alvena
May 7, 2010, 12:52 PM
About 18 months ago I became very good friends with a guy we had an absolutely fantastic connection and chemistry and hung out a lot and talked for hours and hours sometimes 5-6 hours in a row I know I was important to him and he cared about me.
He is one of those emotionally immature and emotionally detached men. He is also a bit socially weird, he is friends with mainly girls and can say all sorts of things to them and get away with it, he steals their jewelry randomly gives girls flowers but everyone knows it means nothing... he will do whatever he wants whenever he wants and loves his independence but he sacrificed a lot for me.
The last 6 months I started to like him a lot, we started spending a lot of time together watching movies every night I used to lie on his lap and he used to put his arm round me and stroke my waist and stroke my back and hug me... over the past month I saw him every night we used to talk for hours and hours sit and watch TV together hugging and cuddling and him stroking me occasionally I would kiss his cheek and he would seem to like it... he started giving me really tight hugs and being really nice to me and sending me messages like good night sleep well etc we used to text allll if I wanted a milkshake at midnight he would come and pick me up and take me even if he didn't want anything. We went to the cinema and he held my hand throughout the movie. He just gave me so much time, more than he gave anyone else.
Tuesday night we were sitting together watching TV, and we kissed... we kissed twice, first I tried to intiate it and he wasn't feeling it so I backed off but then he came forward to kiss me.
afterwards I tried to act normal... but he said we should have kissed two friends shouldn't have kissed. I said we must have kissed for a reason and he said oh my god u and your fate and destinity.. I said oh my god I'm saying that I'm just saying that I like you more than a friend. We ended up having a 5 hour conversation in which basically he said he thought we were just friends (utter crap) and he didn't realise I liked him, to him crying because he hurt me and he didn't want that to happen at all he just hated to see me hurt and hates himself, he also kept going on how he doesn't want a relationship even though I wasn't asking for one and then kept saying there is nothing not to like about you, this isn't about you I just don't want a relationship... eventually after this 5 hour confusing conversation with both of us crying holding hands... he said as far as I'm concerned we are still friends and the kiss was a mistake and he was sorry.
However ever since then, he has not been in touch with me I had to initate contact with him and its been just weird and awkward.
I know he likes me I'm not stupid, I miss him I want him back.
will no contact work in this situation? If not what can I do?
thank you so much for reading. X
He is one of those emotionally immature and emotionally detached men. He is also a bit socially weird, he is friends with mainly girls and can say all sorts of things to them and get away with it, he steals their jewelry randomly gives girls flowers but everyone knows it means nothing... he will do whatever he wants whenever he wants and loves his independence but he sacrificed a lot for me.
The last 6 months I started to like him a lot, we started spending a lot of time together watching movies every night I used to lie on his lap and he used to put his arm round me and stroke my waist and stroke my back and hug me... over the past month I saw him every night we used to talk for hours and hours sit and watch TV together hugging and cuddling and him stroking me occasionally I would kiss his cheek and he would seem to like it... he started giving me really tight hugs and being really nice to me and sending me messages like good night sleep well etc we used to text allll if I wanted a milkshake at midnight he would come and pick me up and take me even if he didn't want anything. We went to the cinema and he held my hand throughout the movie. He just gave me so much time, more than he gave anyone else.
Tuesday night we were sitting together watching TV, and we kissed... we kissed twice, first I tried to intiate it and he wasn't feeling it so I backed off but then he came forward to kiss me.
afterwards I tried to act normal... but he said we should have kissed two friends shouldn't have kissed. I said we must have kissed for a reason and he said oh my god u and your fate and destinity.. I said oh my god I'm saying that I'm just saying that I like you more than a friend. We ended up having a 5 hour conversation in which basically he said he thought we were just friends (utter crap) and he didn't realise I liked him, to him crying because he hurt me and he didn't want that to happen at all he just hated to see me hurt and hates himself, he also kept going on how he doesn't want a relationship even though I wasn't asking for one and then kept saying there is nothing not to like about you, this isn't about you I just don't want a relationship... eventually after this 5 hour confusing conversation with both of us crying holding hands... he said as far as I'm concerned we are still friends and the kiss was a mistake and he was sorry.
However ever since then, he has not been in touch with me I had to initate contact with him and its been just weird and awkward.
I know he likes me I'm not stupid, I miss him I want him back.
will no contact work in this situation? If not what can I do?
thank you so much for reading. X