baseballfever
Jan 26, 2010, 10:20 AM
Hey guys I'm in a difficult situation.. ive been dating this girl for over 2 years now and we fell in love with each other... we had many problems in the past but we always worked through them and now we have such a strong bond!. we are fairly young but we know what right and wrong is we are both 19 years old...
My problem is my girl loves to go out and party and go to parties at her college and to bars etc... I tell her that I'm not trying to be controlling but feel uncomfortable with her going to these parties... the thing is its not like a here and there thing its every weekend, she goes with her friends and there's always guys around and I don't know who these people are. I told her my worries that I feel that she becomes wild and not the same person when she parties and it makes me unhappy and uncomfortable because I love her and I don't want to get hurt. She tells me that she loves me and she's not looking for guys when she goes to these parties she is just hanging out with her friends... I told her I don't mind her hanging out with her friends but every time she does hangout with her friends she's out at a party or bar... but she has lied to me in the past about where is she is like saying she's going to a friends but she went to a party which now it is hard for me to believe her anymore to be honest but the thing is I do trust her but not when she parties and drinks... because she turns into a different person which is no good.. she never ever invited me to party in the past which I feel is kind of messed up...
Now I basically had enough and I told her she has to relax with her parting and I told her that I feel that its wrong for her to go out to party she told me she will be unhappy if she can't party and hangout with her friends.. I told her time and time again she can hangout with her friends but she's always at a party or bar.. and I told her it's the party thing that makes me unhappy... she told me she not ready to stop and give up parting and its not because she doesn't love me enough to stop is because she feels she will regret in in her future... but for me right now it makes me unhappy I don't want to lose her and she doesn't want lose me because we love each other but its become too much for me to handle what should I do?? Also I feel like its not right of her going to parties especially without me? What should I do ? How should I handle this situation
My problem is my girl loves to go out and party and go to parties at her college and to bars etc... I tell her that I'm not trying to be controlling but feel uncomfortable with her going to these parties... the thing is its not like a here and there thing its every weekend, she goes with her friends and there's always guys around and I don't know who these people are. I told her my worries that I feel that she becomes wild and not the same person when she parties and it makes me unhappy and uncomfortable because I love her and I don't want to get hurt. She tells me that she loves me and she's not looking for guys when she goes to these parties she is just hanging out with her friends... I told her I don't mind her hanging out with her friends but every time she does hangout with her friends she's out at a party or bar... but she has lied to me in the past about where is she is like saying she's going to a friends but she went to a party which now it is hard for me to believe her anymore to be honest but the thing is I do trust her but not when she parties and drinks... because she turns into a different person which is no good.. she never ever invited me to party in the past which I feel is kind of messed up...
Now I basically had enough and I told her she has to relax with her parting and I told her that I feel that its wrong for her to go out to party she told me she will be unhappy if she can't party and hangout with her friends.. I told her time and time again she can hangout with her friends but she's always at a party or bar.. and I told her it's the party thing that makes me unhappy... she told me she not ready to stop and give up parting and its not because she doesn't love me enough to stop is because she feels she will regret in in her future... but for me right now it makes me unhappy I don't want to lose her and she doesn't want lose me because we love each other but its become too much for me to handle what should I do?? Also I feel like its not right of her going to parties especially without me? What should I do ? How should I handle this situation