n24dragon
Aug 12, 2008, 12:13 PM
We were together for 3 years before I decided to call off the wedding. Together 24/7 and very happy when it was just us. Outside forces kept interfering; we both knew he could make me happy, but he was just too selfish to put me before himself. Discussing my unhappiness just made him start to distance himself away from me. I felt he didn't love me and was just settling; thought he could be & deserved to be happier so I decided to let him go.
We had a hard time letting go afterwards, so we tried to work things out for another 2 years. Being separated, he decided to cheat on me twice with people he had no future with at all. I told him I didn't want to see him anymore after the third time. He ran into an old acquaintance (from 12 years ago) and decided to ask her to marry him after 2 weeks. He was telling everyone she was "The One". He went from trying to save to spending money he didn't have on her, withdrawing from his friends, publicly declaring his undying love for her, and mending fences with his family. People were concerned; he was acting like a crazy person.
It has been almost 6 months now, and we have not spoken. It has been difficult not talking to him everyday because he was my best friend, but the 2 years off-and-on made it much easier. I've been trying to "move on" & focus on just myself, which has been really good, but I still think of him. Now he is saying he's leaving her because he can't stop loving me. What?? My head says there cannot be a chance for us now; a normal human being would run in the opposite direction from him. I like doing my own thing now instead of putting up with empty promises from another. My heart says I should at least hear what he has to say; despite everything he is my soulmate, my heart. I've never felt comfortable with anyone else. But more importantly, I am afraid there is something seriously wrong with him? He's lied and cheated on women all his life. He's supposedly finally with the girl of his dreams & now he wants to leave her?. and come back to me?. a fourth time?!
We had a hard time letting go afterwards, so we tried to work things out for another 2 years. Being separated, he decided to cheat on me twice with people he had no future with at all. I told him I didn't want to see him anymore after the third time. He ran into an old acquaintance (from 12 years ago) and decided to ask her to marry him after 2 weeks. He was telling everyone she was "The One". He went from trying to save to spending money he didn't have on her, withdrawing from his friends, publicly declaring his undying love for her, and mending fences with his family. People were concerned; he was acting like a crazy person.
It has been almost 6 months now, and we have not spoken. It has been difficult not talking to him everyday because he was my best friend, but the 2 years off-and-on made it much easier. I've been trying to "move on" & focus on just myself, which has been really good, but I still think of him. Now he is saying he's leaving her because he can't stop loving me. What?? My head says there cannot be a chance for us now; a normal human being would run in the opposite direction from him. I like doing my own thing now instead of putting up with empty promises from another. My heart says I should at least hear what he has to say; despite everything he is my soulmate, my heart. I've never felt comfortable with anyone else. But more importantly, I am afraid there is something seriously wrong with him? He's lied and cheated on women all his life. He's supposedly finally with the girl of his dreams & now he wants to leave her?. and come back to me?. a fourth time?!