squeakyli
Dec 18, 2010, 03:00 PM
We have been engaged for 3 years, and my work colleague was winding me up, constantly asking when's the wedding because of the long engagement. Her words made me think and it was the stick that broke the camels back. I got agitated and text my fiancé, gave him an ultimatum and saying maybe we should split up.
When I got home we had a huge argument, a lot of hurtful words came out, mainly of build up of things I have bottled up that he was not attentive and was always consumed by speaking on the phone to his friends and family more than spending time with me and my son. I told him I feel like a single mother again, what's the point of being together when he's never there! He's not loving and we hardly cuddle, we've become very distant with each other. Everything just exploded out in the open. We both got really hurt and upset. I wanted him out the house and leave as soon as, I was ruthless.
I couldn't stand living in the same house as him, so my son and I moved back to my parents for a few days and gave the engagement ring back, to show him it's for real. Then I realised that why should we move when it's my house too. So we moved back.
That was a week ago, he's been sleeping in the spare room, we have had calm talks since, but I don't know what he wants. He says I'm always nagging, trying to start a fight and he has had enough.
I am really upset, I feel like a monster for saying all those things, but he knows how I feel and he has said it's not just me that needs to change, he has done things to wind me up, and he needs to change too. But not drastically.
I feel so sad, and lonely it's as if I can't function properly, but I have stayed strong for my son and I can't deteriorate because of this. I feel terrible this has happened, but he knows that I still love him and that I will take him back, but I don't know how he is feeling, but I do know he is hurt.
He's gone to see his friends this weekend, as he needs a break from me. I haven't contacted him in any way as I know we both need our space. But if there is anything in the world I can do to make things better, I will do it, my son has been upset in this episode and both sets of parents too. It's been awful for everyone.
When I got home we had a huge argument, a lot of hurtful words came out, mainly of build up of things I have bottled up that he was not attentive and was always consumed by speaking on the phone to his friends and family more than spending time with me and my son. I told him I feel like a single mother again, what's the point of being together when he's never there! He's not loving and we hardly cuddle, we've become very distant with each other. Everything just exploded out in the open. We both got really hurt and upset. I wanted him out the house and leave as soon as, I was ruthless.
I couldn't stand living in the same house as him, so my son and I moved back to my parents for a few days and gave the engagement ring back, to show him it's for real. Then I realised that why should we move when it's my house too. So we moved back.
That was a week ago, he's been sleeping in the spare room, we have had calm talks since, but I don't know what he wants. He says I'm always nagging, trying to start a fight and he has had enough.
I am really upset, I feel like a monster for saying all those things, but he knows how I feel and he has said it's not just me that needs to change, he has done things to wind me up, and he needs to change too. But not drastically.
I feel so sad, and lonely it's as if I can't function properly, but I have stayed strong for my son and I can't deteriorate because of this. I feel terrible this has happened, but he knows that I still love him and that I will take him back, but I don't know how he is feeling, but I do know he is hurt.
He's gone to see his friends this weekend, as he needs a break from me. I haven't contacted him in any way as I know we both need our space. But if there is anything in the world I can do to make things better, I will do it, my son has been upset in this episode and both sets of parents too. It's been awful for everyone.