Aaren92
Sep 10, 2009, 01:53 PM
Hello, this is my first post ever, so I'm pretty new to this, and I've read a lot of other peoples how to get your girlfriend back and stuff but, some of the answer related to me and some really didn't.
Okay so, this is my story summed up.
I started dating my ex girlfriend may 16, she broke up with me about a month and a half ago, we both loved each other with all of our hearts, I would die for her and do anything for her. Whenever we would hangout we would be so happy, no matter what we did, it felt like everything else around us would just disappear. We would hangout with other friends too, and we'd always have a great time. Now, this is the problem. Before you say, oh this guys a huge , hear me out. My girlfriend would go to some parties alone, without me, and she went to a bush party last summer, and a bunch of her friends told me she cheated on me, I was so completely devastated, I had no idea what to do. I tried to talk to my friend about it but he didn't know what to do, it didn't matter when I heard that because I couldn't believe it. They told me she cheated on me with her ex boyfriend. I still didn't believe it, I didn't hear from her that night and I was so upset, I was so angry at the same time. I didn't know what to do, and the stupidest idea popped into my head, what if I got back at her and made her jealous? The same night that she cheated on me I thought I would see how it would make her feel (it was so completely immature and it's the one thing I regret so much, it's disgusting and I would never do something so immature and disrespectful to her again, or anyone) So I went onto a website, and found this girl, and she flashed me, I didn't do anything, I didn't know what to do, I asked her to, I wish I ing didn't, I wish I didn't do that and I wish I could take it back so badly. I thought I would cover it up because I didn't want her to know I did something that horrible, I love her with all my heart and the next morning I immediately knew I made a huge mistake, and she was the one for me, even if she did cheat on me I'd somehow find a way to get over it because she is the biggest sweetheart in the world, and she means everything to me. The next morning I just forgot about it, I've never felt like I've degrated someone so much, and I can't believe I did that to my girlfriend. The next morning I talked to her on the phone and I was extremely upset, she was really confused with what was going on. I asked her if she cheated on me and she said 'oh my ing god no! I would never do that'. Her best friend, also told me that she never did anything, she was with her the whole time and she is a trustable friend, and she's also a good friend of mine. After I was so depressed, I just wanted to tell her, I didn't want to hide what I did to her, but I didn't tell her. Everything just went on normally for the next couple months until I got a text from her saying you've got a lot of explaining to do.
By the way I was 16 years old, when this happened, and she was 15, this happened in the summer of 2008. The next part is from this summer.
Everything was perfect, we couldn't be happier with each other and we would talk on the phone every night, until 7 in the morning and I would go over to her house and hangout with her at 8, it was true love, I've never been so happy in my life. Until one night, when the girl I got to flash me decided that it would be funny if she told me girlfriend what I did. She told my girlfriend what I asked her to do, and my girlfriend believed her. At first I acted stupid like I didn't know what she was talking about, until after I took the blame for it. The girl told my girlfriend that I asked 2 of her friends to flash me too but I didn't, and my girlfriend believed that there were 3 girls. It was only 1. We talked for a very long time, she said she wanted a break but I wouldn't let her, and we kept dating, she told me she could get over it because she loved me so much. Everything went back to normal, we forgot about it, and I never brought it up, she made some jokes occasionally about asian girls because the girl I got to flash me was asian (I have no idea why) but, I just laughed it off and forgot about it, after about 3 weeks it was all forgotten. We went back to living our lives, being happy and loving each other so much. I was still kindof depressed when I was around her, but when I was alone I'd be miserable, I'd just want to see her, or talk to her on the phone because she'd always cheer me up, and put me in the best moods :)
This summer of 2009, My girlfriend would hangout with this guy, to me he was different, I thought he was kindof weird, but he was and interesting person, he's bisexual and him and my girlfriend were really good friends, and I didn't mind I knew they were good friends and he had a girlfriend at the time. They were hanging out at his house one day with 2 other people (my girlfriends best friend and another one of our friends and she told me that he gives really good foot massages, it kindof creeped me out, and I didn't really trust her to be around him, I'm protective of her, but not too protective, but they would still hangout and I'd be okay with it :))
But, this is where we had problems. One of my friends sent me a message on Facebook telling me that my girlfriend needs to keep out of other peoples business, and she needs to back off. I was really confused and I asked her about what was going on, and my girlfriends best friend's girlfriend told me that they were fooling around. I got really pissed off, I couldn't believe she'd do that to me, and I didn't, I wasn't going to let something like this happen to our amazing relationship again. I heard it from my girlfriend that her best friend's girlfriend is a bit of a drama queen and likes to start stupid . So I let it slide, but I was still kind of curious, with what was going on, my girlfriend and her best friend stopped hanging out.
After this though, I was trying to get a picture of us on Facebook onto my phone, so I was trying to take a picture of my computer where the picture was, every time I'd take it there would be black lines on the picture and you couldn't see it, so on the right side of Facebook there's random new pictures of people who post them so I clicked on one of them and tried to take a picture. What I didn't even think of or realize was that the girl was in her bathing suit and I didn't think anything of it, so I went back to the picture I was trying to get onto my phone and it still came up with the black lines, so I just tossed my phone onto my bed and fell asleep because it was about 3 in the morning D:
About 2 days later we were hanging out we were laying on her bed, she fell asleep on me, in my arms. About an hour later we woke up from our nap :) and we were laying on the floor, I picked up her guitar and started playing it, my phone was sitting on the floor and she was just looking through it. She decided to go through my pictures and she seen the one of the girl and her friend, I was friends with the girl I took in the picture but I would NEVER ever think of her in that way, I wouldn't ever think of any other girl at all. When she seen the picture she was really pissed, she handed me my phone and told me to leave, I tried to explain but she wouldn't let me, I didn't know what to do I kept trying to explain and tell her that I didn't do anything, she just kept telling me to leave. I was so upset, I didn't want her to think that I'd do something like that, I never would. I barely even got out of her house and she came running for me. She tried to talk to me but I was already upset, I regret not turning around, and talking to her and coming back to her house. We talked that night and talked. We still wanted to be with each other, I wanted her back so badly. This is where I need some help, some guidance. I stayed up that whole night when she told me it was over, I couldn't stop crying. I didn't know what to do, so I just showed her that I love her and care about her so much, I told her she meant everything to me, that I loved her with all my heart and I would never ever lose feelings for her, and I'd never feel any different, I told her she would always be my sunshine, she always will be. I gave her time to think, I didn't text her for 4 hours and it was the hardest thing to do.
She told me that she still loved me, and she just needed time to think about it, and if she's making the right decision to come back to me or not. I assured her that I would never do something like that again, and I would always be there for her, no matter what.
She asked me to hangout 3 days after she told me that it was over, she asked me to meet her at her work which is just behind my house. She told me the day before that she wanted to see me, so I thought I'd be really sweet and get her her favourite flowers and bring them to her work so I did just that :) She also loves this v-neck long sleeve shirt I have, she calls it my date shirt so I wore that too :). She was really impressed and I was really happy :) we had a really good time :)
We would hangout, just like we would be dating, and we still both had a lot of feelings for each other.
I went to virginia beach on August 28 and got back on September 5th, and while I was gone she changed her Facebook relationship status from it's complicated to single. I was heartbroken, I don't know why she'd do something like that, I thought she was trying to make it work because I still was.
We would talk a lot though, I'd try to talk to her every chance I got, the only problem is I've read everywhere that the secret behind getting your girlfriend to miss you and think about you and want you back is to give her her space, and not text her every day, let her come to you, but I just want to know if anybody's done this from experience, or if anybody knows that this actually works. I don't want any help saying that I need to move on or anything like that, she is the girl for me, I love her with everything I have, she makes me way too happy and makes me feel way too good to ever stop wanting her.
I love her, and I hope to hear some responses, or some opinions on what I should do :)
My friends all tell me that she's going to come back and that I have nothing to worry about, we dated for a year and 2 months, and hopefully longer than that :) I'm not sure but I think a break is maybe what we needed, just for her to have her own time, and for me to think about what I've lost. I've just realized now what I've lost, and how important she is to me, and I will do anything possible to get back into a relationship with her, and maybe if anybodys had experience with lost trust, I know how important trust is if you want to love somebody, and if anybody has any tips on how I could do that, that would also be appreciated :)
I know it's long to read but I'd really appreciate any answers you have,
Thank you so much :)
Okay so, this is my story summed up.
I started dating my ex girlfriend may 16, she broke up with me about a month and a half ago, we both loved each other with all of our hearts, I would die for her and do anything for her. Whenever we would hangout we would be so happy, no matter what we did, it felt like everything else around us would just disappear. We would hangout with other friends too, and we'd always have a great time. Now, this is the problem. Before you say, oh this guys a huge , hear me out. My girlfriend would go to some parties alone, without me, and she went to a bush party last summer, and a bunch of her friends told me she cheated on me, I was so completely devastated, I had no idea what to do. I tried to talk to my friend about it but he didn't know what to do, it didn't matter when I heard that because I couldn't believe it. They told me she cheated on me with her ex boyfriend. I still didn't believe it, I didn't hear from her that night and I was so upset, I was so angry at the same time. I didn't know what to do, and the stupidest idea popped into my head, what if I got back at her and made her jealous? The same night that she cheated on me I thought I would see how it would make her feel (it was so completely immature and it's the one thing I regret so much, it's disgusting and I would never do something so immature and disrespectful to her again, or anyone) So I went onto a website, and found this girl, and she flashed me, I didn't do anything, I didn't know what to do, I asked her to, I wish I ing didn't, I wish I didn't do that and I wish I could take it back so badly. I thought I would cover it up because I didn't want her to know I did something that horrible, I love her with all my heart and the next morning I immediately knew I made a huge mistake, and she was the one for me, even if she did cheat on me I'd somehow find a way to get over it because she is the biggest sweetheart in the world, and she means everything to me. The next morning I just forgot about it, I've never felt like I've degrated someone so much, and I can't believe I did that to my girlfriend. The next morning I talked to her on the phone and I was extremely upset, she was really confused with what was going on. I asked her if she cheated on me and she said 'oh my ing god no! I would never do that'. Her best friend, also told me that she never did anything, she was with her the whole time and she is a trustable friend, and she's also a good friend of mine. After I was so depressed, I just wanted to tell her, I didn't want to hide what I did to her, but I didn't tell her. Everything just went on normally for the next couple months until I got a text from her saying you've got a lot of explaining to do.
By the way I was 16 years old, when this happened, and she was 15, this happened in the summer of 2008. The next part is from this summer.
Everything was perfect, we couldn't be happier with each other and we would talk on the phone every night, until 7 in the morning and I would go over to her house and hangout with her at 8, it was true love, I've never been so happy in my life. Until one night, when the girl I got to flash me decided that it would be funny if she told me girlfriend what I did. She told my girlfriend what I asked her to do, and my girlfriend believed her. At first I acted stupid like I didn't know what she was talking about, until after I took the blame for it. The girl told my girlfriend that I asked 2 of her friends to flash me too but I didn't, and my girlfriend believed that there were 3 girls. It was only 1. We talked for a very long time, she said she wanted a break but I wouldn't let her, and we kept dating, she told me she could get over it because she loved me so much. Everything went back to normal, we forgot about it, and I never brought it up, she made some jokes occasionally about asian girls because the girl I got to flash me was asian (I have no idea why) but, I just laughed it off and forgot about it, after about 3 weeks it was all forgotten. We went back to living our lives, being happy and loving each other so much. I was still kindof depressed when I was around her, but when I was alone I'd be miserable, I'd just want to see her, or talk to her on the phone because she'd always cheer me up, and put me in the best moods :)
This summer of 2009, My girlfriend would hangout with this guy, to me he was different, I thought he was kindof weird, but he was and interesting person, he's bisexual and him and my girlfriend were really good friends, and I didn't mind I knew they were good friends and he had a girlfriend at the time. They were hanging out at his house one day with 2 other people (my girlfriends best friend and another one of our friends and she told me that he gives really good foot massages, it kindof creeped me out, and I didn't really trust her to be around him, I'm protective of her, but not too protective, but they would still hangout and I'd be okay with it :))
But, this is where we had problems. One of my friends sent me a message on Facebook telling me that my girlfriend needs to keep out of other peoples business, and she needs to back off. I was really confused and I asked her about what was going on, and my girlfriends best friend's girlfriend told me that they were fooling around. I got really pissed off, I couldn't believe she'd do that to me, and I didn't, I wasn't going to let something like this happen to our amazing relationship again. I heard it from my girlfriend that her best friend's girlfriend is a bit of a drama queen and likes to start stupid . So I let it slide, but I was still kind of curious, with what was going on, my girlfriend and her best friend stopped hanging out.
After this though, I was trying to get a picture of us on Facebook onto my phone, so I was trying to take a picture of my computer where the picture was, every time I'd take it there would be black lines on the picture and you couldn't see it, so on the right side of Facebook there's random new pictures of people who post them so I clicked on one of them and tried to take a picture. What I didn't even think of or realize was that the girl was in her bathing suit and I didn't think anything of it, so I went back to the picture I was trying to get onto my phone and it still came up with the black lines, so I just tossed my phone onto my bed and fell asleep because it was about 3 in the morning D:
About 2 days later we were hanging out we were laying on her bed, she fell asleep on me, in my arms. About an hour later we woke up from our nap :) and we were laying on the floor, I picked up her guitar and started playing it, my phone was sitting on the floor and she was just looking through it. She decided to go through my pictures and she seen the one of the girl and her friend, I was friends with the girl I took in the picture but I would NEVER ever think of her in that way, I wouldn't ever think of any other girl at all. When she seen the picture she was really pissed, she handed me my phone and told me to leave, I tried to explain but she wouldn't let me, I didn't know what to do I kept trying to explain and tell her that I didn't do anything, she just kept telling me to leave. I was so upset, I didn't want her to think that I'd do something like that, I never would. I barely even got out of her house and she came running for me. She tried to talk to me but I was already upset, I regret not turning around, and talking to her and coming back to her house. We talked that night and talked. We still wanted to be with each other, I wanted her back so badly. This is where I need some help, some guidance. I stayed up that whole night when she told me it was over, I couldn't stop crying. I didn't know what to do, so I just showed her that I love her and care about her so much, I told her she meant everything to me, that I loved her with all my heart and I would never ever lose feelings for her, and I'd never feel any different, I told her she would always be my sunshine, she always will be. I gave her time to think, I didn't text her for 4 hours and it was the hardest thing to do.
She told me that she still loved me, and she just needed time to think about it, and if she's making the right decision to come back to me or not. I assured her that I would never do something like that again, and I would always be there for her, no matter what.
She asked me to hangout 3 days after she told me that it was over, she asked me to meet her at her work which is just behind my house. She told me the day before that she wanted to see me, so I thought I'd be really sweet and get her her favourite flowers and bring them to her work so I did just that :) She also loves this v-neck long sleeve shirt I have, she calls it my date shirt so I wore that too :). She was really impressed and I was really happy :) we had a really good time :)
We would hangout, just like we would be dating, and we still both had a lot of feelings for each other.
I went to virginia beach on August 28 and got back on September 5th, and while I was gone she changed her Facebook relationship status from it's complicated to single. I was heartbroken, I don't know why she'd do something like that, I thought she was trying to make it work because I still was.
We would talk a lot though, I'd try to talk to her every chance I got, the only problem is I've read everywhere that the secret behind getting your girlfriend to miss you and think about you and want you back is to give her her space, and not text her every day, let her come to you, but I just want to know if anybody's done this from experience, or if anybody knows that this actually works. I don't want any help saying that I need to move on or anything like that, she is the girl for me, I love her with everything I have, she makes me way too happy and makes me feel way too good to ever stop wanting her.
I love her, and I hope to hear some responses, or some opinions on what I should do :)
My friends all tell me that she's going to come back and that I have nothing to worry about, we dated for a year and 2 months, and hopefully longer than that :) I'm not sure but I think a break is maybe what we needed, just for her to have her own time, and for me to think about what I've lost. I've just realized now what I've lost, and how important she is to me, and I will do anything possible to get back into a relationship with her, and maybe if anybodys had experience with lost trust, I know how important trust is if you want to love somebody, and if anybody has any tips on how I could do that, that would also be appreciated :)
I know it's long to read but I'd really appreciate any answers you have,
Thank you so much :)