quirky
Jan 22, 2009, 04:34 PM
My son is in the 5th grade this year. He has always struggled with inattention and it has been a real long haul getting through school and getting homework done.
I know my son needs consistent direction and a consistent approach to getting his work done. But though my husband agrees with me on the subject, he does not work to keep our son on track.
He is home with my son during the day after school and only he can be there to say "its time to do your home work, you can play IF you get your home work done."
Instead he allows my son to do whatever he wants until I get home. Then, from both of them I hear, "its dinner time" "such and such show is on". My son only settles down to home work at 7 or even 8 most nights. This is far too late for him!
He is too tired. I am too tired. By that time I have been on the go for the last 16 hours or so. I am beginning to resent having to use what little free time I have to be the homework enforcer.
Even though I tell my son it is his responsibility to do his work, my husband does nothing to reinforce this.
I know my son will never "get it" unless he gets the same message from both parents.
How do I get my husband on track with me so we are consistent and there is less stress in the evenings?
I know my son needs consistent direction and a consistent approach to getting his work done. But though my husband agrees with me on the subject, he does not work to keep our son on track.
He is home with my son during the day after school and only he can be there to say "its time to do your home work, you can play IF you get your home work done."
Instead he allows my son to do whatever he wants until I get home. Then, from both of them I hear, "its dinner time" "such and such show is on". My son only settles down to home work at 7 or even 8 most nights. This is far too late for him!
He is too tired. I am too tired. By that time I have been on the go for the last 16 hours or so. I am beginning to resent having to use what little free time I have to be the homework enforcer.
Even though I tell my son it is his responsibility to do his work, my husband does nothing to reinforce this.
I know my son will never "get it" unless he gets the same message from both parents.
How do I get my husband on track with me so we are consistent and there is less stress in the evenings?