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Krys612
Jan 30, 2010, 08:39 AM
I finally met the perfect guy for me. Every quality I had ever wanted in a guy, everything that I found in people that I had dated that I liked, all combined into one amazing person. In 3 weeks I grew to care about this guy more than I've cared about anyone in my entire life and it scares me because I've been in serious relationships before.

And to him I was everything he has ever looked for or wanted yet the only problem is that he recently realized that he isn't over his ex. They had been together for 3 years and had only been broken up for 3 months when I met him. He told me that he feels like his heart is divided in half and it isn't fair to me if his heart isn't 100% mine.

He wants to stay best friends with me because "I'm too amazing to completely let me out of his life" It would be much easier if I didn't care about him or if he didn't care about me, but that isn't the case. I don't want to let go of the best person I've ever met yet I don't want to feel like I'm being strung along until he decides what his heart really wants.

What should I do?

amicon
Jan 30, 2010, 09:27 AM
He needs to heal from his breakup before trying to get involved with somebody else.

The two of you want different things right now and you'd be doing yourself no favours by hanging around waiting for him to heal and possibly decide he wants to be with you.

I don't think you should attempt a friendship either,as you want more than that.


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jaime90
Jan 30, 2010, 04:17 PM
If you respect him and care about him like you say you do, the answer should be simple. Give him his space, and give him his time. Let him heal on his own.

talaniman
Jan 31, 2010, 10:05 AM
Leave him alone to heal. As long as you want more, you will be miserable waiting, and hoping, for him to feel the same about you, as you feel about him.