KitKat85
Oct 14, 2008, 09:42 AM
Hi. I'm looking for any and all advice I can get. My fiancée proposed almost 2 months ago, right before he left for basic training for the army. We were going to tell my family about it over Christmas while he will be home, so that they can meet him first and feel a little less blindsided by it. But we realized a couple weeks ago that to get married after training but before any possible deployment, the wedding would have to be in March. And that would give the family only 2 and a half months notice if we told them in December. It would also mean that, since I'm way into the planning process already (I do NOT suggest planning a wedding in 6 months instead of 12), they would miss out on so much of it if I don't tell them soon. I really want them to be happy for me, because I'm so happy about it, and be involved in the whole thing. We are a pretty close family for the most part.
But they haven't met him, and now I need to tell them all by myself. We've been together for almost 2 years, and there have been several times I've asked my dad or aunt (kind of like adoptive mother) to come and meet him, go out to dinner with us or something, but they never took me up on it.
I'm really nervous to tell them about this without him here with me, but there's not much choice at this point. They need to know, and he can't be here. They are so overprotective though, and I'm afraid they will just pelt me with reasons (bad ones) that I shouldn't get married. I'm too young (im 23), I haven't finished school, (I will in December, long before the wedding), the army is a tough life (I know that but I want my life with him), I'm not thinking this through (I'm sure this is what I want), etc, etc.
Any advice on how to go about telling them? I'm telling my dad in person, but right now I'm leaning towards telling the rest on the phone so I can't have them all gang up on me.
Tips? Suggestions? Pleeeeease?
But they haven't met him, and now I need to tell them all by myself. We've been together for almost 2 years, and there have been several times I've asked my dad or aunt (kind of like adoptive mother) to come and meet him, go out to dinner with us or something, but they never took me up on it.
I'm really nervous to tell them about this without him here with me, but there's not much choice at this point. They need to know, and he can't be here. They are so overprotective though, and I'm afraid they will just pelt me with reasons (bad ones) that I shouldn't get married. I'm too young (im 23), I haven't finished school, (I will in December, long before the wedding), the army is a tough life (I know that but I want my life with him), I'm not thinking this through (I'm sure this is what I want), etc, etc.
Any advice on how to go about telling them? I'm telling my dad in person, but right now I'm leaning towards telling the rest on the phone so I can't have them all gang up on me.
Tips? Suggestions? Pleeeeease?