eddie5498
Jan 2, 2011, 05:55 PM
I first dated and slept with last boyfriend 3 years ago last September. After a month he cut me dead although I had to work with him. I was dignified and strong even though the way he cut it was bizarre, just one hour after sex told me it would never go anywhere and was quite stroppy.
I went to the xmas doo 3 months later and he asked me out for a drink. I was still keen and went to his house that night and he said about giving it a proper go. I stayed and talked all night but didn't sleep with him. I met parents, kids, was all lovey dovey but then was told 3 weeks later there was no chemistry. Also found out that he was still seeing a girl he had fallen in love with at work, 3 years previous but she was still with her husband but she rang him one day and told him that she didn't love him anymore. He also had another girl on the go on a casual basis.
I backed off and just became really good friends with him, sex went out of the window but I spent loads of time at his house and had a great time. Went away for weekends and the sex crept in again but it wasn't dynamic as I was being careful. We went away spontaneously and there was a lot of affection on my part but not enough seduction.
I was there 5 days out of 7, occasionally he needed his space and I knew when he did he took another woman or two out off the internet. He seemed to do this after a big argument we had caused by me where I slammed the door and he saw the other side of me one night.
We didn't see each other for 3 weeks and then he phoned asking me how I was. I had gone away to Portugal for a week hurt but went over to see him, slept with him and it just felt right. We had a fantastic weekend and then on the Monday a pop up message came up from a woman off the internet who he said he hadn't seen for months. At first he told me to piss off after a fantastic weekend. I kept dignity and gave him no jip and he text her back to tell her he was seeing a new girl , but he had been seeing me for 5 months again since the first time around other than our 3 weeks apart. That night he said he didn't want anything serious. I went to work upset and confronted him the next day and he went on one shouting and yelling that he would never love me because he didn't like the confrontation over the other woman when I told him I was hurt. If we hadn't had such a fantastic weekend it wouldn't have been such a shock.
He kept in contact and we still went out and I liked my lifestyle in that he gave me a life. He was going to take me on hols and then his son wanted to go so I backed off and didn't go, he text me every day and couldn't wait to see me , but I was tired , had moved house on my own all week whilst he was away and I hadn't eaten and arrived at his house and a waoman rang up and he said wrong number and put the phone down. I was zonked on 2 glasses of wine big ones and went off in front of his kids saying that I thought he had lived his marriage on lies and deceipt. I rang this woman back told her that I had been seeing him for the last 7 months and she put the phone down. I never know if I was right or wrong but I regretted doing that I front of the kids, 18 yrs upwards.
I became increasingly distrustful as he had also asked someone else out who he worked with.
But in this month when I was being a cow he was really trying with me. Took me all over , I shwoed myself up in front of a couple who be friended us on night as well. I go talking to them at a party and they invited us out. I thought it strange that all they spoke about was sex. I ruined the night by asking them if they were swingers and they went home. Me and him argued in the car as he gave her his number as a contact. He kicked me out and I slept in the car. Told me to **** off as he didn't want any more headbangers and called me a bastard for the fact that they went home.
I had spent the night from leaving work helping him to clean his house as they were coming and I was tired. After this he became distant again and the neighbour across the road told me he was stringing me along and that he had seen other women. We were about to go on holiday. Is said nothing about it but the neighbour told him I had been talking 3 weeks later and he blamed me. I had never spoken to her before. We still went on the holiday but he reiterated that we were friends as we got on the plane and that he thought I thought more about him than me and that he was leading me on, but them he built me a computer to compensate. We did loads of walking and no sex as I couldn't. He ordered a bottle of wine and said he hoped I was enjoying it as I was paying for it.
We came home went away for a weekend and just on christmas he said he didn't want me there as his daughter was coming home and he didn't fancy me not even in my nice underwear and that he saw me just as a friend. A week later when all his kids had gone after xmas he text me missing me. I pursued him and we gave it another go. I went on hol with him but found messages on his phone saying that he was bored and was with the wrong person and had nothing to look forward to, this was to my boss.
I cancelled my hol and he was still going to go alone. I then went and it was a gorgeous place but we argued as he called me a terrible thing and I lost my temper as it hurt and then he also got drunk and said if I gave him a few more rakis he might actually fancy me. On a previous time he once asked me if I had considered a fanny tuck or a bust job. I hit the roof and then his dad died and we came home early.
I jealously went on one on holiday in front of a girl who was on her own and I thought something was kicking off between them. Paranoia. I wnet to the funeral and he kicked the relaitonship into touch after that. Accused me of being a stalker before we went on holiday to my boss and that I kept turning up at his house withou invitation, total lie, invited for tea every night and encouraged by him. I used to suggest nights off for space. I kept a wide berth and he couldn't stop txting and I ignored it all , eventually after 5 months he came back.
We went away on hol in May and to the lakes but it was me again in Greece this year. He had the girls t shirt on who he had dumped me for and I just felt that never had he given it a chnace for just me and him. Also I found more messages as the year before just before our hol to another woman telling her he sort of had a girlfriend but he wasn't in love. THe holiday was ruined a again, plus I saw him on a web site.
Despite this we spent near to 7 days a week together and spent lots of holidays and good times together. We split again after the holiday in Greece as I couldn't forget him looking at other women in front of me on line and also I caught him looking at bestiality. I started to think that there were hidden things as he had being abused as a child and my head was screwed up by the women, his over drinking and nastiness and this thing on the net.
He was also seeing the woman who he had being texting when we finished and told me to stay away from his house. I took his glasses to her house and she was nasty to me and I ended up having a breakdown just about because of the last 3 years.
I hung in there because I loved him , we did tons together and I was with him nearly 7 days a week .
As I talk I can see my faults of jealousy, but between I tried to be trendy and tolerant.
Quite simply he didn't love me. I hadn't heard , this time told him to f off and leave me alone for the rest of my life as it is always usually him who turns up. I ignored a load of insulting sexual messages which I received 2 months ago. We split in July. I ignored an apology for hurting me a month ago. I gave in on xmas eve this year when he said he had split with another woman who he had fallen in love with after 3 weeks. He said he hoped I would move on and meet someone nice.
I slept with him and feel bad now as she then rang him and it made him confused again.
One of the things he said about me when we split was that I was like necrophilia as he got no response. Little does his new girlsfriend know but he said she is emotionally autistic as can't show affection. She won't know like me and will go on holiday oblivious not knowing that he is slagging her off, trouble with me is I always found out.
Its over, hard for any of you to see why we hung in there.
Of course he has used me again, I know I allowed it so has he, gone back to his new one.
I am so daft I would have still given it another go, but maybe tonight I reflect that I wouldn't and just need time out from exhaustion.
We have now split but he was in trouble the other night and I went to help him only to get hurt again , more fool me.
Before anyone answers my question is am I an idiot for loving this man and should I feel guilty in view of the fact I caught him watching bestiality and this was what ultimately finished it and mucked my head up, leading to counselling and a near breakdown with severe depression as my mind started to run riot. I judged him as I tried to tell him it was wrong and his attude was you know I look at weird things and I couldn't recover from in , the wierdness was that he had no remorse and did it whilst I was there one night only but never the less. Six months on and it is hard to believe and that's why I gave in I think. Think I will feel better when I know he hasn't changed although I wouldn't inflict this on anyone. Which ever way you look at it it isn't the norm for most folks.
I went to the xmas doo 3 months later and he asked me out for a drink. I was still keen and went to his house that night and he said about giving it a proper go. I stayed and talked all night but didn't sleep with him. I met parents, kids, was all lovey dovey but then was told 3 weeks later there was no chemistry. Also found out that he was still seeing a girl he had fallen in love with at work, 3 years previous but she was still with her husband but she rang him one day and told him that she didn't love him anymore. He also had another girl on the go on a casual basis.
I backed off and just became really good friends with him, sex went out of the window but I spent loads of time at his house and had a great time. Went away for weekends and the sex crept in again but it wasn't dynamic as I was being careful. We went away spontaneously and there was a lot of affection on my part but not enough seduction.
I was there 5 days out of 7, occasionally he needed his space and I knew when he did he took another woman or two out off the internet. He seemed to do this after a big argument we had caused by me where I slammed the door and he saw the other side of me one night.
We didn't see each other for 3 weeks and then he phoned asking me how I was. I had gone away to Portugal for a week hurt but went over to see him, slept with him and it just felt right. We had a fantastic weekend and then on the Monday a pop up message came up from a woman off the internet who he said he hadn't seen for months. At first he told me to piss off after a fantastic weekend. I kept dignity and gave him no jip and he text her back to tell her he was seeing a new girl , but he had been seeing me for 5 months again since the first time around other than our 3 weeks apart. That night he said he didn't want anything serious. I went to work upset and confronted him the next day and he went on one shouting and yelling that he would never love me because he didn't like the confrontation over the other woman when I told him I was hurt. If we hadn't had such a fantastic weekend it wouldn't have been such a shock.
He kept in contact and we still went out and I liked my lifestyle in that he gave me a life. He was going to take me on hols and then his son wanted to go so I backed off and didn't go, he text me every day and couldn't wait to see me , but I was tired , had moved house on my own all week whilst he was away and I hadn't eaten and arrived at his house and a waoman rang up and he said wrong number and put the phone down. I was zonked on 2 glasses of wine big ones and went off in front of his kids saying that I thought he had lived his marriage on lies and deceipt. I rang this woman back told her that I had been seeing him for the last 7 months and she put the phone down. I never know if I was right or wrong but I regretted doing that I front of the kids, 18 yrs upwards.
I became increasingly distrustful as he had also asked someone else out who he worked with.
But in this month when I was being a cow he was really trying with me. Took me all over , I shwoed myself up in front of a couple who be friended us on night as well. I go talking to them at a party and they invited us out. I thought it strange that all they spoke about was sex. I ruined the night by asking them if they were swingers and they went home. Me and him argued in the car as he gave her his number as a contact. He kicked me out and I slept in the car. Told me to **** off as he didn't want any more headbangers and called me a bastard for the fact that they went home.
I had spent the night from leaving work helping him to clean his house as they were coming and I was tired. After this he became distant again and the neighbour across the road told me he was stringing me along and that he had seen other women. We were about to go on holiday. Is said nothing about it but the neighbour told him I had been talking 3 weeks later and he blamed me. I had never spoken to her before. We still went on the holiday but he reiterated that we were friends as we got on the plane and that he thought I thought more about him than me and that he was leading me on, but them he built me a computer to compensate. We did loads of walking and no sex as I couldn't. He ordered a bottle of wine and said he hoped I was enjoying it as I was paying for it.
We came home went away for a weekend and just on christmas he said he didn't want me there as his daughter was coming home and he didn't fancy me not even in my nice underwear and that he saw me just as a friend. A week later when all his kids had gone after xmas he text me missing me. I pursued him and we gave it another go. I went on hol with him but found messages on his phone saying that he was bored and was with the wrong person and had nothing to look forward to, this was to my boss.
I cancelled my hol and he was still going to go alone. I then went and it was a gorgeous place but we argued as he called me a terrible thing and I lost my temper as it hurt and then he also got drunk and said if I gave him a few more rakis he might actually fancy me. On a previous time he once asked me if I had considered a fanny tuck or a bust job. I hit the roof and then his dad died and we came home early.
I jealously went on one on holiday in front of a girl who was on her own and I thought something was kicking off between them. Paranoia. I wnet to the funeral and he kicked the relaitonship into touch after that. Accused me of being a stalker before we went on holiday to my boss and that I kept turning up at his house withou invitation, total lie, invited for tea every night and encouraged by him. I used to suggest nights off for space. I kept a wide berth and he couldn't stop txting and I ignored it all , eventually after 5 months he came back.
We went away on hol in May and to the lakes but it was me again in Greece this year. He had the girls t shirt on who he had dumped me for and I just felt that never had he given it a chnace for just me and him. Also I found more messages as the year before just before our hol to another woman telling her he sort of had a girlfriend but he wasn't in love. THe holiday was ruined a again, plus I saw him on a web site.
Despite this we spent near to 7 days a week together and spent lots of holidays and good times together. We split again after the holiday in Greece as I couldn't forget him looking at other women in front of me on line and also I caught him looking at bestiality. I started to think that there were hidden things as he had being abused as a child and my head was screwed up by the women, his over drinking and nastiness and this thing on the net.
He was also seeing the woman who he had being texting when we finished and told me to stay away from his house. I took his glasses to her house and she was nasty to me and I ended up having a breakdown just about because of the last 3 years.
I hung in there because I loved him , we did tons together and I was with him nearly 7 days a week .
As I talk I can see my faults of jealousy, but between I tried to be trendy and tolerant.
Quite simply he didn't love me. I hadn't heard , this time told him to f off and leave me alone for the rest of my life as it is always usually him who turns up. I ignored a load of insulting sexual messages which I received 2 months ago. We split in July. I ignored an apology for hurting me a month ago. I gave in on xmas eve this year when he said he had split with another woman who he had fallen in love with after 3 weeks. He said he hoped I would move on and meet someone nice.
I slept with him and feel bad now as she then rang him and it made him confused again.
One of the things he said about me when we split was that I was like necrophilia as he got no response. Little does his new girlsfriend know but he said she is emotionally autistic as can't show affection. She won't know like me and will go on holiday oblivious not knowing that he is slagging her off, trouble with me is I always found out.
Its over, hard for any of you to see why we hung in there.
Of course he has used me again, I know I allowed it so has he, gone back to his new one.
I am so daft I would have still given it another go, but maybe tonight I reflect that I wouldn't and just need time out from exhaustion.
We have now split but he was in trouble the other night and I went to help him only to get hurt again , more fool me.
Before anyone answers my question is am I an idiot for loving this man and should I feel guilty in view of the fact I caught him watching bestiality and this was what ultimately finished it and mucked my head up, leading to counselling and a near breakdown with severe depression as my mind started to run riot. I judged him as I tried to tell him it was wrong and his attude was you know I look at weird things and I couldn't recover from in , the wierdness was that he had no remorse and did it whilst I was there one night only but never the less. Six months on and it is hard to believe and that's why I gave in I think. Think I will feel better when I know he hasn't changed although I wouldn't inflict this on anyone. Which ever way you look at it it isn't the norm for most folks.