Winds87
Jul 21, 2009, 01:44 PM
Well there is this girl I like and really care about her. Recently she got out of a 1 1/2 yr relationship and has been single for about 7 months. We're really good friends and I am close to her family.
Right now she's not looking for anything right now because she has her mind set on being alone for a while and "staying away from the world".
I know its not a good idea to ask her out or started something with her.
Especially for the following reasons:
1. She's student teaching in the Fall and just started her teaching career.
2. She's still unstable and not herself to commit to somebody else.
She doesn't have cable or internet at her place when she student teachs and is pretty much alone for the most part. Now when her and I talk she explains how she likes being away from the world... but at the same time... she gets frustrated or gets that some weird feeling about things again. Sounds confusing huh?
Here's an example of her text:
"Yeah just feeling weird about things again. I just don't want anyone worrying about me. There are more important things."
My thing is... I really do care for her... but I don't want to sound desperate either. I know the best solution is be her friend for the time being.
I just don't want to make things akwards and talk about her problems or tell her how much I care,etc. Because I'll sound like everybody else... according to her... worrying about her.
Here's the thing... I want to show my care... but how? Do I just keep talking to her? Should I just talk about the good things about life or other stuff so she can her mind off things? I don't want to cut if off completely because what if my only shot to show her I care doesn't come through because I wasn't there for her. -thanx
Right now she's not looking for anything right now because she has her mind set on being alone for a while and "staying away from the world".
I know its not a good idea to ask her out or started something with her.
Especially for the following reasons:
1. She's student teaching in the Fall and just started her teaching career.
2. She's still unstable and not herself to commit to somebody else.
She doesn't have cable or internet at her place when she student teachs and is pretty much alone for the most part. Now when her and I talk she explains how she likes being away from the world... but at the same time... she gets frustrated or gets that some weird feeling about things again. Sounds confusing huh?
Here's an example of her text:
"Yeah just feeling weird about things again. I just don't want anyone worrying about me. There are more important things."
My thing is... I really do care for her... but I don't want to sound desperate either. I know the best solution is be her friend for the time being.
I just don't want to make things akwards and talk about her problems or tell her how much I care,etc. Because I'll sound like everybody else... according to her... worrying about her.
Here's the thing... I want to show my care... but how? Do I just keep talking to her? Should I just talk about the good things about life or other stuff so she can her mind off things? I don't want to cut if off completely because what if my only shot to show her I care doesn't come through because I wasn't there for her. -thanx