For those who read my other posts, its been a while, but if you did- I met an amazing guy who loves me and wants to be with me. We've been together for about 4 months a couple of days.. and maybe three days ago, I cheated on him.

::smacks self in face. Kicks self in a$$::

It was with a long time friend/crush(of 4yrs), who recently confessed his feelings.
(he was away, and now that he's home, he told me that he trully cared, etc.) he told me that how could I be so patient waiting for my boyfriend who's a million miles away. And faithful. It kind of broke me I guess.

He kissed me. One night.
I told my boyfriend that and he said he was glad that I at least told him.
He made out with me. Another night.
I took off my shirt while making out. (and then the cops came, and carded us... in my car.. yeah stupid.. )
And right after that, and the cops left.. I did him a "favor"..

Only one friend knows, and he says that I should be with this other guy because my boyfriend and I were having troubles and were on the verge of breaking up, but now that we're talking it out (he comes home in two - four days) I feel as if I have to make this huge decision if I want to make this work.

Of course I would want to, he's an amazing guy.
But he wouldn't want to be with someone who cheated. So why not break up with him? Because he's already said those "theres no one else but you, idk what i'd do without you, you're my life." kind of stuff (which creeps me out)

There's a lot to talk about with me and my boyfriend, but as for me and this other guy.. we haven't talked in maybe a day or two.. so at least I'm doing the right thing and breaking it off with him??

I know most of you guys are going to bash me, but I did something really f'd up, and now I need help.

You need to tell your boyfriend what you did, and deal with the repercussions, and you need to tell him whether you decide to break up with him or not. Honestly, regardless of your reasons for considering breaking up with him, you just invalidated any reasoning you had. It doesn't sound like you need anyone right now, because you have an issue with loyalty. You need to be as honest as you can be and be ready to deal with what you started.

Lostinhiseyes, you know you did the same thing that your ex did to you and when it was done to you you know how it made you feel.

No relationship is perfect so therefore your going have problems but working through them strengthen your relationship. Sleeping with someone else only add problems to the mixture. So maybe you need to work on working on your problems instead of running away from them because if you don't your going wind out alone.

Also, why is it that everything you do the cops always wind up in the mix? I wonder if it be the same cops.

The only thing you can do at this point is come clean because you don't want a guilty conscience.

Btw, slap!

You need to tell your boyfriend what you did, and deal with the repercussions, and you need to tell him whether you decide to break up with him or not. Honestly, regardless of your reasons for considering breaking up with him, you just invalidated any reasoning you had. It doesn't sound like you need anyone right now, because you have an issue with loyalty. You need to be as honest as you can be and be ready to deal with what you started.

How right you are, and its so unbelievably annoying at how faithful I was to my jerk of an ex, but now that I have someone so amazing... I do this to him..

You cheated on him? --Sigh--

You know I normal go off on one. At cheaters in fact I probable give them the most hell

But this is just to sad. You final met a guy that you like and he likes you
And you cheat on him. And all the while you was true to a Gimp

Ha! So Typical! It really is
Bah! People like you. Really makes me lose faith in humans

Tell the poor guy


What a silly girl you been.

I hope you get what is coming to you

Okay, I have copied a comment you made from one of your previous threads back in October...............you were having issues with still having feelings for your previous boyfriend.........I'm assuming he was the jerk.......................and then this is what you wrote, "my current boyfriend knows about our(your previous boyfriend and yours) long past, and understands that. he knows i wont leave him for anyone else. i love my boyfriend."
Whatever happened to this loyalty? I mean these were words that you spoke yourself. This is something that women do all too often, and well, it's a terrible thing.


How right you are, and its so unbelievably annoying at how faithful i was to my jerk of an ex, but now that i have someone so amazing... i do this to him..

As far as what you are saying here, well, it is good to hear you say something like that because it actually shows that you have a conscience. Now, you need to learn from that. I have heard so many women say this after they cheat on men, and unfortunately, it seems to happen more often than we realize. In all honesty, you should tell your current boyfriend and then tell him that you can't be with him, for his sake. The only bad side of that is that it seems as though the loss of the relationship would hurt him more than it would hurt you... and that is sad. However, he deserves someone that is going to be loyal and faithful to him. You need to accept the responsibility for what you did, and let him be free to find someone that truly loves him and will be faithful. Then you need to go on your way, and always let his broken heart be a reminder to you, of the effects of the actions that you took. You have done enough damage to him already, so don't let yourself stick around to cause more.

A person's heart is like an egg, don't toss it around.

Cheaters are selfish people, who risk everything to get an itch scratched.

You have been on both sides, and know full well, that your probably not ready to give up that selfishness. At least you haven't proved it.

Why can't you think of someone else for a change, and stay out of relationships, until you are ready at least to be a good loyal partner? Not only were you selfish, but really unfair to a good guy.

What are you gong to do about it? What are you going to do, if the itch comes back, and he is a million miles away?