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bb_lo
Sep 3, 2010, 04:02 PM
Im 18 years old and my problem is that I already have been in a horrible accident and speeding tickets because I go out too much. Ive tried to stay in but when I get phone calls or texts from people inviting me to go out I start getting ready. I want 2 stop going out because I have a job and I go to school and I don't want everything to go in the drain because of the fun nights I have now when I know I can have fun later in life. But I don't know how. Ive tried everything I can think of but I still go out. I haven't learned my lesson and I want to stop now before something major occurs.

sdfgh
Sep 3, 2010, 04:04 PM
Turn off your phone at night that might help.

bb_lo
Sep 3, 2010, 04:13 PM
sdgh: When I do turn off my phone, my friends come to my house!. =/

I might need to leave the country or something, my situation is getting complicated

Kitkat22
Sep 3, 2010, 04:16 PM
You need to say NO. That would work.

sdfgh
Sep 3, 2010, 04:17 PM
Lock your door!

sdfgh
Sep 3, 2010, 04:17 PM
No maybe you should just straight say to them that u can't then tell them why...

Kitkat22
Sep 3, 2010, 04:20 PM
Your parents should put a stop to it, since you don't know how.

sdfgh
Sep 3, 2010, 04:22 PM
That is a dumb answer..
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bb_lo
Sep 3, 2010, 04:27 PM
Im confused...
Im young, smart, pretty, hardworking, respectful & fun girl.
For some reason I can't get a serious guy to talk to me.
Most of the guys that talk to me start getting in the conversation of having sex! =/
now I don't like talking about sex with guys because I'm a virgin and I'm not ready for that. Now I've been noticing that the girls I go out with have a really bad reputation so the guys might think that I'm like the rest of the girls. It sucks so bad because I don't give the guys no reason to think bad of me. Some guys get to know me better and they ask me why I hang around with these type of girls if I'm not like them. But these girls are so much fun to be around with besides of there reputation. Now, I don't know what to do to talk to a serious guy..

What can I do to get a serious guy to talk to me and not just talk to me to try to have sex?? I want to be taken serious and not treated like the others because were all unique I our own ways... need advice please...

Wondergirl
Sep 3, 2010, 04:27 PM
Invite me over to answer your phone and guard the door. I'll even tutor you for free.

Kitkat22
Sep 3, 2010, 04:32 PM
Just say no! If you want to start doing things differently, you'll have to tell your friends... NO

sdfgh
Sep 3, 2010, 04:34 PM
Kitkat22: I don't think it would do very much if she just said no they would probably go to her house and talk her into it. She has to explain why and everything.

Kitkat22
Sep 3, 2010, 04:36 PM
kitkat22: i dont think it would do very much if she just said no they would probably go to her house and talk her into it. she has to explain why and everything.

That's where the parent's need to step in. The friends don't need an explanation. It's somebody else's life their screwing up and the OP is helping them do it.

Enigma1999
Sep 3, 2010, 04:45 PM
Hello BB,

I can relate to you. When I was between the ages of 16 and 19, my friends wanted to party. I felt a little pressured because I very much wanted to hang out with my friends, but at the same time I felt as if we were always doing something that would make me feel uncomfortable.

So, what I tried to do, was to be the one who initiated fun, safe things to do. For example, we would go to our local café (thats was a hang out place for all the young kids) and hang out there. We would go roller skating, we would go to the movies, we would go out to dinner, we woud go play laser tag, and I was the slumber party queen. Lol Pizza, doing hair, nails, watching scary movies in the basement. So on and so forth.

I think you should set some limits for yourself and simply do things that are fun and safe with you friends.

Is that something you and your friends could do?

sdfgh
Sep 3, 2010, 04:48 PM
Originally posted by kitkat22:That's where the parent's need to step in. The friends don't need an explanation. It's somebody else's life their screwing up and the OP is helping them do it.

They are her friends she can't just shut them off like that. She could just say no and explain and if they still do it, Then she can ask her parents to help her out.

ScottGem
Sep 3, 2010, 04:50 PM
For some reason i can't get a serious guy to talk to me.
Most of the guys that talk to me start getting in the conversation of having sex! =/


Maybe if you stopped partying so much guys would take you more seriously.

sdfgh
Sep 3, 2010, 04:53 PM
That's probably true...

Kitkat22
Sep 3, 2010, 04:55 PM
thats probably true...

No probably to it. It is true!

sdfgh
Sep 3, 2010, 05:00 PM
Wow.

sdfgh
Sep 3, 2010, 05:05 PM
Kitkat22- if you don't mind me asking, how old are you?

Kitkat22
Sep 3, 2010, 05:10 PM
To the OP. You have to control your own life. You can straighten up or you can continue the path you're on.


I'm sure your parents have hopes and dreams for you. I'm sure they want you to go to College.
The next accident you have you may not be so lucky.

Your friends aren't going to care if something happens to you. They may cry but in a year you'll be just a fading memory.

If you drink and drive you could kill an innocent person or if someone slips some drug into your drink you know what will happen.

You have some choices to make.
You can go on being a party girl and expect anything good to come of it.

It's up to you.

sdfgh
Sep 3, 2010, 05:17 PM
To the OP. You have to control your own life. You can straighten up or you can continue the path you're on.



The next accident you have you may not be so lucky.

Your friends aren't going to care if something happens to you. they may cry but in a year you'll be just a fading memory.



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Excuse me, but you don't even know her how would you know what her friends would do or if they forgot. If you lost a friend would you really forget about them in a year? THis isn't a depressing thing! She just needs to be careful give herself a limit like one party a week or a month! Tell her friends she can't and if they still try then they aren't the best of friends, good friends want what's best for you! Just be careful and be happy:) don't drink and drive and don't go to bad parties.

Enigma1999
Sep 3, 2010, 05:20 PM
To the OP. You have to control your own life. You can straighten up or you can continue the path you're on.


I'm sure your parents have hopes and dreams for you. I'm sure they want you to go to College.
The next accident you have you may not be so lucky.

Your friends aren't going to care if something happens to you. they may cry but in a year you'll be just a fading memory.

If you drink and drive you could kill an innocent person or if someone slips some drug into your drink you know what will happen.

You have some choices to make.
You can go on being a party girl and expect anything good to come of it.

It's up to you.

I agree! Would give you a green, have to spread the love.:)

Kitkat22
Sep 3, 2010, 05:23 PM
excuse me, but you dont even know her how would you know what her friends would do or if they forgot. If you lost a friend would you really forget about them in a year? THis isnt a depressing thing! She just needs to be careful give herself a limit like one party a week or a month! tell her friends she can't and if they still try then they arent the best of friends, good friends want whats best for you! Just be careful and be happy:) dont drink and drive and dont go to bad parties.

How old are you sdfg? I have seen teenagers who have driven drunk and killed someone innocent. I have seen two of my daughters friends put in the ground because of driving drunk. No drinking at parties.. yeah right. At eighteen when you die your friends may grieve for a while but they grow up.

sdfgh
Sep 3, 2010, 05:27 PM
I don't drink or go to raving parties.. I was not trying to make an argument either..

sdfgh
Sep 3, 2010, 05:29 PM
Anyway have a good and happy life!

ScottGem
Sep 3, 2010, 05:29 PM
excuse me, but you dont even know her how would you know what her friends would do or if they forgot. If you lost a friend would you really forget about them in a year? THis isnt a depressing thing! She just needs to be careful give herself a limit like one party a week or a month! tell her friends she can't and if they still try then they arent the best of friends, good friends want whats best for you! Just be careful and be happy:) dont drink and drive and dont go to bad parties.

Questions like this involve opinion to a large extent. People who answer questions here give their advice based on their own knowledge and experience. Kitkat is a respected member of this site and has a track record of giving great advice.

Friends who lead you to do things that are bad for you are not real friends and those type will forget you in a year or so. The OP is exhibiting self destructive behavior and appears to need more of an intervention then to just show will power.

Kitkat22
Sep 3, 2010, 05:31 PM
i dont drink or go to raving parties.. i was not trying to make an argument either..

Ok... I'm fine with that. But the OP needs some hard advice on drinking and partying. Here at AMHD we give the best advice we can. Sometimes
It's harsh but it's helpful.

sdfgh
Sep 3, 2010, 05:32 PM
Cool cool..

Kitkat22
Sep 3, 2010, 05:33 PM
cool cool..

You could help if you want too.

sdfgh
Sep 3, 2010, 05:34 PM
That's a good thing to do. Just not to say they are going to die when they are 18:)

justcurious55
Sep 3, 2010, 07:14 PM
kitkat22: i dont think it would do very much if she just said no they would probably go to her house and talk her into it. she has to explain why and everything.

no. I think you're wrong here. Let's just say that she turns her phone off so they end up coming over, and just to make it even more complicated, let's say her parents aren't there to get rid of them. Why does she have to open the door? And even if she does open the door, why does she have to go? She doesn't have to go anywhere with them. She just doesn't want to take the responsibility. Responsibility is not an easy thing to take on, especially when we're younger. So I get that she doesn't want to admit her role in this. But the fact is, whether she's ready to face it, she has choices here and she hasn't been making good ones. So it's time to start practicing this one simple word: "NO!"

bb_lo
Sep 3, 2010, 07:18 PM
IM 18

Wondergirl
Sep 3, 2010, 07:27 PM
kitkat22: i dont think it would do very much if she just said no they would probably go to her house and talk her into it. she has to explain why and everything.
Of course, if she said no and MEANT it... No explanations are necessary.

Kitkat22
Sep 3, 2010, 07:34 PM
It may be hard to listen to someone talking about the death of a young person. That's life and we know that. Yes young people die, small children, young children teenagers. Older people die, it's something that is going to happen to all of us eventually.

You can shorten your life by the way you live, all of us can. Young people taking drugs, because it's "cool". Drinking until you pass out and waking up puking your guts outs. Getting in a car and driving drunk killing innocent people and finally the day will come that it's the end. Too many pills, too much booze and ectasy and unprotected sex. You end up dying from aids or from some stranger taking you home and either raping or killing you or both. That goes for older people too. You get in a car and drive drunk and end up hitting a tree or a telephone pole and you're dead.

I said people will cry and they'll be sad, but they will go on with their lives. The ones who are left hurting are your families your mom and dad and siblings. They never get over it. Your dead.. no college, no spouse or children or traveling to all the wonderful places you probably once dreamed of. Why? Because of the choices you made in your life. Read


Death of an Innocent
"I went to a party, Mom, I remembered what you said.
You told me not to drink, Mom, so I drank soda instead
I really felt proud inside, Mom, the way you said I would.
I didn't drink and drive, Mom, even though the others said I should.

I know I did the right thing, Mom, I know you are always right.
Now the party is finally ending, Mom, everyone is driving out of sight.
As I got into my car, Mom, I knew I'd get home in one piece.
Because of the way you raised me, so responsible and sweet.

I started to drive away, Mom, but as I pulled out into the road,
the other other car didn't see me, Mom, and hit me like a load.
As I lay there on the pavement, Mom, I here the policeman say,
the other guy is drunk, Mom, and I know I am the one who will pay.

I'm lying here dying, Mom.. I wish you'd get here soon.
How could this happen to me, Mom? My life just burst like a balloon.
There is blood all around me, Mom, and most of it is mine.
I hear the medic say, Mom, I'll die in a short time.

I just wanted to tell you, Mom, I swear I didn't drink.
It was the others Mom. The others didn't think.
He was probably at the same party as I.
The only difference is, he drank an I will die.

Why do people drink, Mom? It can ruin your whole life.
I am feeling sharp pains now. Pains like a knife.
The guy who hit me is walking, Mom, and I don't think it is fair.
I'm lying here dying and all he can do is stare.

Tell my brother not to cry, Mom. Tell Daddy to be brave.
And when I go to heaven, Mom, put "Daddy's Girl" on my grave

Someone should have told him, Mom, not to drink and drive."

The End








~

Enigma1999
Sep 3, 2010, 08:09 PM
It may be hard to listen to someone talking about the death of a young person. That's life and we know that. Yes young people die, small children, young children teenagers. Older people die, it's something that is going to happen to all of us eventually.

You can shorten your life by the way you live, all of us can. Young people taking drugs, because it's "cool". Drinking until you pass out and waking up puking your guts outs. Getting in a car and driving drunk killing innocent people and finally the day will come that it's the end. Too many pills, too much booze and ectasy and unprotected sex. You end up dying from aids or from some stranger taking you home and either raping or killing you or both. That goes for older people too. You get in a car and drive drunk and end up hitting a tree or a telephone pole and you're dead.

I said people will cry and they'll be sad, but they will go on with their lives. The ones who are left hurting are your families your mom and dad and siblings. They never get over it. Your dead..no college, no spouse or children or traveling to all the wonderful places you probably once dreamed of. Why? because of the choices you made in your life. Read


Death of an Innocent
"I went to a party, Mom, I remembered what you said.
You told me not to drink, Mom, so I drank soda instead
I really felt proud inside, Mom, the way you said I would.
I didn't drink and drive, Mom, even though the others said I should.

I know I did the right thing, Mom, I know you are always right.
Now the party is finally ending, Mom, everyone is driving out of sight.
As I got into my car, Mom, I knew I'd get home in one piece.
Because of the way you raised me, so responsible and sweet.

I started to drive away, Mom, but as I pulled out into the road,
the other other car didn't see me, Mom, and hit me like a load.
As I lay there on the pavement, Mom, I here the policeman say,
the other guy is drunk, Mom, and I know I am the one who will pay.

I'm lying here dying, Mom.. I wish you'd get here soon.
How could this happen to me, Mom? My life just burst like a balloon.
There is blood all around me, Mom, and most of it is mine.
I hear the medic say, Mom, I'll die in a short time.

I just wanted to tell you, Mom, I swear I didn't drink.
It was the others Mom. The others didn't think.
He was probably at the same party as I.
The only difference is, he drank an I will die.

Why do people drink, Mom? It can ruin your whole life.
I am feeling sharp pains now. Pains like a knife.
The guy who hit me is walking, Mom, and I don't think it is fair.
I'm lying here dying and all he can do is stare.

Tell my brother not to cry, Mom. Tell Daddy to be brave.
And when I go to heaven, Mom, put "Daddy's Girl" on my grave

Someone should have told him, Mom, not to drink and drive."

The End








~

That brought me to tears. Great post!

If that doesn't teach her, then I don't know what will.

bb_lo
Sep 6, 2010, 09:29 PM
I love this!. this advice and many others hava helped me a lot!. thank you soooo much <3

Kitkat22
Sep 6, 2010, 09:43 PM
It may be hard to listen to someone talking about the death of a young person. That's life and we know that. Yes young people die, small children, young children teenagers. Older people die, it's something that is going to happen to all of us eventually.

You can shorten your life by the way you live, all of us can. Young people taking drugs, because it's "cool". Drinking until you pass out and waking up puking your guts outs. Getting in a car and driving drunk killing innocent people and finally the day will come that it's the end. Too many pills, too much booze and ectasy and unprotected sex. You end up dying from aids or from some stranger taking you home and either raping or killing you or both. That goes for older people too. You get in a car and drive drunk and end up hitting a tree or a telephone pole and you're dead.

I said people will cry and they'll be sad, but they will go on with their lives. The ones who are left hurting are your families your mom and dad and siblings. They never get over it. Your dead..no college, no spouse or children or traveling to all the wonderful places you probably once dreamed of. Why? because of the choices you made in your life. Read


Death of an Innocent
"I went to a party, Mom, I remembered what you said.
You told me not to drink, Mom, so I drank soda instead
I really felt proud inside, Mom, the way you said I would.
I didn't drink and drive, Mom, even though the others said I should.

I know I did the right thing, Mom, I know you are always right.
Now the party is finally ending, Mom, everyone is driving out of sight.
As I got into my car, Mom, I knew I'd get home in one piece.
Because of the way you raised me, so responsible and sweet.

I started to drive away, Mom, but as I pulled out into the road,
the other other car didn't see me, Mom, and hit me like a load.
As I lay there on the pavement, Mom, I here the policeman say,
the other guy is drunk, Mom, and I know I am the one who will pay.

I'm lying here dying, Mom.. I wish you'd get here soon.
How could this happen to me, Mom? My life just burst like a balloon.
There is blood all around me, Mom, and most of it is mine.
I hear the medic say, Mom, I'll die in a short time.

I just wanted to tell you, Mom, I swear I didn't drink.
It was the others Mom. The others didn't think.
He was probably at the same party as I.
The only difference is, he drank an I will die.

Why do people drink, Mom? It can ruin your whole life.
I am feeling sharp pains now. Pains like a knife.
The guy who hit me is walking, Mom, and I don't think it is fair.
I'm lying here dying and all he can do is stare.

Tell my brother not to cry, Mom. Tell Daddy to be brave.
And when I go to heaven, Mom, put "Daddy's Girl" on my grave

Someone should have told him, Mom, not to drink and drive."

The End








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