Well, Oct 2007 my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me for another girl. I didn't see or spk to him for a few months until he contacted me saying he'd made a huge mistake. I took him back only for him to decide it wasn't what he wanted. Two months of texting, seeing and sleeping with each other (while he was doing the same with the girl he left me for originally) we decided to give it another go. Three months on from this I found out he'd been speaking to 'her' again so we broke up. While we were together however he became close with a girl a couple of years younger than him. I always thought something was going on but he denied it.

After breaking up for the final time, sure as night follows day he starts seeing this new girl. I didn't see or speak to him for a month until he asks to meet for a drink. I go, he tells me he still loves me and wants things to work but that we need to take things slow and work at being friends. He promises to stop messing around with this girl and work on us. Very sensible I think! However the night after she stayed at his, and they still go to the cinema and out for dinner 3/4 times a week. I am insanly jealous but have kept my mouth shut. Am I being played for a fool?

It seems like every time I go to move on he's there promising the world. He tells me its going to take a long time for us to get back together. I want nothing more than for it to work but in the mean time it appears that he can still mess her around while telling me I have no say in what or who he does because we're not together?

Am I being clingy or just stupid?

Am I being clingy or just stupid?

Both... you are stupid (perhaps naïve is a better word) for letting this idiot, loser, joke of a guy play you like a violen. You are way toooooo good for that!

You are being clingy for thinking you need a guy to make you happy. Once again, you are way tooooooo good for that!

Get his sorry, lying, cheating, low-morals having un-classy a$$ out of your life, and gain yourself respect back. He is a leach and will suck the goodness right out of you.

I only give my words of wisdom to the few who really deserve it, so remember this: Don't EVER chase a guy!! A true gentlemen will find you, not the other way around.

Forget his sorry @**#, he does not love you. Trust me if he loved you he would never play you, lead you on and leave you for someone else.
Find yourself a better man, some one bigger and better than him. Because trust me he is a loser and you can do better. Don't get dragged into his game playing. Like KC says your way to good for that.

At this point, you are only a steady fallback plan, a warm body and an ego boost to him. He is using you, sleeping with women and then coming back to you. How can you accept his professions of love with the saliva of another still fresh on his breath? There is no way that you will stop him from continuing this behavior. He has already proven that time and again. Move on. And get yourself checked.

Am I being played for a fool??

YES!!!

He is not committed to you and this relationship in ANY way. You need to respect yourself, he isn't going to do that. DITCH THIS GUY! AND DON'T LOOK BACK.

If you want to be smart. Leave him. Just take a second and read what you wrote and think of what advice you would give someone that's in the situation that you are. You need to leave him, and make yourself happy.

He has played you not once... not twice... but three times! He's a user. Move on now and don't look back. You are never going to find the right person while you are wasting time with this loser.

It seems like every time I go to move on he's there promising the world.

Honey,it is not what he is saying that is important.His actions speak the complete opposite.

You are his solid *back up plan*. And all he needs to do is make lame promises and in your love and desire for him,you want to believe it but he is just playing you.

You sound like a bright and caring and clearly forgiving person,find someone who appreciates those qualities,he is not it.

Seems every time you turn the other cheek, he slaps the s##t out of you. By my count, you have been slapped in the face twice and once on the a$$, so you have one cheek left! What are you going to do with it, because if you give him another chance he will slap that cheek too! Then what?