izzakhalid
Jul 27, 2010, 09:34 PM
Hey, I've never really done this before. But lets just say, I am in desperate need of help, and I don't really have many options left.
I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years, We had a great relationship.
We were always the perfect couple, we got along, we fought, made up. I met him 5 years ago, where he fell in love with me while I was seeing somebody else. It was like a scene from a book, or a movie. It was perfect. We were perfect. Couple of months ago, we started having some issues, regarding the fact that he didn't like me getting close to a guy friend of mine. And even though he isn't the posessive sort, this was something that was bothering him, and we both always gave importance to what was important to each other, so I told him I'd decrease the friendship.
Though I wanted to, I couldn't, due to many reasons, or stupid excuses.
I lied to him profusely, I told him we were not even friends anymore, though we still talked.
He found out, I told him to give me another chance, and then he found out again 4 months ago, and to him that was the biggest blow. Me lying about another guy, he felt like he was not important enough for me. He broke up with me. I tried really hard to get him back, because then I knew it was my fault. He finally, after a month and a lot of efforts, he gave me another chance. I did everything he wanted me to, I left everything that he had a problem with, because I loved him. And I wanted things to be the way they were. He was really hurt, he cried, though he isn't the crying sort. And after a couple of months of taunts, we finally got better, I felt like we were finally crossing that stage. I did nothing to lose his trust this time, which I thought I had gained.
My university starts in a month, and as soon as I brought that up, 5 days ago, he changed. He started talking about the whole thing all over again. And how he didn't think he could trust me yet, he gave me so many chances, and he wanted to trust me, he loved me, but he was going to be very insecure and weird thinking that ill hurt him again. Or break his trust again. And he couldn't go through with that. I tried to rationally explain to him so many things, though he's very stubborn when he wants to be. And he just convinced himself, that he wouldn't be the same with me when my university started, even if I wouldn't do anything, he just didn't have it in him he loved me, and he cried again on the fone when we talked about how we were always together. I can't imagine life without him. I grew up with him, he was always there. And now, he said I won't be happy without you, but being insecure and crazy, it would only break me more, so its better if we won't be together.
I don't know what to do, I have done everything I could to take back my mistake. But he still can't let it go.
I just want to know, after 5 years of loving somebody, like crazy, passionately, do you really just give up, no matter how sure you are that it's the right thing to do? Will he come back to me?
Hes not like most guys, if something is a big deal to him, it's a huge deal. And this, this is like cheating for him. I need to know if he will come back?
I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years, We had a great relationship.
We were always the perfect couple, we got along, we fought, made up. I met him 5 years ago, where he fell in love with me while I was seeing somebody else. It was like a scene from a book, or a movie. It was perfect. We were perfect. Couple of months ago, we started having some issues, regarding the fact that he didn't like me getting close to a guy friend of mine. And even though he isn't the posessive sort, this was something that was bothering him, and we both always gave importance to what was important to each other, so I told him I'd decrease the friendship.
Though I wanted to, I couldn't, due to many reasons, or stupid excuses.
I lied to him profusely, I told him we were not even friends anymore, though we still talked.
He found out, I told him to give me another chance, and then he found out again 4 months ago, and to him that was the biggest blow. Me lying about another guy, he felt like he was not important enough for me. He broke up with me. I tried really hard to get him back, because then I knew it was my fault. He finally, after a month and a lot of efforts, he gave me another chance. I did everything he wanted me to, I left everything that he had a problem with, because I loved him. And I wanted things to be the way they were. He was really hurt, he cried, though he isn't the crying sort. And after a couple of months of taunts, we finally got better, I felt like we were finally crossing that stage. I did nothing to lose his trust this time, which I thought I had gained.
My university starts in a month, and as soon as I brought that up, 5 days ago, he changed. He started talking about the whole thing all over again. And how he didn't think he could trust me yet, he gave me so many chances, and he wanted to trust me, he loved me, but he was going to be very insecure and weird thinking that ill hurt him again. Or break his trust again. And he couldn't go through with that. I tried to rationally explain to him so many things, though he's very stubborn when he wants to be. And he just convinced himself, that he wouldn't be the same with me when my university started, even if I wouldn't do anything, he just didn't have it in him he loved me, and he cried again on the fone when we talked about how we were always together. I can't imagine life without him. I grew up with him, he was always there. And now, he said I won't be happy without you, but being insecure and crazy, it would only break me more, so its better if we won't be together.
I don't know what to do, I have done everything I could to take back my mistake. But he still can't let it go.
I just want to know, after 5 years of loving somebody, like crazy, passionately, do you really just give up, no matter how sure you are that it's the right thing to do? Will he come back to me?
Hes not like most guys, if something is a big deal to him, it's a huge deal. And this, this is like cheating for him. I need to know if he will come back?