kid does not matter. I don't know if this will reach the right person but if you read this and can help point me in the direction of where I need to go please do. I am begging for help! I don't know what it takes to get a law amended or changes but its something I must do during my lifetime. Help me please!
I need help! I thought that laws that govern our society were just and designed to help the people, especially kids; but that has not been the case for my daughter and one of her sisters. I have been battling a social security case since October of 2004. They are refusing to pay my daughter and her sister SSI survivor benefits because they say their biological father (Donnell Brice) is in fact not their father based off CA state law.
To give you a brief history my daughter Jordan Hardy-Brice was born May 28th 2003. At the time she was born I was 21 years and her father Donnell Brice was 28 years old. Donnell did not play an active role in my pregnancy nor was he the best father in the world. I can probably count on one hand that amount of times he saw our daughter before he was murdered on July 5th 2004 (a little over one year after Jordan was born). Call me naïve or even stupid but Donnell did not sign Jordan's birth certificate and at the time he died a court ordered judgment of paternity had not been established. After he was murdered was when the truth about the life and lifestyle Donnell had been living came to light.
July 6th 2004 was the first time Jordan met the other side of her family and it was also when I found out that Donnell had 3 other children by two women. A son Donnell Brice Jr. (age 8) and two daughters Sanai Brice and Island Brice, both age 1, the same age as my daughter Jordan. Donnell had 3 women pregnant (myself included) and had 3 little girls all born in the same year. Donnell was living with one woman (who bore two of his kids), and had myself as well as another woman on the side (none of us had any idea about the others or the kids until he died).
The next step was to get a DNA test since his name was not on Jordan's birth certificate (nor was it on one of her sisters). Donnell's mother authorized for his blood to be shipped to a lab so testing could be conducted. A week later the test came back 99.99999998% positive that he was in fact our kid's fathers. With that, I received a default judgment of paternity and had Jordan's birth certificate amended to reflect him as her father as well has modify her last name.
Shortly after that all three mother applied for social security benefits for our children because Donnell worked for well over 10 years. The only person approved for benefits for her two kids was the woman Donnell lived with. Myself, as well as Danielle Ross (the other woman) received letters that read “We cannot pay Jordan Hardy Brice” because she is not the child of Donnell Brice.” I was devastated and did not understand why. Testing clearly showed no other man possible could have fathered our child. It was then that I found out how cruel our system is.
According to CA Intestacy Law Donnell had to openly hold out our kids and receive them into his home which he did not because he was leading multiple lives. The law also states that a court ordered judgment of paternity as well as DNA testing must have been conducted during the lifetime of the father. This means that according to CA law our kids have no father and Donnell escaped his responsibilities as a father in both life and in death. This has to be the most discriminatory law I have ever heard of!
In a perfect world people meet, people marry and have kids and live happily ever after but unfortunately we live in the real world where people lie, people cheat, people marry and divorce, abuse kids, don't pay child support, don't care for or see their kids!
California's definition of being a father is less a question of biology and more one of family units and the existence of a parent-child relationship. In other words, California law does not equate natural parent status with biological parenthood such that a mere biological relationship is sufficient under California law to grant status as a natural parent. This is primarily out of the California legislature's interest in protecting the welfare of the child and the integrity of the family.
This is a joke! How is this protecting my child and integrity of our family? It's telling me that my child (deemed illegitimate) and our family do not matter. These laws are extremely outdated and do not reflect current times. There is really no such thing as nuclear families anymore. Kids are born out of wedlock everyday, father's dodge child support everyday, men have multiple kids in different states that they don't take care of everyday and some states make this okay. CA has made this okay in my case and many others similar to this.
My case is currently at the 9th circuit court of appeals and will probably be denied yet again but I cannot and will not live with this fate. Its makes it very hard to sleep at night knowing that our government makes this okay. I will no longer just lay down in defeat, if it takes every breath in me I will continue to fight until this law is changed. Not just for my daughter and her sister but for all the mothers and children who have been discriminated against and denied something that their kids should be entitled to (especially considering that government want to protect the kids). These children are INNOCENT and don't ask to be brought into this world. I have had to accept the consequences of my actions and take responsibly for my daughter. I was 21 (still a kid) having a kid. Had to learn to learn to be a mom, graduate college, get a job so I was not dependent on the system; and what ironic is that I pay into a system (SSI) that tells me that my kid does not matter. I don't know if this will reach the right person but if you read this and can help point me in the direction of where I need to go please do. I am begging for help! I don't know what it takes to get a law amended or changes but its something I must do during my lifetime. Help me please!