SaineReyon
Aug 26, 2010, 12:31 AM
I've been dating a boy for nearly a year now, and I'm very much in love with him. Now we're both very young, and I may just be overreacting to everything. An outside opinion may help me to be able to talk to him about it myself.
I've noticed a change in him recently. The past two months or so, he's begun talking to several of his ex-girlfriends. Now normally, I wouldn't find this very alarming, seeing as he's been trying to rebuild old friendships. But what I find odd, is that whenever I ask him about it, he denies it, even if I see him texting her right in front of me. Another thing is, whenever he runs into an ex of his he'd rather not see, he makes it a point to get her attention, even when he's told me before that he wants no contact with her at all.
This last event, the one that's making me start to question him, happened by accident. He showed me something his phone could do: If you hold the 'space' key while viewing a message, a voice will read it to you. The two of us found this funny, as the voice would pronounce several words wrong. He left the room for a few minutes, and I started flipping through his messages, looking for more for the voice to read. I saw some messages between him and a girl that we both know and are friends with, and at first I paid no attention. But then I noticed one message that made me stop. He'd sent it to her and it read as this: "Loves ya lol :)"
I started to read through the other messages they'd sent back and forth, and I was shocked to find very flirty messages, mostly ones he'd sent.
The context of these messages weren't exactly questionable either, not borderline between friends texting and a little flirty.
A few messages he'd sent included: "Aww, you're so sweet", "You always make me smile", "You're a lot prettier than the girls I know", and one which particularly stood out, a locked message from her that read: "Well we're the only ones that matter" and his reply, "You've got that right :)"
I confronted him about the messages, and his solution was to stop talking to anyone else altogether, but I told him that I trust him enough to know that he'll be faithful, and I apologized for getting upset over silly messages. We left it at that for a few weeks, but recently I realized that he never once said those messages were completely innocent.
I'm not exactly the image of beauty here, neither am I radiating confidence. And I will admit, I have looked at a few guys I know in that way, but I wouldn't dream of leaving my sweetheart, not for anyone. He's been there for me for a lot since even before we started dating, and I'd hate for us to have a falling out because I didn't take a step back and consider the facts. I'd very much appreciate a little advice on this matter.
I've noticed a change in him recently. The past two months or so, he's begun talking to several of his ex-girlfriends. Now normally, I wouldn't find this very alarming, seeing as he's been trying to rebuild old friendships. But what I find odd, is that whenever I ask him about it, he denies it, even if I see him texting her right in front of me. Another thing is, whenever he runs into an ex of his he'd rather not see, he makes it a point to get her attention, even when he's told me before that he wants no contact with her at all.
This last event, the one that's making me start to question him, happened by accident. He showed me something his phone could do: If you hold the 'space' key while viewing a message, a voice will read it to you. The two of us found this funny, as the voice would pronounce several words wrong. He left the room for a few minutes, and I started flipping through his messages, looking for more for the voice to read. I saw some messages between him and a girl that we both know and are friends with, and at first I paid no attention. But then I noticed one message that made me stop. He'd sent it to her and it read as this: "Loves ya lol :)"
I started to read through the other messages they'd sent back and forth, and I was shocked to find very flirty messages, mostly ones he'd sent.
The context of these messages weren't exactly questionable either, not borderline between friends texting and a little flirty.
A few messages he'd sent included: "Aww, you're so sweet", "You always make me smile", "You're a lot prettier than the girls I know", and one which particularly stood out, a locked message from her that read: "Well we're the only ones that matter" and his reply, "You've got that right :)"
I confronted him about the messages, and his solution was to stop talking to anyone else altogether, but I told him that I trust him enough to know that he'll be faithful, and I apologized for getting upset over silly messages. We left it at that for a few weeks, but recently I realized that he never once said those messages were completely innocent.
I'm not exactly the image of beauty here, neither am I radiating confidence. And I will admit, I have looked at a few guys I know in that way, but I wouldn't dream of leaving my sweetheart, not for anyone. He's been there for me for a lot since even before we started dating, and I'd hate for us to have a falling out because I didn't take a step back and consider the facts. I'd very much appreciate a little advice on this matter.