Recently I have been appalled at what people do and do not know about sex, about birth control, about pregnancy.

One of our fine members here, Altenweg (Alty for short), gave me an idea to start a thread about sex ed. As a labor and delivery nurse, I thought it might be a good idea to take her advice to heart and help all people who really are not sure how this all works.

Please ask away!!

Why don't people use the Internet to access all that great information we were sadly lacking back in the Dinosaur Age?

Wow, wow, wow, way to go J9, love it, absolutely love it! :)

I hope that people take advantage of this. No question is too ridiculous, too embarrassing, too anything. We've heard it all, haven't we?

I'm so glad you started this J9. :)

Why don't people use the Internet to access all that great information we were sadly lacking back in the Dinosaur Age?


Wondergirl, the sad fact is, we knew more back then (before internet) then most people do now. Also, the information on the net isn't always accurate or helpful, whereas we are.

We have wonderful people on this site that care about the health and welfare of our teens today. It's sad, but sex ed is sorely lacking in schools today and the interent (exluding AMHD of course) isn't the best place to get the inormation they desperately need.

I thinks this is a great idea and I hope that people use this thread the way it was intended.

Alty, it was you who inspired me, so I give the credit to you!!

Now I will be monitoring this board very closely, and any and all questions that are way out, disgusting or perverted will be deleted and the member banned. As a SuperModerator here I reserve that right.

Wondergirl, the only thing I can come up with is that there is a lot of misinformation on the internet, so, while they may be using the internet, they are not getting the right info. I've read about the withdrawal method and implantation bleeding on the internet, many myths, etc. I would like to try to dispel these myths.

Gosh, blush, gee, thanks J9. :)

You're very welcome Alty!!

Now, just waiting for some questions...

Can a woman get pregnant the first time she has sex?

Absolutely!! All it takes is one sperm, one egg, and one night of sex. And voilà... parenthood.

Okay, I'll play along. Even though I know the answer, I know that others don't.

Does the pull out method work?

I'll even answer myself in the hopes that someone will get some much needed info.

No, the pull out method doesn't work, there are lots of sperm in pre-, and, like J9 said, all it takes is one sperm in order to fertilize an egg.

In other words, you're playing russian roullette, only instead of the gun only having one bullet, it's a six shooter with 5 bullets and only one missing. Odds are, you'll get hit!

There is no such thing as "safe sex" only "safer sex" so if you want to lower (not eliminate) the odds, use the pill and a condom. But realize, nothing is 100% effective other then abstinence. :)

What's the best birth control?

What's the best birth control?

You know the answer to this WG. Abstinence. There is no form of birth control that is 100% effective. Women have gotten pregnant on every form of birth control out there.

That's the sad thing. Birth control pills give a false sense of security, 98.7% effective, well, that's not 100%.

I have a friend who has endomitriosis, one ovary, polysystic ovarian disease and many other health problems. She was told she'd never have children but her and her boyfriend tried anyway, they had two, the doctor said they were lucky.

Well, her boyfriend (soon to be hubby) was due to go in for a vasectomy, they decided two was enough, but until the procedure, she went on the pill and they used condoms. Guess what, she's now pregnant with her third, due in January.

In other words, if you're relying on birth control, you're putting your faith in something that isn't always effective, it's still very possible to get pregnant.

Abstinence is the only thing that works 100%, I doubt that they'll ever come up with a fool proof pill or other form of contraceptive, and even if they do, there's still human error.

Bottom line, don't want a baby, don't have sex. Also, STD's are always a possibility, even when you use a condom, condoms aren't anywhere near 100% effective and the chance of human error is even higher. Most people don't use condoms correctly, even if they did there's still a chance of failure.

Ok this is cool, I have 2 questions
1. Are there certain sexual positions that can help to conceive?
2. Does achieving orgasm during sex help you conceive?
I know the answer to one of them... :)

Ok this is cool, I have 2 questions
1. Are there certain sexual positions that can help to conceive?
2. Does acheiving orgasm during sex help you conceive?
I know the answer to one of them...:)

1. No, not really. There are millions of sperm in ejaculate and it only takes one to reach the egg.

2. Yes. The orgasm helps to propel the sperm up past the cervix and into the uterus.

Thanks J9 :)

Great job alty and j_9..

I really don't understand how can there be sex without orgasm! Its just impossible for me to believe! But I know it exists for a fact, and I simply don't know how:-)

Absolutely!!! All it takes is one sperm, one egg, and one night of sex. And voila....parenthood.

This quote struck me as odd as I was reading... it actually takes millions of sperm to penetrate the outer layer of an egg...

But only one sperm fertilizes the egg-

Yes but for that one sperm to fertilize the egg there has to be a couple million to get there and make the hole for that one sperm... thats why people have to "try" to get pregnant...

This quote struck me as odd as I was reading....it actually takes millions of sperm to penetrate the outer layer of an egg...

But it takes just one to fertilize, and in fact after one has made contact with the egg, the others do not make any contact with it, there is a kind of shield that prevents others from reaching the egg.. just one does the job.

That is why we needed this thread, J_9 is an expert, and Alty should be one-

but it takes just one to fertilize, and infact after one has made contact with the egg, the others do not make any contact with it, there is a kind of shield that prevents others from reaching the egg..just one does the job.

I did not say the egg itself... I said the outer layer...

The outer layer of the egg is the egg.

I did not say the egg itself...I said the outer layer...

Then it's the egg..

An egg cell is 150 microns in size, and is colourless and semi-transparent. It is the shape of a sphere and its outer part is surrounded by a soft yet tough membrane. Within the structure of the egg there are extra nutrients like fat, sugar and proteins. This reserve of nutrients will ensure that the egg cell is nourished on its journey and, if fertilization occurs, will take care of its needs until it reaches the uterus...

Here you go (from Wikipedia) --

Penetration
Fertilization starts with a man and a woman initiating sexual intercourse. The man inserts the penis into the womans vagina, penetrating her vaginally. When the man experiences orgasm, semen containing millions of sperm are ejaculated from the penis and deposited in the vagina. Propelled through the female reproductive tract by flagellation, some of these sperm may reach the cell membrane of the oocyte, and a single sperm may penetrate the membrane. To reach the oocyte, the sperm must pass through the corona radiata and the zona pellucida; two layers covering and protecting the oocyte from fertilization by more than one sperm.

Corona radiata
The sperm passes through the corona radiata, a layer of follicle cells on the outside of the secondary oocyte.

Acrosome reaction
The acrosome reaction must occur to mobilise enzymes within the head of the spermatozoon to degrade the zona pellucida.

Zona pellucida
The sperm then reaches the zona pellucida, which is an extra-cellular matrix of glyco-proteins. A special complementary molecule on the surface of the sperm head then binds to a ZP3 glyco-protein in the zona pellucida. This binding triggers the acrosome to burst, releasing enzymes that help the sperm get through the zona pellucida.

Some sperm cells consume their acrosome prematurely on the surface of the egg cell, facilitating for surrounding, having on average 50% genome similarity, to penetrate the egg cell.[1] It may be regarded as a mechanism of kin selection.

Cortical reaction
When the sperm penetrates the zona pellucida, the cortical reaction occurs: cortical granules inside the secondary oocyte fuses with the plasma membrane of the cell, causing enzymes inside these granules to be expelled by exocytosis to the zona pellucida. This in turn causes the glyco-proteins in the zona pellucida to cross-link with each other, making the whole matrix hard and impermeable to sperm. This prevents fertilization of an egg by more than one sperm.

Thank you wondergirl, I hate going back and forth :)

Is it true that mastubation is healthy for the males body?

An egg cell is 150 microns in size, and is colourless and semi-transparent. It is the shape of a sphere and its outer part is surrounded by a soft yet tough membrane. Within the structure of the egg there are extra nutrients like fat, sugar and proteins. This reserve of nutrients will ensure that the egg cell is nourished on its journey and, if fertilization occurs, will take care of its needs until it reaches the uterus.....


Yes, many are trying to be the first in as they surround the egg, but once that soft, yet tough membrane is penetrated by just one, a reaction takes place that causes that membrane to harder to all other sperm trying to get in.

In actuality there are very few (given the number that started the journey) who even get to the egg. Many are misshapen, are too weak, or have no sense of direction (and certainly won't just follow the others because that would be conceding that they don't know where they are going in the first place). Given that, along with several other steps along the way... secretion of necessay enzymes, penetration, acceptance by the egg, available proteins, etc. having any of those functions fail, will cause the egg not to be fertilized. When you think about all that has to be in place for it to happen, from both the male and the female side, it is no wonder it can take quite a bit of time for conception to occur.

Even more simple... Think of it as a pie eating contest... all the members are trying to be first to finish as quickly as possible and win the prize. They aren't helping each other, just focusing on the job at hand, and they will vary in what they bring to the table and how they tackle the job. There can be only one winner who finishes first. Once that one finishes, the others stop the race... :)

Yes, many are trying to be the first in as they surround the egg, but once that soft, yet tough membrane is penetrated by just one, a reaction takes place that causes that membrane to harder to all other sperm trying to get in.

In actuality there are very few (given the number that started the journey) who even get to the egg. Many are misshapen, are too weak, or have no sense of direction (and certainly won't just follow the others because that would be conceding that they don't know where they are going in the first place). Given that, along with several other steps along the way....secretion of necessay enzymes, penetration, acceptance by the egg, available proteins, etc., having any of those functions fail, will cause the egg not to be fertilized. When you think about all that has to be in place for it to happen, from both the male and the female side, it is no wonder it can take quite a bit of time for conception to occur.

Even more simple.....Think of it as a pie eating contest....all the members are trying to be first to finish as quickly as possible and win the prize. They aren't helping each other, just focusing on the job at hand, and they will vary in what they bring to the table and how they tackle the job. There can be only one winner who finishes first. Once that one finishes, the others stop the race....:)

Yes... I know this... I'm not retarded.. they said it takes one sperm to get someone pregnant... so you agree with me... one sperm entering the vaginal canal has a low chance of getting someone pregnant

Is it true that mastubation is healthy for the males body??

Yes, this is true actually. It helps keep the prostate healthy.

Yes....I know this...I'm not retarded..they said it takes one sperm to get someone pregnant....so you agree with me...one sperm entering the vaginal canal has a low chance of getting someone pregnant

No one called you retarded, so please keep those comments out of this thread.

One sperm is not going to enter the vaginal canal it's impossible for a man to release just one sperm.

I think the emotional side of sex ed is important too so here are my questions:

If I have sex with my boyfriend will that make him love me/ stop him leaving me?

If I haven't had sex by the age X will I be a loser/alone forever/uncool etc?

All my friends are having sex and I'm not, does this mean there is something wrong with me?

It always makes me sad for the kids who ask these questions.

Yes....I know this...I'm not retarded..they said it takes one sperm to get someone pregnant....so you agree with me...one sperm entering the vaginal canal has a low chance of getting someone pregnant

I agree with you in part... You said "it takes millions of sperm to penetrate the egg" and that they make a hole for that one sperm. Perhaps it is somewhat a case of semantics, but yes, while millions of sperm will be ejaculated, only a few hundred (at best) reach the egg. They are not working together to make an entrance for one lucky sperm, the ones that are able to even get close enough to attach to the egg (just one of the many hurdles to overcome) are all trying to be that first one in.
Others have said "it takes just one"... referring to the one that gets through to the egg (which is true), not that just one will be present in the ejaculate (which no one has stated).

I think the emotional side of sex ed is important too so here are my questions:

If I have sex with my boyfriend will that make him love me/ stop him leaving me?

If I haven't had sex by the age X will I be a loser/alone forever/uncool ect?

All my friends are having sex and I'm not, does this mean there is something wrong with me?

It always makes me sad for the kids who ask these questions.


Depends on a person's perspective, but IMO:

1) Having sex may or may not strengthen someone's feelings towards the other person. If often depends on what the feelings are to begin with. It certainly won't stop someone from leaving... even though girls (in particular) are often told that. One thing young girls, and even older women, should consider is that if their partner truly cares about them, there will be no pressure to have sex. No "If you loved me you would"... "I'll stay with you if you get pregnant". No guy is worth hanging onto if it means you have to compromise your values, or what you believe to be right for you, in order for him to want to be with you. In a healthy relationship, you don't try to persuade someone to go against what they are comfortable with.

2) This goes for both girls and boys... as both often get mixed messages about what they "should" be doing, usually under the assumption that everyone else already is. Guys sometimes feel they are expected to at least try to get their girlfriend to have sex with them and girls sometimes feel if they don't "give in" their boyfriend will find someone else who will. Unfortunately, guys will get the better end of the deal in regard to reputations... they are often seen more as a "real man" with a number of conquests under their belt... whereas girls are more often seen as being easy if they have a number of partners. The pressure to fit in and not stand out is tremendous... which is unfortunate. In time, when these kids are older... much of the time, the girls in particular, wish they hadn't slept around as much or given in to keep a boyfriend and would do things differently if they could go back. Guys will often still say they prefer a wife who has not slept around... the adage that some girls are for sleeping with and just having a good time, while others are the type you would want to actually marry, raise children with, and spend your life together.

3) Many times, not ALL of the friends really are having sex... and even if they were, it wouldn't mean there is anything wrong with someone who wasn't. In some cases, it could even be that that person knows themselves better, is more mature, is not going to take any chances, and is able to stand up for what they believe is right for them and their future. Just as with a boyfriend or girlfriend, your friends should support you in what your decision regarding when to have sex is. Even friends, in their own insecurity, will sometimes make comments simply because they have a sense of guilt or regret about their own actions and it is much easier if others they know are also in the same boat. Many probably wish they could go back and do things differently, especially if they were the ones who believed the lines used to get them to have sex in the first place.

Now, saying all of that... I know full well that many young people will find it difficult to overcome those feelings of thinking they don't fit in if they aren't having sex, of wanting to have someone like or love them, of needing to hang onto a boyfriend or girlfriend for fear they will be alone, or simply feel that they really are in a loving and committed relationship... those are the kids in particular who need the education of ways to keep themselves as safe as possible if they are deciding to have sex.

Doula, it is so good to have you here!! Glad you found the thread.

I know this is a little goofy since I am a sophomore in Nursing school and I still don't know this... but hey all we have learned so far is about the body. Nothing about birth control.

HOW exactly does birth control help to prevent pregnancy? I'm under the impression that it is made up of hormones.. estrogen and progesterone to help prevent ovulation? Is that the only thing it does?

If the pill is made to prevent ovulation - how do some people get pregnant while taking it? No ovulation = no egg to get fertilized = no baby.

Thanks :)

AnxiousRN, There are many different birth control pills out there. Some contain estrogen and progestin, others contain only progestin.

The pill is meant to stop the ovaries from releasing eggs, it's also supposed to make the mucus in the cervix get thicker, making it harder for the sperm to enter. Also, the lining of the uterus gets thinner making it hard for a fertilized egg to attach to the wall.

Notice that nowhere in that description did I say, "It will do this and that." I said "it's supposed to do these things". No birth control is 100% effective.

Also remember, the pill is only effective if taken daily, around the same time each day. In other words, there's lots of room for human error.

The pill and a condom is a good combination, but still not 100% effective in some cases.

Having said that, using birth control is still better than not using anything, you will lower the odds of pregnancy with birth control, but you won't completely take away the possibility of becoming pregnant.

Hi I just want to ask...
If we had sex and he inject the sperm inside the vagina...
Is the sperm going to fall off if the girl have pee after the sex
... just curious:)

Hi I just want to ask...
If we had sex and he inject the sperm inside the vagina...
Is the sperm going to fall off if the girl have pee after the sex
... just curious:)

No, peeing after sex will not get rid of the sperm.

If he ejaculated inside of you then there is the possibility of pregnancy and STD's.

You should, at the very least, be using a condom. Birth control pills and a condom is even better but still not 100% effective against pregnancy.

If we got pregnant maybe 2 weeks old is it dangerous to have sex at all?
Sometimes we doesn't even now if we pregnant... then having sex.. is it going to kill the baby?
Thanks

No, having sex while pregnant will not kill the baby unless you have a medical condition where your doctor recommends that you abstain from sex during your pregnancy.

You sound very young to me, how old are you? Are you financially, emotionally and physically ready to have a child? It's much cheaper to go on birth control than it is to raise a child.

I'm 22 years old.
My boyfriend want a boy.
I scared if I didin't know if I pregnant then we had sex I scared the baby die because of the shaking we made.

You're 22 years old, having sex and you don't have any idea how baby's are conceived or that sex, "shaking" and normal every day activities won't harm the baby?

As for you're boyfriend wanting a boy, well, he has a 50/50 chance.

I really think you should educate yourself on sex, pregnancy, being pregnant, prenatal care etc before you consider having a child.

It's a bit scary that a 22 year old sexually active women has no idea how her own body works.

I really advise that you slow down, learn what you need to learn, maybe get married before you bring a child into this world.

Yeah I kind of a bit too late about this..
My mom never talked about woman stuff that she should do! And even when I got my first periode I don't eve know hw to deal with it! Can u believe that!
That I'm sucks at it now.
And this is my first boy friend when I'm 20.
So I got no experience whatsoever on dating 'till we had sex

Well we can try to answer your questions, but you really shouldn't be trying to have a child until you get some answers as to how your body works.

If you are planning on getting pregnant soon there are tons of great books out there that describe the whole process, from conception to birth.

Check out your local library or look online, they may help you better understand your body and what happens when you do get pregnant.

In the meantime we can answer some of your questions, but you really need to educate yourself. It's sad that sex education nowadays is so lacking, not only in schools but at home.

I have to leave now but I'll be back tomorrow and I'm sure J9 (our resident nurse) will be here too.

Check back often for a response to your questions.

Good night. :)

Thanks

What do we learn in health class? Sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy are important to know about, but. I have lost count of how many men I've met who think that women pee out of their vagina. There are a few who believe women pee out of their clitorus... Far too many people think that the vagina is an inverted penis...

Maybe "sexual health" should be taught before puberty? That way kids could pay attention to the class instead of their physical reactions to the subject matter.

Sammy, I am assuming you are from a culture much different than the Western culture.

Now, you cannot prevent pregnancy from urinating after intercourse...

If your boyfriend wants a boy, he is going to be happy with what he gets because there is no way to predict ahead of time what you are going to get.

I don't know what you mean when you say "shaking" but ordinary activities, including sex, even rough sex, will not kill the baby.

This is why much of this is covered in the schools where I am during "growth and development" in fifth grade.
As an educator, I generally dislike a prescribed curriculum, or script, but in some cases perhaps it would be the best thing so that we can be sure all students are receiving the information they need. Sadly the information is not happening in many homes where it should be in the first place.

However, the topics are covered widely in many women's and men's magazines, online sites, and such, so it is surprising that so many women, and men, do not have this basic knowledge. I think it is more of a case of not paying attention to or seeking out the information that is available until they find themselves in a situation where it effects them.

Doula, we have to remember here that we are dealing with cultures that we do not personally identify with. Many countries are "no sex" countries and this is taboo.

True... hopefully, since she has access to the internet, she will search out resources that may be available to her online to gain more information, as she has with this site, if they are not easily available from other sources.

It's sad but even here in Canada and in the US some people really don't believe that it's necessary to educate their children about sex.

I have a friend who is totally against talking to his son about sex. His son is 11, my 10 year old knows more at this point because I've made sure of it.

My friend believes in letting them "be kids" they'll figure out the rest on their own. Ahhhh, it makes me want to scream.

I think that if he spent one day on AMHD answering sex questions he'd change his tune. Figure it out himself? When? When he gets someone pregnant or gets and STD? There are some lessons you only get one shot at, sex is one of them!

We do have sex ed in our schools, they start in grade 4 with general health, info about their bodies. I've been talking to my kids about this since they were old enough to understand english. If you make it an every day thing then there's no need for "the talk" because you've been talking about it all along.

It's mind boggling to think of all the kids out there that have to learn on their own. :(

How come when he comes inside of me as soon as he pulls it out the come runs out, I can't even make it to the bathroom. Is there something wrong with me>

How come when he comes inside of me as soon as he pulls it out the come runs out, I can't even make it to the bathroom. Is there something wrong with me>

It is perfectly normal to have some (may seem like quite a bit) leak back out... rest assured, plenty has remained. If it causes you concern, some women prefer to stay lying down for awhile afterwards.

Keep a towel by the bed.

Okay here my question: Female to Female

Is it self conscienciousness that causes women to feel like their vaginal odor is extremely strong? Not bad smelling but strong smelling. Do other women feel this way?

I do. But for some men it's a turn on too. It also depends on how strong it is too. I like to keep cleansing wipes in my purse for when I'm not too 'fresh'

My boyfriend loves it, I love the smell, but just seems strong... LOL. Just wondered if it self-conscienciousness that makes other women feel that way too.

Okay here my question: Female to Female

Is it self conscienciousness that causes women to feel like their vaginal odor is extremely strong? Not bad smelling but strong smelling. Do other women feel this way?

You're not alone Justy, I feel the same way, but hubby doesn't, he thinks it smells great. TMI? ;)

Probably, I mean if your armpits smelled strong you would be self conscious right? I think it is just whether you like to smell good or not! I personally don't like it when I smell strong but he does. Pheromones... lol!

Just checking... Glad to know I am not solo.

Heck no Alty, this thread is TMI! Ha ha
I missed you girl! What's been happening?

Christmas has been happening, and it's driving me nuts. ;)

I'll catch up with you on the Island thread, or the rant thread, don't want to hiijack this one. ;)

Just checking... Glad to know I am not solo.

Nope, you're not alone. It's our natural odor, there's no getting rid of it completely and the men seem to like it. Myself, I can do without it sometimes, but I guess it is what it is. ;)

I was just wondering (I'm not sure if this belongs here) for those people who have those shower heads that you cannot like... move around, like it's mounted on the wall, how do you wash your genital area well? I always had the ones with the cords, but for those who don't.

Oh and also, you know when you put one of those pucks in your toilet bowl and the water turns blue? Well I had one of those and I was wondering if when you're urinating (or doing the other thing) and the toilet water sort of splashes onto your area, is it harmful in any way?

Is it possible for someone to be so ticklish that they cannot participate in any sexual activity because the touch would make them crack up?

Ok I may seem a bit naïve when I ask this but all well.

Is it normal to not be able to orgasm at all with one person?

My last boyfriend was my first and the only one I'd ever had sex with. And I never orgasmed at all no matter how hard he tried. I felt like I would but it never came. But with my fiancé I did on the first try. He is only the second person I've ever had intercourse with.

The ability to orgasm for a female is based on a lot of different factors and it is very common to have difficulties at first because you are learning about your own body.

Some women never experience orgasm, and for others it's not possible during sex itself, but only with manual stimulation.

I have a question... I'm thinking that I already know the answer, but I'll ask for peace of mind anyway. I had an abortion on January 2 and started taking birth control on the following Sunday (Jan 4). I had sex with my husband the following wednesday(Jan 7), thursday(Jan 8), friday(Jan 9), and saturday(Jan 10). I was also taking the antibiotics given to me, but didn't completely finish them as I heard that it could mess around with the birth control. I know that the doctors say not to have sex until two weeks after, or even after the check-up.. but I did, obviously. I did use protection (condoms) most of the time, but one or two times we did not. I am freaking out, I know we should have been more responsible - but my husband left for the Marines and it's no excuse but I won't be seeing him for awhile. There's a huge chance I could be pregnant, isn't there?

My mother said if you don't have anything nice to say, you shouldn't say anything at all. I am retracting my previous statement

I have a question... I'm thinking that I already know the answer, but I'll ask for peace of mind anyway. I had an abortion on January 2 and started taking birth control on the following sunday (Jan 4). I had sex with my husband the following wednesday(Jan 7), thursday(Jan 8), friday(Jan 9), and saturday(Jan 10). I was also taking the antibiotics given to me, but didn't completely finish them as I heard that it could mess around with the birth control. I know that the doctors say not to have sex until two weeks after, or even after the check-up..but I did, obviously. I did use protection (condoms) most of the time, but one or two times we did not. I am freaking out, I know we should have been more responsible - but my husband left for the Marines and it's no excuse but I won't be seeing him for awhile. There's a huge chance I could be pregnant, isn't there?

I really don't want to answer this because I really can't be nice about this, I really can't.

You had an abortion, learned absolutely nothing, went home, had sex, not always protected and now you're worried you might be pregnant again? Of course you might be pregnant, sex=babies, if you didn't know that before, I'm telling you now.

Abortion should not be used as a form of birth control.

The only advice I can offer you is to have your tubes tied or for your husband to have a vasectomy, this will prevent pregnancy.

Huge chance?. no. A chance?. certainly.

More than likely you are not pregnant for several reasons. The very recent abortion... using condoms (at least most of the time)... starting the birth control pills (albeit for a short time)... and the fact that the odds of a couple getting pregnant who are actually trying in one cycle are low.

You will have to wait and see what happens. Not sure why you chose the pill when your husband was leaving so soon, but do be sure you are better prepared when he returns.

OK well I don't know if this is still opened so I will ask my question and if it doesn't get answered I guess its not opened anymore.

After my daugther was born I breast fed her for 8 months, until my milk dryed up. For about 5 months after I sometime got like clear discharge that came out of my nipple(kinda likeright before my milk came in when I was 35 weeks pregnant) After the 5 months nothing came out anymore. Its been about 10months since I had anything come out of my nipple. Now my husband and I are trying to conceive again and I noticed about 4 days ago I have the clearish discharge from nipple again! I don't know if its because I am pregnant because I didn't get this discharge stuff with my first daugther until I was at least 25 weeks pregnant! What is going on with my boobs?

I am sorry it was so long!

ok well i dont know if this is still opened so i will ask my question and if it doesnt get answered I guess its not opened anymore.

After my daugther was born I breast fed her for 8 months, til my milk dryed up. For about 5 months after I sometime got like clear discharge that came out of my nipple(kinda likeright before my milk came in when i was 35 wks pregnant) After the 5 months nothing came out anymore. Its been about 10months since I had anything come out of my nipple. Now my husband and I are trying to concieve again and I noticed about 4 days ago I have the clearish discharge from nipple again! I dont know if its because I am pregnant because I didnt get this discharge stuff with my first daugther until I was at least 25 wks pregnant! What is going on with my boobs?

I am sorry it was so long!

This could be caused by a number of things... infection, rise is prolactin hormone, and pregnancy, among some more serious concerns.

Usually this does not happen early in pregnancy, but it can. Please discuss your concerns with your doctor for a proper diagnosis.

WifeofMarine you make me very sad! Im not one to judge but how could you abort a child that you and your husband made together out of love? And DO NOT say because your husband is getting deployed because my husband is also a marine and he was gone for my first pregnancy! DO you know how many military wives do it without there husband?! Im sorry but HOW DARE YOU! SO you are right! Him leaving IS NO EXCUSE!

I have a lot of family that is actively in the military. And my cousins that are in are newlyweds. So hearing that you would do that is very upsetting to me. His leaving is no excuse and being a military wife you should know by now that there are others out there that do the same and many people who could be very helpful and supportive.

I also have a question. My friend came to me the other day with a question I had no answer to. She started her period on Saturday and had a decent regular flow the first day but since then it's only spotting. She and her husband have been trying to get pregnant for the past few months. And she wants to know if this is a sign that she is. She was really sad when a cheapy store bought test came back negative. Any ideas what could cause this?

My periods like that about twice a year and my tubes are tied and no possibility of getting pregnant, except by an act of God.

Being hopeful can cause women to look for a sign they are pregnant in anything, though more often they are not pregnant. All she can do is keeping hoping.

What are your chances of being pregnant if your boyfriend ejaculates in you 3 times in two days

It will depend on whether you are close to ovulation. If you are, the odds go up considerably. If you aren't, pregnancy won't happen.
Generally ovulation will happen about midcycle, but it can occur at anytime in a cycle... either on a regular basis, or as a fluke.
You can try a pregnancy test in a couple of weeks or wait until your next period is due and test at that time if need be.

Okay, I'll play along. Even though I know the answer, I know that others don't.

Does the pull out method work?

I'll even answer myself in the hopes that someone will get some much needed info.

No, the pull out method doesn't work, there are lots of sperm in pre-, and, like J9 said, all it takes is one sperm in order to fertilize an egg.

In other words, you're playing russian roullette, only instead of the gun only having one bullet, it's a six shooter with 5 bullets and only one missing. Odds are, you'll get hit!

There is no such thing as "safe sex" only "safer sex" so if you want to lower (not eliminate) the odds, use the pill and a condom. But realize, nothing is 100% effective other then abstinence. :)

Great idea for this board!! I am always amazed at the misinformation that is out there and I am 54 so I can only imagine how difficult it is for young child bearing women.
I never know how to answer the question of pre ejaculate because I have heard so many conflicting reports.The latest suggests there is not sperm in pre ejaculate.I will site


I certainly know that it is a common belief that pre-ejaculate has sperm in it, but examination of it in recent years has found that it has little to none. For years we were all taught that pregnancy could occur from any contact of the penis to the opening of the vagina, and we all live with that information today; even my colleagues on sexualhealth.com. Sexual Health Network - credentialed experts providing sexuality education from pleasure and orgasm to sexually transmitted diseases, sexual dysfunction, and sex and disability (http://www.sexualhealth.com/question.php?Action=read&question_id=2877)


n the "Journal of Assisted Reproduction Genetics, 2003 Apr;20(4):157-9. Zukerman asked "Does preejaculatory penile secretion originating from Cowper's gland contain sperm?" "Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology, Rabin Medical Center, Petah Tikva, Israel."

Their conclusion was "Preejaculatory fluid secreted at the tip of the urethra from Cowper's gland during sexual stimulation did not contain sperm and therefore cannot be responsible for pregnancies during coitus interruptus." You can't be more definitive than that.

Precum does not contain sperm UNLESS there was a previous ejaculation, then the sperm comes from semen still in the urethra.
Sexual Health - Men Forum - Recent studies no sperm In pre ejaculate (http://ehealthforum.com/health/topic122910.html)

There are many other reputable sites that confirm this latest research.So how do you answer this question?

What does cramping mean after unprotected sex and he ejaculates in you

What does cramping mean after unprotected sex and he ejaculates in you

Cramping can come from many things. It could be that he was a bit rough, you weren't wet enough, or could be residuals from an orgasm.

I do have to ask. Are you trying to conceive, because if you continue to have unprotected sex it will happen.

How old are you? Are you ready to be a mother, emotionally, physically and financially?

There are many other reputable sites that confirm this latest research.So how do you answer this question?


I would answer it by asking another question. Are they willing to take the chance? The main source of pre-ejaculate would likely not have sperm in it, however during increased arousal, this fluid can be combined with fluid with other glands (still just during a state of arousal), some that may indeed contain some sperm. It may be minuscule numbers, and it may not occur every time, but it is still possible.

Withdrawal method is fairly reliable when it is used correctly... albeit others are more effective. The problem often comes about when people get caught up in the moment and the withdrawl happens just late enough, even still before full ejaculation occurs. Most probably aren't even aware of it because they are focused on the big moment of release.

I would answer it by asking another question. Are they willing to take the chance? The main source of pre-ejaculate would likely not have sperm in it, however during increased arousal, this fluid can be combined with fluid with other glands (still just during a state of arousal), some that may indeed contain some sperm. It may be miniscule numbers, and it may not occur everytime, but it is still possible.

Withdrawal method is fairly reliable when it is used correctly....albeit others are more effective. The problem often comes about when people get caught up in the moment and the withdrawl happens just late enough, even still before full ejaculation occurs. Most probably aren't even aware of it because they are focused on the big moment of release.

Thank-you! I know being a child born in the 50's with the church saying no to any form of birth control,I had a lot of friends who were conceived the same as I .If it wasn't withdraw,it was the good old rhythm method.

Cramping can come from many things. It could be that he was a bit rough, you weren't wet enough, or could be residuals from an orgasm.

I do have to ask. Are you trying to conceive, because if you continue to have unprotected sex it will happen.

How old are you? Are you ready to be a mother, emotionally, physically and financially?

Im am 26 and yes I'm ready to be a mother emotionally physically and financially and I know that unprotected sex results can in a baby

Then why not get married to your boyfriend, start a family together, build a life with each other?

Do you two live together? Is he aware that you're trying to conceive? Does he want a baby? Is he ready?

There are so many factors to consider when bringing a child into this world. It's more than just wanting a child, it's being prepared to give over your life in order to raise a child.

I wish you luck. Take care.

Then why not get married to your boyfriend, start a family together, build a life with eachother?

Do you two live together? Is he aware that you're trying to conceive? Does he want a baby? Is he ready?

There are so many factors to consider when bringing a child into this world. It's more than just wanting a child, it's being prepared to give over your life in order to raise a child.

I wish you luck. Take care.

Yes we are engaged we have been together for nine yrs and we are trying to have a baby together so to answer your question yes he knows I am trying get pregnant and I know it not about wanting a baby its taking care of the baby its not about you anymore its nomore being selfish I know this and if I wasn't ready I wouldn't be trying to have a baby... im ready to start my family I graduates college with my masters so I know what I'm getting myself into I know being a parent is not a part time job and I'm ready to have start my family... I wait until 26 to try to get pregnant when most girls today are teen mothers

I wasn't trying to fight with you, just pointing some things out.

I have two kids, I had my first when I was 27, my hubby and I have been together since we were 19. Being a parent is the hardest job I've ever had, and I've had some pretty hard jobs. ;)

I wish you all the best in starting your family, I hope it works out for you.

Good luck.

I wasn't trying to fight either but thanks I didn't no what the cramping meant

If you can ask anything, can anyone on here please look at my question, I'm wondering if I'm pregnant or not, my doctor said if he had to bet on it, he would bet I am, but my home tests and urine at the doctors have come bk negative yet I have all the symptoms and I'm just fed up off the not knowing. Forgot to say the doctor said I'm seven weeks gone, my mums didn't show up until after she was two months. Anyway my question is entitled doctor thinks I'm pregnant, negatice tests. Its under louise1200. If anyone that knows about pregnancy could answer it I would be very greatfull, if I am then this is my first. Thank you.

Louise, I'd love to be able to say "yes you are or no you're not" but I can't. I read your question, I think your best bet is to get the blood work done, wait for the results and go from there.

You're under a doctors care, even he can't say with 100% accuracy that you are.

Sadly I think you'll have to play the waiting game. Some women don't ever get a positive response on a home pregnancy test, for others it shows up instantly, and others, like your mom, don't get a positive until 2 months or more into their pregnancy.

Get the blood test, let us know the results. I wish we could give you an answer now, but that simply isn't in our power. Sorry.

Good luck.

That's OK, thank you anyway, its just I was worried I might be pregnant last yr, but it was just because my period was late, this time I've nearly skipped two and its completely different. My own cousin thinks I am, she felt my stomach and looked at my boobs for me, I'm cool with it either way, but it would be nice if I am. But really thank you, its nice to know sumone answers my questions lol, x

Hi I'm 26 year old and I had my period the first week of feb... I had unprotected sex on the 18 and the 19 and now its almost a week and a half later and I have cramps what does it mean

Since you are not far from when your next period would be due, it could just be signs that your body is getting ready to start a period. Many women will find the premenstrual symptoms are very much like signs of early pregnancy. Some women will be expecting their period anyday, feeling like they are about to start, only to find out they are pregnant when their period doesn't show up.
See what happens when your period is due.

Is there a chance that I could be pergnant

If the sex was right around the time of ovulation, then yes, you could be pregnant. If you happened to ovulate say on the 12th, for example, then no as your egg is only able to be fertilized in the first 12-24 hours after it is released. Best chances of getting pregnant are to have the sperm, which can live a few days prior to ovulation, ready and waiting.
There is actually a pretty small window of time each month a woman can become pregnant.

Thank you sorry for so many question but my period is suppose to come next week when will b the best time to test

Best time would be if your period doesn't show up. Some women do get accurate results a few days before their period is due, but the accuracy increases if you wait several days later.

I have got too questions for you...

Do u know anything about the metal rod birthcontrol that stays in for 3 years? I am going to see a gynocologist in 2 months and I am not too sure if it is a safe thing to do.


How do u like being a nurse? I am currently in school in process of becoming one. Any encouraging advice?

I have got too questions for you...

Do u know anything about the metal rod birthcontrol that stays in for 3 years? I am going to see a gynocologist in 2 months and i am not too sure if it is a safe thing to do.


How do u like being a nurse? I am currently in school in process of becoming one. Any encouraging advice?

I'm sorry, I don't think I've ever heard of the metal rod. Is this implanted in the uterus similar to and IUD or is this a contraceptive implant usually implanted in the underside of the arm?

I LOVE being a nurse.

Words of advice: There is a light at the tunnel and it is NOT a train. :p

Even if you get a C on a test or for the semester, C means CONTINUE.

And

Study HARD!!

its inserted on the undereside of the arm

Me mom is becoming an RPN but I want to become and RN. Thank you though hat was very helpful.=)

Hi I'm new and I have a question I'm 28 yr old and trying to have a baby on feb 18 and 19 I had sex unprotected and again on the 22 my period was in the beginning of the month I also had sex on the 28 all of these time my fiancé ejaculated in me and my period came on march 3 is there still a chance of pregnancy

Period pretty typically = not pregnant.

It is VERY rare that someone is pregnant and is still menstrating.

How long does sperm stay in the body? According to my ovulation calendar. My fertile days were Feb 24th -27th. I think I ovulated on the 28th. I heard its best to have sex before ovulation. We did on the 25th. And again on the 28th. Is it a chance that the sperm from that day stayed till the 28th? I never paid attention to signs of ovulation and sorry to admit I'm still not 100 % when I do. I said I did the 28th because I had discharge. I only had that once the whole day. Another embarrassing question I have is Is ovulation and all day thing or a few hours? Yes I do have 3 children but again I never looked into how the whole process work until now. Sorry this post is long. Please forgive me.

Firstly let me say that your purple color is very pretty, but it makes it harder for us older folks to read.

Now, healthy sperm can last in the body for up to 5 days. As for ovulation, the egg is only viable for fertilization for a 24 hour period.

I'm sorry about the color. Thank you for your response.

Okay this one is Just out of curiosity. I have a friend who had a tubule ligation when she was younger. She wasn't supposed to be able to have children but she now has 2. I was just wondering what the odds were that would happen to someone else who has had this procedure.

It will depend on how it was done. Some will have an extremely low failure rate, less than 1%... others will be higher, roughly 3-5%. Most women will find a tubal ligation is a permanent form of birth control.

Okay this one is Just out of curiosity. I have a friend who had a tubule ligation when she was younger. She wasn't supposed to be able to have children but she now has 2. I was just wondering what the odds were that would happen to someone else who has had this procedure.

Are you sure she had a tubal before having any children? Most doctors will not do this until a woman has had at least 2 children.

Yes I am sure she had it done. She was in her 20's when she had it done because she didn't want to be a mother at that time. And now with her two little ones she says she wouldn't change it for the world. But she told me that 2 years after her tubal she got pregnant with her little girl. And 3 years after having her little girl she got pregnant with her son. I was with her in the doctors office when she went in and found out she was pregnant with her son and he said for her having a tubal she shouldn't have had the first one let alone be pregnant with the second. She has lived in the same town her whole life so I am inclined to believe her medical records are correct.

Also, My sister has had 3 kids and because she is in her early 20's they said they would not do one for her because of her young age. Also they said it was because she may desided later on in life to have more kids. I don't know how accurat that is either because as I said my friend was in her 20's when she had hers done. But then again she is in her late 30's now so things may have changed

So I know there are hundreds of questions from women who are trying to 'read the signs' and figure out what everything means... I'd like to add another one! I'm 25, healthy, no previous pregnancies, and am in a long-term relationship with my fiancé. I've been taking the pill almost continuously since I was 18 but have recently experienced a change in my period. For the past several months it has been starting later and later (once I take the last 'real' pill, it normally starts within 2 - 3 days) but now it's been gradually starting later. Last month (middle of my cycle) my fiancé and I had sex and a few days afterwards I began spotting light-brown discharge for a few days then it stopped. I was supposed to start my period on Sunday (but didn't and it's now Thursday) and this afternoon I noticed a very bright pinkish/light red discharge but only briefly and nothing more. I am wondering if it's normal to suddenly have a change in my period these past several months (after years of the same) and then if the current lack-of-period could be indicative of a pregnancy? Or something else? Last pap was normal (less than a year ago) but the changes concern me. I'm supposed to re-start taking the 'real' pill tomorrow but I'll take a pregnancy test if there's still no period by then. Sorry for the long question: I'm just looking for reassurance that this is normal or whether it could be indicative of something else! Thanks in advance!

Pregnancy is possible as no contraception is 100% effective.

Thee are also a lot of other things that could cause what you are experiencing.
Head to your doctor and get a blood test done to confirm whether you are pregnant.
Ask him if you can be changed to a different pill...
I had to do this as after 3 years of being on the same pill my cycle started going out of whack, I would get my period in the middle of the 'real' pills but it would only be a brown discharge...
Contraception chaged, now I have no problems... :)

OK!

Sooo.. about a week and a half ago, my boyfriend and I had unprotected sex, however it was very short and he didn't ejaculate and he has NEVER had precum before. My period came right on time (seven days later) but it was dark red and brown. I usually have cramps and it is heavy when it starts but this time it's light (doesn't fill up a tampon completely) and it's not red anymore (it's the third day).

I have been under A LOT of stress, so I don't know if that could affect it this much but I'm hoping that I am not pregnant, since it is brown (I heard brown spotting means that I could be pregnant).

Stress can effect your flow but even if he did not come when you had sex there is still a chance of pregnancy. How do you know he has never had precum? You can't exactly see it when it is inside you.

Wait until your next period would be due and if it does not come take a pregnancy test using first morning urine.

Always use protection.

Well, he has never had it before. Why would he have it now?
And yeah I know I can't see what's going on while he is inside of me but we only did anything for like 3mins and he kept taking it out just to be sure..

How do you know he never "had it before" Preejaculate is present whenever a man is aroused. It is the male form of lubrication and does contain sperm.

That's the sad thing. Birth control pills give a false sense of security, 98.7% effective, well, that's not 100%.

I have a friend who has endomitriosis, one ovary, polysystic ovarian disease and many other health problems. She was told she'd never have children but her and her boyfriend tried anyway, they had two, the doctor said they were lucky.

Well, her boyfriend (soon to be hubby) was due to go in for a vasectomy, they decided two was enough, but until the procedure, she went on the pill and they used condoms. Guess what, she's now pregnant with her third, due in January.

In other words, if you're relying on birth control, you're putting your faith in something that isn't always effective, it's still very possible to get pregnant.

Abstinence is the only thing that works 100%, I doubt that they'll ever come up with a fool proof pill or other form of contraceptive, and even if they do, there's still human error.

Bottom line, don't want a baby, don't have sex. Also, STD's are always a possibility, even when you use a condom, condoms aren't anywhere near 100% effective and the chance of human error is even higher. Most people don't use condoms correctly, even if they did there's still a chance of failure.
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Wow I had no idea that would be possible. I'm 21 and my ex said the doctors told her her overies were kinda small and I have been in many fites and hit in the balls so I rarely used a condom for 5 years. Thank you for the advice my eyes are very wide lol. I like all you have to say, you'r very interesting to read.

21Male. I'd love to read your post, sadly the red is way too hard on the eyes.

Most people will just pass your posts by. Reading shouldn't hurt. ;)

Please post in black.

Thank you.

This thread is a great idea. Many people don't know about sexual issues.

I think some things are different for different people.

My husband and I have unprotected sex (I cannot take any form of pill/implent etc etc) and we don't like condoms. We use the pull out method (he is exceptionally skilled ;) ) and we have never been pregnant. Not ever, not once.

I always thought it was very easy to become pregnant, but I guess that is not alwas the case.

I myself would love a child, but we are waiting a little bit longer for various reasons.

Has anyone else experienced the same thing? I.e unprotected sex with the pull out method for years, and no pregnancy?

And if that is too general a question - has anyone gotten pregnant while using the pull-out method? (on here, I mean).

What are some of the main symptons for being pregnant?

What are some of the main symptons for being pregnant?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/pregnancy-new-motherhood/am-pregnant-read-before-asking-26487.html

I've seen this brought up a lot on these forums, so I had to ask. What happens if two people, both underage, have sex and someone actually decides to prosecute?

I know about statutory rape (consentual sex between a minor and someone of legal age), but I have never heard of two people (say both 15 or both 16) being punished for having sex.

Also, isn't there a grace period or leeway of sorts where someone of legal age can have sex with someone underage--as long as there is only like a year or two difference between the two people?

Am I wrong?


P.S. I'm 18, so this does not apply to me anymore. I'm also not saying I condone or condemn underage sex.

Thanks.

I lost my birth control packet so I haven't been on it for a couple of weeks. I ended up having sex with a close guy friend, actually I made him wear a condom when I gave him head and then a new one when we had sex because I wanted to make sure we were safe. It got kind of awkward so in the middle we kind of just stopped and I put my clothes back on. So there was no ejaculation. This was on Wednesday (yes I realize it was only two days ago) but the thing is I should have started my period already. Instead I had this weird brownish red colored discharge. I had some cramps and my body acted like I was going to get my period but I haven't.
Is it possible that the pre ejaculation fluids could have gotten me pregnant even using a condom?
Also if I don't get my period soon when should I test?
If I am pregnant could my antidepressants or my ritilan hurt the baby? Should I stop taking these?

Yes, there is a possibility you could be pregnant, you are having sex, the only fool-proof way to not get pregnant is abstinance.
It's not terribly likely that you are pregnant but I would give it a few more days and then try a pregnancy test if you haven't started.
The brownish discharge is probably the beginning of your period, so only time will tell. Your body could also be off schedule since you haven't taken your birth control in a couple of weeks.

Only a few days? It will pick up by then?

Try a week, if you feel a few days are too soon.

Depending on your schedule some pregnancy tests can tell you as early as your missed period.

Unlikely that you are but like Justy said, any time you have sex there's a chance of pregnancy.

If you only had sex 2 days ago then it's way too early to test. I'm going to go out on a limb and say that you're probably just having an off month, but that's just a guess.

As for your medication, I don't know about Ritalin but the anti-depressants, it depends on what kind you're using. If you are pregnant then it's best to see your doctor right away because of these medications, so you can determine the best way to proceed.

Good luck.

Thank you! I will post what happens :)

Oh and the antidepressant is zoloft

I got my period.
Thank you for the answers :-)

Hey most of u girls out there if u are sexuly active I need help can you go to my profile and anweser the only queston on thr thanks

hey most of u girls out there if u are sexuly active i need help can you go to my profile and anweser the only queston on thr thnx

If it's a question about sex then be forewarned, you must be 18 or over to post in the sexuality forum, and we will not give sexual advice to anyone under 18.

Considering your use of chat speak (which is against the rules of this site) I'm going to guess that you're under 18.

Three years ago I uneducatedly used something for masturbation that I shouldn't have and it cut me pretty bad.. and not "reg" masturbation but the OTHER area.. I'm kind of worried now about infection/cuts should I go to the doctor, what would I say?

That was 3 years ago. Nothing to worry about now.

Ok I hope I don't sound uneducated.

I am on the contraceptive pill, have been for 5 years. I'm 23 and engaged.
When I was 18 I got pregnant while on the pill and using condoms, but had a miscarriage - that was with a previous partner.

I always take my pill on time, but I missed it on Friday - (which would have been the first day of my ovulation cycle) then had sex with no condom a few times over the weekend and during the week since, during the time I would have been ovulating.

I know it's a waiting game really, but I would like to know the chances of being pregnant? Even though I resumed taking my pill?
I wasn't planning a baby, but now my fiancé and I have talked about the fact that there is a chance I might be, we're both excited - but don't want to build our hopes up just in case.

JayJay, there's no way to predict this. I can't even give you reliable odds.

The pill is supposed to suppress ovulation but missing one can really mess that up. You definitely increased the odds by not using a condom as well.

Really, it's a waiting game. There's a chance at pregnancy but that true even if you take your pill religiously and use a condom every time.

You'll have to wait and see.

Thanks.
I'll have to wait until 2010 to see if I am lol.
Soooo long!

I am 17 days late for my period I have taken 2 pregnancy tests one when I was 3 days late and another when I was 12 days late and they both came back negative I spotted one time after having sex but I haven't since then.I have been nausea and for a week or so I would feel really hungry but then I would go to eat and I would only eat a couple bites. Earlier today I kind of felt like I was getting a urinary tract infection but right now I don't feel like that I am supposed to go to the doctor sometime next week but I really need to know. Please help mee!

i am 17 days late for my period i have taken 2 pregnancy tests one when i was 3 days late and another when i was 12 days late and they both came back negative i spotted one time after having sex but i haven't since then.I have been nausea and for a week or so i would feel really hungry but then i would go to eat and i would only eat a couple bites. Earlier today i kinda felt like i was getting a urinary tract infection but right now i don't feel like that i am supposed to go to the doctor sometime next week but i really need to know. Please help mee!!

There's really nothing we can help you with. If you are pregnant then the only way to know is to get a positive pregnancy test, be it with a home test kit or at the doctors office.

The symptoms you're describing can possibly be something else. All women miss a period at least once in their lives without being pregnant. It's a stressful time of year, stress can cause a missed period. Diet change, exercise, illness, all can have an effect on your period.

It's also cold and flu season.

Not all women get a positive result right away. It depends on your HCG levels, if you are in fact pregnant.

Wait another week and then test again, or go to your doctor.

Good luck.

Well this thread died. Hi Alty! *waves*
Anyway, here's one for the women who are already very pregnant (like me, at 37 weeks).

Last night at work I stood up from my chair and my hip felt like someone was trying to pull my leg out of the socket. When I went in for my doc appointment today she examined my leg and told me it was most likely from the hormones my body is releasing to prepare for birth. Now, my question is... after I got home, I went to walk to the bathroom (for the 50th time in an hour) and EVERYTHING in my nether regions hurt. I was just wondering if this could be more of the same thing with my hip/pelvic region, or if it could be because my mini me is head down and knocking to be let out of her cage. I was 1 cm dialated 2 weeks ago.

Likely the pain when you got up was from the hormone relaxin and ligaments stretching. Relaxin does exactly what it sounds like... this can cause hip/pelvic/leg/lower back/etc. pain as the joints in the pelvis become more loose.

It is not uncommon for women to feel more pelvic pressure/pain towards the end of pregnancy... again part of the body preparing for birth as baby moves down farther. (some women say they feel as though the baby is about to fall out!) If you have one, sitting on a birth ball may help as this provides some counter pressure. It can also help with any hip and back pain and is great during labor too.

Of course always check back with your doctor if it becomes very painful or causes you concern. Not much longer!

Lol yeah, She rotated my leg until I felt like a pretzel and I had no pain, but oh buddy, as soon as I walk and put pressure on it, I want to scream. I was thinking that that's what it was. Yup... not much longer. I already threatened my poor husband that next time, he better not get me pregnant in the fall cause this has been one miserable summer. Go figure, last year we had 1 frickin day of hot weather and the rest of the summer was spring like weather but this year when I'm carrying an extra 23 pounds, it's been near 90 nearly every day, and that isn't including the humidity (and me, being the genius that I am, live in a house that has a lake in front and a swamp in back)

You must be in the south... :) Two of my pregnancies were in the southwest during summer, but they say it's a dry heat! HA! You might also find using a belly band for support helps... worth a try. Try to stay cool!

Oh I remember that time. Don't remember it with fondness either. ;)

Chameleon, you're at the "I'd rip off my own arm to get this baby out" stage. Thankfully the end is in sight. :)

I had both of my kids in the fall, gained 80 pounds with both, and the summer I was pregnant with my son was El Nino. Over 35 degrees every freaking day! I was ready to kill someone.

This too shall pass. Get your rest, get hubby to buy an air conditioner, he'll do it if he doesn't want to lose a limb. ;)

Doula- depends on your definition of south. I live in Indiana and nope. It isn't a dry heat lol.

Alty-no not quite to that stage yet. I'm 37 weeks and I'm measuring at 36 but the dr didn't seem too concerned since I'm only 1cm off on my measurments. So far I've only gained 23 pounds but since my meddling husband talked to the nurse before I got in the room, I am now on light duty at work, so that will probably change. Yeah when we moved out our old house our central air unit moved with us, or I'd be more miserable than I am now lol.

This is why they say it only takes once to get pregnant. I had my period on my 5 year wedding anniversary and had sex only once that month (hubby was gone a lot) and tested positive on 2 different HPT 3 days after Thanksgiving, not even a full month later lol. Didn't even take the 3 minutes. It was showing a blue line before I was even done actully taking the test.

Ugghhh... I wish the docs would get together and STOP measuring after a certain date. It really scares some women when they hear that the dates and measurements don't match up.

Measuring past a particular point is actually pretty pointless as the measurements aren't nearly as accurate as they are in early pregnancy.

Grrr, I never measure my patients. I always go by the LMP and the ultrasound report. We don't even get measurements in the copies of our prenatal records the docs send over.

Oh, oops sorry, went off on a tangent there.

Chameleon, if you came to my department today, at 37 weeks, I wouldn't stop your labor! ;) You're closer to full term than the 34 week baby I have in the nursery tonight.

Lol I don't think she will either since I'm due August 13th, which doesn't make sense to me. By a calendar, I only have about 2 1/2 weeks left. By the pregnancy calendar I'm 37 weeks, so wouldn't that mean I have 5 weeks left? I'm soooo confuzzled...

Anyway, I digress... I don't think she would stop my labor, but she also said she will not induce labor before 39 weeks... which is fine. I don't want to have to look at a calendar and go "Oh gee....that day right there is the day I chose to put myself in agonizing pain".

Speaking of birth control... I've been told (and personally I wouldn't want to risk it) that breast feeding is a natural form of birth control... fact or fiction?

Breastfeeding is a good form of contraception, but only when it is exclusive and frequent... no supplementing. As with any other form of contraception, it is not 100% effective, but it is high up there until you start spacing out feeds or supplementing.

If you want to increase the odds of not becoming pregnant sooner than you would like to, use another form along with the breastfeeding. Definitely use something else in conjunction with it if you start to supplement and/or when feedings start to become spaced out more.

Some women will find it works well for them for quite some time, others become pregnant sooner then they had planned to... again, like any other form of contraception... :)

Lol I don't think she will either since I'm due August 13th, which doesn't make sense to me. By a calendar, I only have about 2 1/2 weeks left. By the pregnancy calendar I'm 37 weeks, so wouldn't that mean I have 5 weeks left? I'm soooo confuzzled...

My handy dandy Similac Advance Gestation Wheel, the same one the doctors use, put you are 37 weeks and 4 days if your due date is August 13. ;)


she also said she will not induce labor before 39 weeks...which is fine. All facilities have a policy as to when they will let a doctor induce. For some it's 38 weeks, others 39. However, we are allowed to augment your labor should you come in laboring. The definition of labor, in simple layman's terms, is when you are 4cm dilated and having active cervical changing contractions. This is when we admit you to have your baby no matter how far along you are.



Speaking of birth control....I've been told (and personally I wouldn't want to risk it) that breast feeding is a natural form of birth control...fact or fiction?

As Doula has stated, it is a rather reliable method of birth control, but nothing is 100% effective. There are 365 days in a year... my grandchildren are 349 days apart. My DIL was exclusively breast feeding. ;)

Lol I was already considering an alternative form of because... like maybe abstinence. J/k.

If thinking hormonal type birth control, the mini-pill works well for many women and less chance of issues with milk supply.

If thinking hormonal type birth control, the mini-pill works well for many women and less chance of issues with milk supply.

Lol actually, we'll probably go back to what we did before we decided to try (well, he tried.. I just didn't prevent)... condoms. Then after the second one, we're done. I'll have 2 and he'll have 3, so a certain someone will be getting a vasectomy (yeah, he already knows this).

I just got a phamplet from the Dr on all methods of because, and according to that the withdrawal (pullout) method is 70%

I just got a phamplet from the Dr on all methods of bc, and according to that the withdrawal (pullout) method is 70%

IF used correctly and it takes a LOT of practice to use correctly. A man also must know his body VERY well.

I just got a phamplet from the Dr on all methods of bc, and according to that the withdrawal (pullout) method is 70%

If someone put a gun to your head and said "there's only a 30% chance you'll get shot", would you tell them to go for it? I wouldn't. :rolleyes:

To ask this question, I have to play a roll:
Boy: why won't you have sex with me?
Girl: I am scared
Boy: Don't you trust me?
Girl: yes but I don't want to get pregnant
Boy: we can use a condom
Girl: but Im not ready
Boy: don't you love me?
Girl: yes, but I'm just not ready
Boy: what's not to be ready about? I love you, you love me...

What should the girls answer be?

The breastfeeding form of contraception I think is less effective than effective. A few of my friends tried this method and became pregnant within 10 to 20 weeks after giving birth exclusively breastfeeding. Maybe the withdraw combined with breastfeeding would be 99% effective.

to ask this question, I have to play a roll:
boy: why won't you have sex with me?
girl: I am scared
boy: Don't you trust me?
girl: yes but I don't want to get pregnant
boy: we can use a condom
girl: but Im not ready
boy: don't you love me?
girl: yes, but I'm just not ready
boy: whats not to be ready about? I love you, you love me...

what should the girls answer be?

The girl's answer should be "If you love me, then you would respect my decision to stay a virgin until I am ready."

I like that answer. My 13 year old daughter told me this last night. She hasn't talked to this boy since he brought that up. I hope she's not ready until she's 40 lol.

She's 13! Wow, as a mother I would be forbidding her to see him AND my husband would probably be on the phone to his parents!

My 17 year old still says she's not ready.

>>>>>>the breastfeeding form of contraception I think is less effective than effective. A few of my friends tried this method and became pregnant within 10 to 20 weeks after giving birth exclusively breastfeeding. Maybe the withdraw combined with breastfeeding would be 99% effective.

Exclusive breastfeeding is actually one of the most effective means of birthcontrol... but the key is in it being exclusive and frequent.

Fertility may return for some women as soon as a baby starts to spread out feeds on a regular basis... for others, not until more weaning and/or sleeping longer stretches has taken place.

I agree completely with J_9's comment regarding having sex when not ready. The "but we love each other" line is an old standing one to try and talk a girl into having sex when she is reluctant. Her response of "loving and respecting me enough to wait" is the way to go. If the guy balks, and does not respect that decision, he needs to be let go. I hope your daughter sees through this boy if he continues to try and talk her into it. Time to think with her head and not her heart.