zooropa1985
Oct 1, 2008, 03:46 PM
Hey folks its me again.
Last time I was here I had recently got back together with my ex, she had cheated and broke up with me, I spent a good 9 weeks trying to win her back and eventually did.
Everything was great for the first couple of weeks, it was last old times but in the back of my mind there was something lingering. To put it simply I just didn't trust her anymore, something had changed and the relationship just didn't feel the same.
Eventually we broke it off and funny enough I was pretty fine with it. You see I realise now that when we lose someone we kind of think about all the good times and great things that you did with that person, you put them high up on a pedestal and they almost become god like if you will.
I did exactly that with my ex and when I got her back I was very dissapointed, it wasn't how I remembered it at all, or was it? You see because we think so highly off then when that leave we forget all the crap we went through in the first place with them, we crave that happiness again without realising that we were never that happy in the first place.
I firmly believe that second chances don't work because, at least in my own experience, we build up an image of an ex that just isn't the person that exists, so getting back together leads to disapointment.
Sorry to go on a little there but thought I would get some of my thoughts out.
Last time I was here I had recently got back together with my ex, she had cheated and broke up with me, I spent a good 9 weeks trying to win her back and eventually did.
Everything was great for the first couple of weeks, it was last old times but in the back of my mind there was something lingering. To put it simply I just didn't trust her anymore, something had changed and the relationship just didn't feel the same.
Eventually we broke it off and funny enough I was pretty fine with it. You see I realise now that when we lose someone we kind of think about all the good times and great things that you did with that person, you put them high up on a pedestal and they almost become god like if you will.
I did exactly that with my ex and when I got her back I was very dissapointed, it wasn't how I remembered it at all, or was it? You see because we think so highly off then when that leave we forget all the crap we went through in the first place with them, we crave that happiness again without realising that we were never that happy in the first place.
I firmly believe that second chances don't work because, at least in my own experience, we build up an image of an ex that just isn't the person that exists, so getting back together leads to disapointment.
Sorry to go on a little there but thought I would get some of my thoughts out.