I feel like God wants me to be single for the rest of my life.

I have tried the whole internet dating thing, complete waste of time, all the girls on there are extremely pick and what not. I am shy. I don't really approach women and Im fine with that cause most of the time it back fires. I am kind of talking to a female right now, but I kind of have the feeling she isn't into me like I am into her, if that makes any sense. I have also been in two serious relationships, both went to dumps. And I don't know, I just feel like I am meant to be single and just focuse on my career and being the best at what I do

Oh and by the way, Happy 4th

When you least expect love to find you sometimes it does. Dating sites... I'm not to keen on those for anyone. You seem to have accepted the fact that you are meant to be alone.

Don't give up and don't settle for second best. Being alone isn't so bad if you haven't found the right one.

Don't put yourself down or think any less of yourself. I believe we all have our match. I have mine.
Be good to yourself by dating nice girls and don't do the club scene. I wish you luck and Happy Fourth to you also. You will find your match.;)

Sorry Kat I have to spread the rep.

I agree with the advice kat has given you, don't put yourself down and love will find you when its your time, you just have to be patient and it really will come to you.

First dating is a lot about attitude, as I have mentioned many times, first what type of girl are you trying to date, if all of them have to look like movie stars, yes, they will have 100's of guys chasing them all the time, does not mean you can't get a movie star type, but first just date.

An example, after I lost my last wife, I was in my late 40's and perhaps 50 lbs over weight, I have a limp and appear to be blind in one eye. Not a winner on looks, but guess what a friend of mine told me that dating was like any sales job, except you are the product, and it is a matter of numbers, the more people you ask out, the more dates you will have.
Some dates will go great, and some will be a thing you laugh about in a few years.

Online dating works great, you will get dozens of first dates and some will go to second and some will go on and on if you click. The idea of online meeting is not to fall in love online, it is merely to meet and then meet in person for real dating. So no long distance online, merely meet local people on line.
Next there are plenty of people you meet every day that may be great first dates,

When you least expect love to find you sometimes it does. Dating sites ...I'm not to keen on those for anyone. You seem to have accepted the fact that you are meant to be alone.

Don't give up and don't settle for second best. Being alone isn't so bad if you haven't found the right one.

Don't put yourself down or think any less of yourself. I believe we all have our match. I have mine.
Be good to yourself by dating nice girls and don't do the club scene. I wish you luck and Happy Fourth to you also. You will find your match.;)


You are right on everyone has a match, a soulmate. But what if mine is my country. Everything to this point in my life is pointing towards that. i.e. like is said I am talking to this girl, have known her for about a week now, meet her on a dating site. First one I have meet. Everything was cool. We saw each other twice and had a great time (well at least I did.) And now over the past couple of days she has been acting a little different from how she was earlier this week, and what I mean by that is, last time I saw her, she couldn't wait for me to go over to her house, and when I did, she didn't want me to leave. And now its like she doesn't want to see me at all. We kind of had plans to see each other today, and spend the 4th together. We talked a little about it this morning, she said she wasn't feeling good and would have to see how she felt later. Nothing. I can't even keep a converstaion going with her now.

Maybe I am suppost to be single for my whole life. And besides, if I do happen to find a girl that I like, and she fits everything I want (not just physical asspects but emotional and mental). What if she can't handle what I am looking for out of a relationship. There are things in a relationship that I want and I will not change, like no pre-marital sex, we have to date at least for 4years and things like that.

But I don't know, if this is the case, I am basically giving up one goal to achieve another...

You are right on everyone has a match, a soulmate. But what if mine is my country. everything to this point in my life is pointing towards that. i.e. like is said I am talking to this girl, have known her for about a week now, meet her on a dating site. first one I have meet. everything was cool. we saw eachother twice and had a great time (well atleast I did.) And now over the past couple of days she has been acting a little different from how she was earlier this week, and what I mean by that is, last time I saw her, she couldnt wait for me to go over to her house, and when I did, she didnt want me to leave. And now its like she doesnt want to see me at all. We kind of had plans to see eachother today, and spend the 4th together. We talked alittle about it this morning, she said she wasnt feeling good and would have to see how she felt later. Nothing. I can't even keep a converstaion going with her now.

Maybe I am suppost to be single for my whole life. and besides, if I do happen to find a girl that I like, and she fits everthing I want (not just physical asspects but emotional and mental). what if she can't handle what I am looking for out of a relationship. there are things in a relationship that I want and I will not change, like no pre-marital sex, we have to date atleast for 4years and things like that.

but I dont know, if this is the case, I am basicly giving up one goal to achive another....




This girl your seeing may just be feeling bad. There are days I know I want to be alone and my husband says the same thing. We've been married a long time. There will be someone and when you do meet her it will be worth the wait. Keep asking God to lead you to the right person and he will in his own time. Don't give up hope... Bless you:)

This girl your seeing may just be feeling bad. There are days i know I want to be alone and my husband says the same thing. We've been married a long time. There will be someone and when you do meet her it will be worth the wait. Keep asking God to lead you to the right person and he will in his own time. Don't give up hope....Bless you:)

I understand she could be not feeling so good today, but at the same time, it would be nice to know if we are going to see each other at all during this weekend and what not. You know, at least not leave me in the dark and trying to figure out what's going on like I am now

I understand she could be not feeling so good today, but at the same time, it would be nice to know if we are going to see eachother at all during this weekend and what not. you know, atleast not leave me in the dark and trying to figure out whats going on like I am now

Just ask her. Honesty is the best policy. Are you a soldier? From the picture of yourself, I don't think you have anything to worry about. You're handsome and all you need is to have confidence in yourself.:)

You are right on everyone has a match, a soulmate. But what if mine is my country. everything to this point in my life is pointing towards that.
Whoa! How old are you? 23? 24? You're throwing the baby out with the bathwater. My younger son is looking and dating and checking out situations. No luck yet. He's 35. Now there's a woman at his church who might be the one. We'll see. He's willing to wait and do it right. When he finds love, it will be good. He won't marry just anyone and won't settle just to get married.

You'll find her of these days.

Just ask her. Honesty is the best policy. Are you a soldier? From the picture of yourself, I don't think you have anything to worry about. You're handsome and all you need is to have confidence in your self.:)

I am in the Air Force.
And I would ask her what's up but at the same time I don't want to sound clingy (sp) or push or anything like that

Whoa! How old are you? 23? 24? You're throwing the baby out with the bathwater. My younger son is looking and dating and checking out situations. No luck yet. He's 35. Now there's a woman at his church who might be the one. We'll see. He's willing to wait and do it right. When he finds love, it will be good. He won't marry just anyone and won't settle just to get married.

You'll find her of these days.

Im 19 lol.
And maybe there is someone out there for me, but I really feel like there isn't at this point in my life

Im 19 lol.
and maybe there is someone out there for me, but I really feel like there isnt at this point in my life

Nineteen... You havve so much to look forward too. Don't be in such a hurry. Enjoy being young.

Im 19 lol.
and maybe there is someone out there for me, but I really feel like there isnt at this point in my life
The woman my son is chatting with and might date soon makes monkey sock puppets as a hobby. He's setting up her web site so she can sell them online. Sounds like a meeting in a romance novel, right? I'm sure there is someone out there like that for you. And if you need a monkey sock puppet to give as a gift, maybe to a child, now you know where you can find one. Ask me.

The woman my son is chatting with and might date soon makes monkey sock puppets as a hobby. He's setting up her web site so she can sell them online. Sounds like a meeting in a romance novel, right? I'm sure there is someone out there like that for you. And if you need a monkey sock puppet to give as a gift, maybe to a child, now you know where you can find one. Ask me.

Lol That is great to hear! And it would be great if there is something like that out there for me. It does sound like a novel, you should write it lol

Nineteen...You havve so much to look forward too. Don't be in such a hurry. Enjoy being young.

I know I am young
But this is how I feel right now...

lol That is great to hear! and it would be great if there is something like that out there for me. it does sound like a novel, you should write it lol
I'm busy writing one about two people who meet again years later at their 50th high school reunion. She's scared to go and see him again (she knows he will be there) because she has a secret she never told him. She goes to the reunion and finds him and is dancing with him and he collapses. He has to be rushed to the hospital, and she goes along in the ambulance and holds his hand. They get to the hospital and the ER doctor... well I can't tell you any more, or I'll spoil the story.

I'm busy writing one about two people who meet again years later at their 50th high school reunion. She's scared to go and see him again (she knows he will be there) because she has a secret she never told him. She goes to the reunion and finds him and is dancing with him and he collapses. He has to be rushed to the hospital, and she goes along in the ambulance and holds his hand. They get to the hospital and the ER doctor ... well I can't tell you any more, or I'll spoil the story.


Sounds great so far, are you going to get it published?

sounds great so far, are you going to get it published?
What if I said I don't feel like God wants me to finish the book and get it published? What would you say to me?

What if I said I don't feel like God wants me to finish the book and get it published? What would you say to me?

I see where you are going with this, and you have a point.
I will not completely through any hope for true love out.

Thank you guys for talking to me about this, has definitely helped out.

I see where you are going with this, and you have a point.
I will not completely through any hope for true love out.
I hadn't planned to go there, but it did seem like a similar situation. And since I've gotten four other books published, I'm thinking I might be able to get this one published too. Of course, I have to finish it... just like you have to find the right girl. Looks like we both have our work cut out for us!

Thank you guys for talking to me about this, has definitely helped out.
I'm glad. It was fun meeting you and talking with you. Don't stay away so long next time. When you find the right girl, check back to see if I got the book finished and published.

Wondergirl What books have you published?

Wondergirl What books have you published?
Three are about different parts of Texas history, and the fourth is about Illinois history. All four are out of print and can be read on Google Books.

That's awesome. Congrats.

Thats awesome. Congrats.
Thanks! That was how I kept busy during the 1990s. The Texas ones are still being used in the Texas school system as supplementary reading. They were fun to write, and I got to meet a lot of interesting Texas people--librarians, local historians, authors, university professors, and American Indians who live in Texas.

That's why I don't want the OP to get discouraged. You can make your dreams come true if you watch for opportunities.

Thanks! That was how I kept busy during the 1990s. The Texas ones are still being used in the Texas school system as supplementary reading. They were fun to write, and I got to meet a lot of interesting Texas people--librarians, local historians, authors, university professors, and American Indians who live in Texas.

That's why I don't want the OP to get discouraged. You can make your dreams come true if you watch for opportunities.



Wondergirl.. I had just about given up on my book and trying to get it published.. you have inspired me to try... Thanks Kit:)

Well I found out what happened with the girl I was suppost to hang out with yesterday.

So she texts me at 1am. Telling me she is really really sorry about no hanging out with me. I ask her what she means and she says she basically blew me off to hang out with her friends. And that's she felt really bad for doing. She claims that's not like her to do that. What makes it worse though is, while I was at the fireworks show, we looked right at each other, and yet she conitinued to keep walking. I wasn't for sure if it was her or not. But we talked about it. I guess I can't really be mad, because at least she came and told me what happened, and felt bad about it. I know girls that would tell me they did it and then basically tell me to get over it. So I am thankful she isn't one of those girls. I still don't know what to think. I am going to give her another chance, we are suppost to see each other today, but if she blows me off again. Im done.

Why don't you date to get to know a person, not to have a relationship. It takes a few dates to know whether a person is for you or you like them well enough to go further.
How long did your other two relationships last? At 19 it could not have been that long and you're a little young for them to have been too serious.
You're in the Air Force now. Enjoy dating, getting to know people, the right on will come along in time.

Not everyone you date is going to like you nor you them. Dating is for getting to know each other.

Why don't you date to get to know a person, not to have a relationship. It takes a few dates to know whether or not a person is for you or you like them well enough to go further.
How long did your other two relationships last? At 19 it could not have been that long and you're a little young for them to have been too serious.
You're in the Air Force now. Enjoy dating, getting to know people, the right on will come along in time.

Not everyone you date is going to like you nor you them. Dating is for getting to know each other.

One was just under a year and the other one was a year and half so yes, not that long.

That is kind of typical for the teen years.
You have plenty of time to find the right person for you.
Enjoy the process and don't worry about finding "the one" right now.