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slickbutlost
Sep 9, 2009, 09:44 PM
So, sit back relax and enjoy my love life story. As ridiculous this may sound, I am 18 but I've been practically dating this girls since I was 14. Yeah I know crazy crap for a kid my age right? She is a year and a half older me so the age gap has something to do with our problem I'm sure. I've been her only real BF and I know this because I've seen it all with her but not in that sense, you nasties. Anyway, we've broken up a few times, troubles here and there you know the couple stuff. The last time we broke up we did for a year and a half, but to my amazement I still loved her. I so we went back out again January 2009 after my mother passed away. We were fine, having a good time, but we never had sex. She wanted to wait and well she was one of those girls you can't believe is such a saint but she is. I respected her decision so I never forced her to do anything sexual. Now, she has very few friends because she has been back stabbed all her life, but the few ones she had, she would club with them. All girls by the way. I didn't have a problem with it.
I'll admit, I have a very low patience to things that piss me off, and when she pissed me off I would over react, but I didn't mean to it's just my nature. We begin to get on each others nerves a little bit. I began to grow jealous of her talking to this guy that was really not a threat but I still didn't like it. Do I look like the bad guy yet? Okay good. She's always had this attitude problem herself, acts as if she doesn't care about anything. I try to clear the problems we've had but she's like "forget it just drop it" when I'm trying to fix it. So that falls into another argument. So yeah full of sometimes. But, when we have a great time, it was awesome. Great connection. It's either great or incredibly bad. Also, I'm a very romantic guy right? I like love, I love it. She never does anything cute or say ILY until I do it, then again she has never been a big fan of showing her emotions. That also frustrated me.
A few days ago we argued again, but this time I had a reason. I asked to her to the club because I just turned 18 and I've never experienced it before. I asked her, she said no because she stopped liking it and was "getting over it". The next day she text me and says that she's going out. I was like you won't got with me once but you'll go with your friend? Of course I was going to get mad. So she has nothing to say to that. The next day she tries to make things okay but I was still sore about it so I was an . I made her cry. I know I feel like but look at all that I had build up. She would act like she doesn't care and that was bad enough. I had a lot on my chest. Anyway, she said that she was tired of it and we should break up, I was like noooooooooo. I apologized for being an . I explained it to her, but she didn't care, she didn't want to know anything. I can't change her mind. I've cried idgaf I'll admit it. I didn't mean to make her sad but she did piss me off and I don't like to stay quiet. So now we're not together, and it's killing me. She said we're to young to be fighting like this and we should live our lives. I was torn. I don't know what to do. Move on? Keep trying? See other people? Now she's clubbing again after she said she was "over it". You see why I get mad? Don't I have a reason? I'm broken, I wish I could have stopped myself from over reacting, but it's to late. Sometimes it doesn't feel right being with her, but other times it does. I'm confused. I don't know what to do, or say, I don't know if it's worth trying again because we really don't agree on a lot, but she is what I'm not you know? Idk someone save me.

sweet1028
Sep 9, 2009, 11:03 PM
In my opinion I think that she was seeing another guy at the club and she knew you would never catch her because you were underage. And now that you are of age to go to the club, she doesn't want to go with you and the other guy see the two of you together.
Arguing does happen in relationships, they are not all perfect like in the movies. But arguing all the time leads to an unsuccessful relationship. Since you are the only real boyfriend she has had she is probably looking to moving on with other guys who are maybe older. Not that there is anything wrong with an older lady but sometimes it just doesn't work.
Don't move on to another girl so fast because this is still the rebound time. Enjoy single life for awhile and spend time with friends and family. I wish you the best of luck in life.

amicon
Sep 9, 2009, 11:37 PM
The first couple of weeks or months after a breakup are very confusing and hurtful.there are stickies at the top of this page that are very helpful-read them.this relationship s over and you need to come to terms with this.

talaniman
Sep 10, 2009, 08:15 AM
Your young, and have much to learn, and best to do that on your own, without strings from the past holding you back.

You never get so wrapped up in someone else, who has other priorities in their lives. She would rather do her thing, and its time you figure out what your thing is, without her.

Leave her alone my friend, as there are better things to do than force someone to be what you want them to be. It may suck for a while as you cope with this loss(its more of a change in life,than a loss really), but you will grow from the experience, and take a lot of life lessons with you.